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Does it really matter what my hobby is?

Answered 1 month ago

I enjoy reading and love an hour to myself on the weekend to sit with a cup of tea and a book. But no it's selfish and unfair to leave my husband with the kids. He plays sport and and apparently that is different, so I have joined a yoga class as that is an acceptable activity. The yoga class is in the cafe at the library, I am currently doing the reading pose and will for the next hour.

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1 month ago
Your *hobby* is whatever you enjoy and helps you relax. As long as it's not harmful to others, it should be fine.

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2 years ago
100 % acceptable. Need to come home with some “sweaty armpit marks on your activewear” to make more believable!

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2 years ago
I like to take time out with my iPad. I read articles or play games. My husband hates me being on the iPad. It’s ok for him to use his tho because he uses it to watch sports. He just doesn’t like me scrolling thru fb or generally just looking at stuff because he thinks it’s a waste of time. I have thought of pretending to sign up to an activity and just drive to the beach, sit in my car with a coffee and play my games.

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2 years ago
And you are with him because?

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2 years ago
I try not to be tit for tat but when it does come up I point out I’m not into playing sports with my friends we like to eat at different restaurants instead. He gets it.

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2 years ago
Haha the ‘reading pose’ now that sounds like my kind of yoga 🧘‍♀️
Shouldn’t matter what you do for your enjoyment and if it helps keep your sanity your husband should encourage you to have time out without the kids. I also think it’s really great for him to have time with the kids without you around. Dads have such a different relationship with their kids than us mums and I think sometimes us being around can dampen their style. Maybe suggest some specific dad and child only activities he could try to help him enjoy time with the kids instead of viewing it as a burden.

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2 years ago
You should be able to have time out to do what you want. I love your plan!

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2 years ago
Your hobby should be something that makes you happy and reading is a great one. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise and enjoy your downtime x