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Are younger woman attracted to men in their 40's?

Answered 21 days ago

I am tall and have an athletic slim build and already have plenty of gray, makes me feel old but i prefer the natural look than to dye it. I dont consider myself ugly nor attractive just normal in my opinion. I juat turned 40 so im wondering sometimes i see very pretty woman that look like they are in their early 20's and i stop myself from asking them out as i feel like an old creep. Not looking for anything serious right now just date and enjoy being single after my divorce. My wife cheated on me with a younger man so def left a scar and an insecurity. He wasn't even in good shape just younger, i have a better build at my age than him but i guess youth played a part here, Among other things of course.

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21 days ago
Yes, sometimes they can be. Im 26 and I find men in their 60's really attractive

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21 days ago
In answer to your question - I’m 29 and find some men in their 40s attractive. It really depends on how much of a silver fox they are. I would never date anyone in their 40s, it’s personal preference but the age gap is too much. I find men closer to my age are more “house trained” and more likely to enjoy family time than my experience with older men.

With what you have written here though it sounds like you need to take care of yourself and look at ways to heal from what you went through with your wife. It sounds like she has knocked your self esteem by being with a younger man and you are looking at the quick fix of getting a young piece of eye candy to boost it again rather than put in work and get confidence in yourself that will last longer, rather than this short term fix. You might benefit from seeing a counsellor just to get ways to help you with that.

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21 days ago
Definitely - my husband (50s) is having an affair with a much younger woman.

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21 days ago
I wouldn't have been in my 20's, I don't think.
Now I'm in my 30's I find myself very attracted to men in their 40's and 50's.

But, you don't have to go out and find a young woman because your wife found a young man.
Go out there and make a connection with someone, find a person you can love and trust