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I think you did the right thing by not smacking, that could have come back to bite you further down the track if any issues arise, leave that for the parents. I know its unacceptable behavior regardless but are you sure it was unprovoked? If you and other mum had to run then I'm guessing you weren't in earshot. Kids can say the cruelest things and I've spent 3 years working in a school and know that these 'random' attacks are usually provoked by some passive aggressive bully. Also when school goes back suggest he sees the school psych 😊
Where does he get the language from ? I know its everywhere but he's used it in the right context and for a kid that age to be saying it like that it must be built in to his language. Punish him, but please don't treat him like an animal. That is disgusting and I can't believe people think its ok to treat a child like that. Make it clear its the behavior you are disgusted with, not him. Random outbursts like that from an otherwise well behaved kid should have both patents worried and seeing a psych.
Jesus, you're lucky the other lady understood. I would have been horrified if I heard that come our of a little boys mouth. Where is he hearing these things???
Be firm and put your foot down. Don't give in to anything he wants and give him the cold shoulder until he gets rids of that bratty attitude!
I agree he's testing to see what he can get away with and at that age? Take everything away (tv, iPad, computer etc) and give him bread and water for meals and he can stay in his room until he shows remorse and tells you how he will properly handle it next time. If you back down down, he'll find other ways to get to you so be strong x
it sounds like there is something going on for him especially as this is out of character. Once things have settled please have a good chat with him about how he is.
Omg I am so horrified for you. If that was my step son, I would be taking away every single thing he owns and sitting him in a room with nothing until his father gets home to deal with him.
He has learnt that behaviour from somewhere is acceptable, so shaming him or beating him will teach him nothing.
Find some YouTube videos about kids that have been bullied, the ones that have their parents crying and so forth, and open his eyes to what behaviour like that does to people and that it's not ok. Ask him if somebody treated his mum/brother/sister like that how that would make him feel after.
I feel for you, tough situation!
He is testing you for sure. Deal with it exactly as you would deal with your own children if they had acted this way. He's in your family and in your care, his mother sounds reasonable and I'm sure will agree with how you choose to handle it.
Good luck step parenting can be so hard at times xx
what a little shit ....he need to be ignored and don't give him dessert or sweets and give him bread ( crust ) and water
If he wants to behave like an animal, treat him like one. He can eat his meals outside out of a doggy bowl (obviously clean it first) and he can receive no good boy benefits until he's ready to apologise to YOU for behaving like that while you're looking after him. If your kids are watching tv he can be outside or in his bedroom alone. He doesn't get to enjoy family time if he is going to behave that way.