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Stupid fights that get you seeing red

So I'm a fairly reasonable calm person and hubby and I rarely fight and we're able to have discussions instead of things getting heated.

Except two things...
1) my extremely expensive shampoo and conditioner... so this is something I treat myself for... and it's REALLY expensive. And it's lasts a LONG time as I only use a small amount and I wash my hair maximum once a week sometime once a fortnight.
And my shampoo and condition run out at the same time- I'm anal about it.
He always fucking uses it after being told no for 14 years. HE HAS A SHAVED FUCKING HEAD. And you think he uses a small bit?!? NOPE
Hell give excuses but I know he sneaks It cos it smells nice ๐Ÿ˜ก

2) my razors... again fucking expensive. I have very fine very blonde body hair so I get away with infrequent shaving. A packet lasts me 6 months.
I'm anal about the care of them too to make them last.
I see red when I find them full of his black stubble ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก


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Next time the bottles are empty fill them with cheap stuff and leave them in the bathroom. Buy another razor identical to yours and leave that in the shower. Keep all your stuff hidden away so he can't use it. My daughter has a make up bag she carries to the bathroom so her step sister can't use her stuff (she also likes expensive stuff and pays for it herself). It saves the argument.

OP Lol I like the switching idea I already do hide my stuff but sometimes I forget on the odd occasion for one reason or another and he sees jackpot lol
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 My daughter never forgets as she gets so upset over it being used up. Unfortunately her step sister has no boundaries and takes a lot of her things when she is here. My daughter has a lock on her bedroom door for when her step sister is here.
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Yesssss stupid argument number 3510: PUT THE [email protected] LIDS BACK ON CONTAINERS OR I'LL PUNCH YOU IN THE FACE. The number of times I pick something up and the lids falls off or I drop it, or I shake the container and the lid is loose so the contents fo everywhere makes me lose my damn mind lol.
Lol I do love him, but gees he has annoying habits lol

 My hubby is the opposite. Does the lids up way too tight!
Got to love it when he's doing overtime, one of the kids has a temperature and I can't open the fu****g panadol bottle!

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You don't wash you hair for 2 weeks?๐Ÿ˜ฎ

OP Yep, it's healthy curly hair that gets compliments nearly every day lol
Frequent washing is terrible for your hair ... once you train your hair to not need a Wah dailt( frequent washing strips your hair of its natural nutrients and so it over conpensates)

I was every 1-2 weeks depending on how my hair is coping/ weather/ activities

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 Yay for infrequent hair washing. Mine only needs it about ever week and a half, depending on what I'm doing and the weather. My hair dresser says my hair is some of the healthiest she's seen.
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 So do you guys work out, walks, cook?? What about sweat, smells of food , your head? And doesn't it get itchy. I don't wash everyday, definitely at least every other day or 2.
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 Amen curly sister, I'm a once a week shampoo, but I condition every day.
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OP My hair responds to condition every 2 days... โœŠ๐Ÿฝ Solidarity curly hair sister lol ... you know!
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OP And to the question about what I do... I never used deodorant much in teens and now I really only wear it the day before I get my period and day 1-3 ... after that I don't smell... I'm not a huge sweater.
I have a pretty "clean" diet I think that help a lot with my natural smells...
mid week I often do a water wash only on the roots....
I mouiturise the ends daily.

First comment ...
I'm mixed so my hair is like the softness of white curls but the curl of Afro lol... with undertones of dryness.. I could tell you my exact Curly hair rating but it would fall on deaf ears to someone who is shocked I only wash every week or two (any curly haired person who understands their hair would laugh.) ...

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 Yassss. I have mass curls too and use expensive conditioner and only wash once every fortnight too! My scalp only gets itchy after a week of not brushing, but cos my hair and scalp are used to not being washed they cope just fine.
I lose my shitttt like a crazy person if anyone uses my conditioner too!

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 I have a friend who proudly tells me she hasn't washed her hair for 2 weeks when it looks smile) that's great...
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lately our stupid argument is about toilet paper. He thinks that I use too much and I should only be using 1 -2 squares each time. My argument is that he does not have a vagina, has no idea how much toilet paper it takes to dry it and until he does, don't bother telling me how much toilet paper I should use. And if he wants us to use less toilet paper then stop pissing on the seat so I have to wipe it each time before I can sit down. That would save a fair bit of toilet paper. For the record I use about 5 squares when I go to the toilet.

