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Does PMS really affect woman to the point of being miserable all day/week?

Answered 30 days ago

I get it def affects mood and it’s highly uncomfortable, however my wife of 4 years lately seems this is an excuse to fully dive into misery. She used to be mossy during these times but not to the point she seemed unhappy with me. Now she becomes miserable and won’t talk to me gives me nasty attitude snaps at me and the kids over little things. I ask her if something more is going on she says no it’s juts my pms. I try to be patient with her yet she tells me things like “you clearly don’t know shit about woman and their bodies. I’m surprised you don’t know seeing as to how you been married before” I stay quiet but I e never met anyone who gets so miserable during pms. And like I said she wasn’t always like that. She says it depends It’s always different and my hormones are different it’s out of my control. So I’m asking here ladies how much of it does it really affect and how much of it can it be something else going on? It’s not like we have the best marriage we fight sooooo much al the time and now she is making way much more money and I can see it’s affecting her because I am not contributing as much as her. We have always gone half and half on everything and hep each other out...I asked her if this was it she keeps saying no yet she simply seems miserable lately here. Can’t help to feel she may want a different life where she doesn’t have to deal with a loser like me in her eyes. I don’t know what to do:(

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30 days ago
Reading your post, and all your responses, I don't think you really want our advice. I think you just want to vent. And that's fine. But, as others have suggested, perhaps talking with a professional would be in your best interest. They can help you untangle your thoughts and find solutions to problems that you may not even consider on your own. I don't know how to make your wife act less intense. Only she really knows what her deal is. Good luck to you regardless of which step you next take.

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30 days ago
Yes!

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1 month ago
As I've gotten older I've gotten crankier - even after having a hysterectomy. I'm bedridden for two days and am just angry at the world - then it passes and it's gone....

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1 month ago
No I don’t believe so not in my experience or with talking with friends we all believe it’s a load of crap and excuse to be shitty. Don’t get me wrong I get cramps and horrific too but doesn’t give you the right to be an ass

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1 month ago
Yes PMS can be that miserable for us.... I am on medication from my GP because of my PMS. I have to track my cycle and start taking the pills 2 - 3 days before I get PMS otherwise I become a totally different person, super angry, lose my shit, cry, debilitating headaches then 2 days into my period I come right again.

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1 month ago
I've just had a week of PMS and let me tell you, it's been a roller-coaster. I KNEW I was overreacting to some things but I just couldn't help being so angry! So much anger and resentment. Then, once that subsided, I was miserable. How could I let myself get so angry at my family? They're my whole world. The tears led to me trying to be more patient and calm, but that only lasted for so long. Then I was back to being irritated by so much stuff.
It was insane. I was tired and sore, and my husband wasn't treating me like the glorious bitch I am. The kids were being so noisy all the time. It was all very overwhelming.
Basically, it took all of my little emotions and amplified them into an angry response.

It sounds like you guys need a therapist.

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1 month ago
So, you are saying you go through these intense pms cycles as well and you go to therapy?

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1 month ago
I go through intense pms cycles, but I haven't been to therapy in months (although I will be scheduling an appointment soon). It sounds like YOU need therapy though mate. You seem to have some serious self esteem issues, and your partner should go too to learn better coping mechanisms and ways of communicating.

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1 month ago
How am i the one with self esteem issues? I said in her eyes because she has mentioned so much during our course of marriage of how i am not enough. There is alot you dont know so my question was directed at is it normal for woman to be this moody, miserable, sad, depressed during pms. I try to be there for her as best i can, i cook, i clean, i walk the dogs i work full time and then some myself. I simply feel it can be her demands and mood are overwhelming when she sinks into her pms.

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1 month ago
There is no 'normal.' It's different for everyone. She might be depressed or she might be outgrowing your relationship. Go to couples counselling.

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1 month ago
Sounds like you have mad insecurities, of course she wasn't like this 4 years ago just like you were probably a lot different in that stage of the relationship too, you probably had game, bought her flowers, gave her foot rubs, the way you brush your teeth wasn't annoying yet.. the honeymoon phase and hiding flaws is over my dude, welcome to real life where you have to work hard to keep the magic alive.

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1 month ago
I dont knwo why you assume i dont work hard at keeping our romance and magic alive, i completely understand that, i know marriages take work. But if i am asking here its because despite working at the things she needs from me this is starting to become overwhelming.

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1 month ago
I think you are putting up with a lot here. And you sound very understanding, more so than many men in your situation. Yes, PMS makes us miserable cows and we can’t help that. But we can help the way we behave. This happens every month, your wife knows this is going to happen every month. I think a visit to the GP might Be the first step here. You shouldn’t have to put up with that level of Seth. And she shouldn’t have to feel that miserable either.