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If you want to meet a decent guy with his life together, meet him somewhere you both have a similar interest. Dance class, Gym, Church, parenting social groups (through schools, counseling etc). Although there may be exceptions, Tinder is notorious for hookups - not permanent relationships.
Bless your hopeful heart. How I miss my days of optimism like you have now. Tinder for decent men and a relationship 😂😂😂
God eharmony is gross. It's all just gross I am on there now. To be honest, many of the guys on Tinder are on eharmony, RSVP, POF etc etc also. There are some new ones but I do in general see many of similar faces across the board. I'm in Brisbane. Tinder is a free version of what's out there LOL Yes there are one night stand guys, but you establish that pretty soon in the chat, or they often just have it on their profile OR you can tell by the dumb sleezy photo of their abs etc. lol
You might be one of the lucky ones. In my experience, I started on tinder very late 30s and now early 40s. I have friends who are in their late 20s and early 30s (mostly no kids) and I know of 5 successful matches, they will marry. In my age category I don't know anyone who has had a successful match, including myself. The men I've met and friends have met are looking to fill a void straight from a relationship or have been single a while because it's obvious that they are looking for a distraction or sex instead of a relationship. I find that women our age mostly take the time to get themselves straight, make sure to be their best selves. The men...rarely.
I've sat on many dates where all I've heard is hatred towards the mother of their children and after a few discreet questions I realise its not justified and that they don't have their own children a priority (a total turn off for me).
Anyway, I did meet a lovely guy, it's still early days but I met him through my hairdresser.
Dating was interesting, fun, frustrating, scary and an eye opener all at the same time. It made me look at what I deserve, who is a good match and what qualities Im looking for. Counselling made me look at myself and realise what needed to be worked on and what to try to be aware of in my next relationship. It also helped me bend the way I viewed myself.
Time and self love is a wonderful thing.