OP ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ see this is the type of fight I'm talking about that I was trying to find out about not a dissection of what I wrote lol

That's so silly but I can totally see how you'd both get angry over it haha

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 Give him a limit for toilet paper too ๐Ÿ˜‚
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 How long does it take to dry a vagina? ๐Ÿ˜ฎ
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 You dry your actual vagina? Like, shove the toilet paper up in there? ๐Ÿ˜ซ
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Just cleaning in general. My husband has never cleaned up after himself, he makes more mess then the kids. It drive s me bat shit crazy. He wouldn't know what housework was. I can count on one hand the amount of times he has done the dishes for me.

You are spending his money

 Haha this was my post, Iโ€™m the breadwinner ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ he works two nights a week for his ego thatโ€™s it.... my business supports our family lol.
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Pretty petty to get upset about. I don't know why you don't just tell him not to. At least you have a loving husband. Even if he is an idiot.

OP Umm the title of the post is stupid fights.
It's got nothing to do with being grateful I have a loving husband

The reason I get so mad is Iv told him for last 14 years. - which would asnswr "why don't I tell him no" lol (also in the original question lol)

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 Itโ€™s not petty to get upset over it when my husband is BALD and uses shampoo that costs $50 a bottle!
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OMG I nearly wrote the exact same post last week!! I have light blonde hair so habe to use very expensive shampoo (Olaplex) my husband uses it and he also has a freakin bald head!! I get soooo angry - then that silly bugger used my expensive pure Fiji skincare facial kit ๐Ÿ˜ญ
Iโ€™ve hidden EVERYTHING I donโ€™t want him using ๐Ÿ˜‚ itโ€™s all hidden between my clothes in the cupboard so I have to take everything out before every shower ๐Ÿ˜ก

Mine likes womens razors better. Maybe yours does too? Maybe ask him if he wants one as well?

OP Haha we've had this fight for years- I bought him his own he still uses mine, I hide them usually it's just a thing I'm really anal about I don't know why I always have been lol
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 It's a good thing to be anal about as you shouldn't be sharing razors ๐Ÿ˜‚
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OP That's the point too once he touches it it's ruined!!! But I get 3 goes out of it ...4 if we're broke and I need to make it last!!
I clean all my thin hair out and leave the shaver on the window sill to dry so there's no rust... he just throws it on the ground in a puddle full of black stubble ๐Ÿ˜ก

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OP Yes he does cos they are very expensive razors lol I told him to buy his own if he can afford them lol
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I feel for you! That sounds horrible, despite it being something small- their your things and that's just damn annoying to have to be on edge about something that you treasure.

My husband always gets angry at me because something isn't put back. It is so inconsiderate because I'm the main child raiser in our family and with two little ones my life is always full on. Recently it was that I put the last washing sponge in the dishwasher for a clean, he needed it and couldn't find it and it has resulted in a big argument. Previous to that it was that our remote control was under the couch and he couldn't find it in the evening. I should have bought a new cloth for sure, had I had a moment to do a proper shop! It' s just unfair that we dont work together better and I get blamed for it all. I wish I had a partner who was more proactive in working together like a roster system

 I swear men stick out their hands, shut their eyes, and if what they're "looking" for doesn't fall into their hands immediately then it's "lost" and everyone has to help find it
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 haha thanks for the feedback. I honestly thought it was only my husband like this! :)
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OP Haha that's something I would do I feel for yuh Hun
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 Mine sucks at finding anything. Will tell me he cant find it and ask for help but he doesnt blame me for him not finding it.

Is really annoying when i ask if hes looked somewhere he says yes and i go and find it there.

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 It's a well known genetic condition, passed on father to son on the Y chromosome. It's called Domestic Blindness
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OP Haha
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I have the same shampoo problem. No hair on his head yet my shampoos are empty. Like seriously, just wash your entire body with body wash ๐Ÿ˜

OP Omg yes I even have bought really nice manly smelling body washes, I usually hide my bottles but if I forget to take it out he uses them haha every time.. I know he probably just thinks "yes she's forgotton to hide them"
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We both have short fuses and get cranky easily but after weve both blown, within 5 minutes we are cuddly again with no hard feelings

OP Lol see I usually don't hold on to Anything- and we've had some huge obsticals in our relationship... but this one I just sit their fuming after I find it and it takes me days to be able to calmly say in a joking manner reminding him but sometimes I just can't cool it off over a few days lol
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