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So bored of "married sex"

Answered 5 days ago

I've been with my husband for 10 years, we have 3 kids.

Our sex life is SO BORING. Frequency is fine, but it is about as exciting as a bowl of soggy Wheat Bix. People suggest toys, new positions, dress ups... but it doesnt make a difference. Still ends up in the same old bed with the same old person with the same old routine.

Sometimes I get so jealous of my divorced friends who have multiple partners on the go...

But I guess thats just one of the trade offs for being in a safe and long term relationship.

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ANSWER
5 days ago
At least you have a sex life !!
My wife just does not want sex with me but I want to experiment it’s so fucking frustrating !! So I suppose she gets enough sex somewhere else ???

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5 days ago
In my situation, we only have sex about monthly. I am tired of initiating & either getting rejected, or he is only concerned about his orgasm. The foreplay is not great & he likes to receive oral, but rarely gives it. I want more & better sex. Although, he probably only thinks he gets neglected.

ANSWER
5 days ago
Try having sex in front of another couple. That certainly gave our sex life the spark it needed!

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8 days ago
It’s so hard, but the grass isn’t always greener.
Is he just not interested in doing anything differently?

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8 days ago
I know the grass isnt always greener, and we are both wanting things to be more exciting, but everythign just feels stale.

We do ok otherwise, and we have frequent sex, it just doesnt come with any fireworks...

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7 days ago
So change scerery, do it in the car. Out the back. Hell go to a motel and be adventurous. Let your imagination run wild. Shake things up new hair and personality. Get demanding girl.

ANSWER
8 days ago
Married 21 years with 4 kids. We went through that and decided to make some time for us. Date nights, hotels and vacations sans kids. Helped immensely.

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8 days ago
Did that stuff really help much? We enjoy the occasional date night - though havent had any overnighters or vacations without the kids - and it helps a bit, but the actual sex is always exactly the same!