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Why are you having an affair?

I'd like to know why people have affairs. What causes people to stray?
A friend of a friend has just been caught having an affair. It's been going on for 5 years and her poor husband had no idea. He's lovely. He dotes on her and gives her everything she could possibly want and more.
It's come as such a shock to all of us and I can't understand it.
They look so happy together.

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Because I'm fly in fly out and here for a month.... it's just sex on tap and Iv never had a strong will.

I secretly like my double life too... at home I'm housewife prom and proper

At work I'm an easy lay and can have anywhere from2-7 guys on the go...

They've all mostly got families too so it's convenient

I'm the other woman. He absolutely loves his wife and the life they have together and I'm only for sexual gratification. I think he views his wife as his children's mother and that asking her to do the things he asks of me wouldn't be right for her.

I've stopped seeing him on the few occasions I've had a committed partner but have resumed our sex when single again. I'm independent financially, have had my children independently and don't want a partner but still want uncomplicated sex and he can deliver that.

It's been nearly 20 years since we first had sex and I've no doubt we'll be still having sex for another 20.

 Wow, really? You have been conned! Doesn’t want to ask the mother of his children to do the things he asks of you, what a load of bull. His poor wife, I feel sorry for her
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 What kind of kinky shit is he asking you to do that he wouldn’t ask his wife too?!
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I'm not. But if a rich man decided he wanted to be my sugar daddy (hahahahaha I'm a pregnant and overweight 6/10 at best) I'd be down for that. For the right amount I'd carry on an affair. But I'm pretty sure that's crossed the line into prostitution. Oh well. Maybe he could just pay me an exorbitant fee to hang out and be friends. Yeah, that's what I'm after. Like a sugar friend.

 Yep, I wouldn’t mind a sugar buddy either. I’m sure my husband would be fine with it if he got a new motorcycle or something 😂
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I had had my daughter about a year before I met him. I wasnt looking for an affair or to cheat but I was at a point where I wasnt feeling good about my self physically and I guess I was starving for attention. When we met we just kinda clicked and things happened. I figured it was a one time thing but he texted me and we started seeing each other on a regular basis.

 Did your partner find out? I've been having an affair for 3 months and keep thinking I need to end it but don't want to just yet.
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 There are times when I think "how does he not know!?" and other times when I honestly believe he has no clue. We've been very careful and I haven't given my husband too many reasons to question my faithfulness.
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I haven't cheated on my husband, I would like to think I never would. I had an affair when I was with my ex though, I loved the attention, the new butterflies feeling. Went on about 8 months. I lost interest though, even though I told him I would leave my partner for him, and just stopped contacting him, changed numbers, etc. At the time I felt guilty for the side piece and my partner at the time. Now it's so long ago, I don't care at all

I'm the other woman. He absolutely loves his wife and the life they have together and I'm only for sexual gratification. I think he views his wife as his children's mother and that asking her to do the things he asks of me wouldn't be right for her.

I've stopped seeing him on the few occasions I've had a committed partner but have resumed our sex when single again. I'm independent financially, have had my children independently and don't want a partner but still want uncomplicated sex and he can deliver that.

It's been nearly 20 years since we first had sex and I've no doubt we'll be still having sex for another 20.

It's because he works away. I've begged him to find another job but he won't. I'm basically a single mother when it comes to day to day life. So I met a neighbour who is in a similar situation

 Why not leave your husband and then spread your legs to your neighbour??
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