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Says their just mates

Answered 1 month ago

My partner and I have had a rough relationship he has constantly text other girls throughout our relationship , I left him for the third time but he has managed to weasel his way back in again saying it’s different this time .

I looked at his phone bill and saw he had been calling someone a lot and for talking to them for an hour at a time , I confronted him and he told me who it was and that they are just mates promise (a girl from work) and now I don’t know what to do ? I do believe he loves me and he wants this relationship but I don’t know weather to believe there is nothing in it or not ?

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1 month ago
No, this is not okay! No matter how hard times get during a marriage, you don't go and speak to somebody who isn't your spouse. My husband recently did this and it tore me apart. 3 weeks of texts and calls but nothing further. But if I didn't catch him I often wonder. The fact you have left him 3 times and he's still doing shit, then don't stay if you don't have to. You deserve to be loved and by him. I wish you the best

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1 month ago
Sorry to be so blunt but he does not love you. When you love someone you don't go outside the relationship. He knows he can do it because you'll take him back. He may "weasled" his back in but you've allowed it 3 times.
Stop being a door mat!
You deserve to be someone's priority, not just their option.

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1 month ago
Leave and block himmen dont change they get more creative in their lies and betrayal. Better off walking away

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1 year ago
You do know what to do, love. This is repetitive behaviour. You know what's going to happen if you leave, then allow this parasite back.

Leave and move on.

I highly doubt there's a legitimate reason he needs to call someone from work for hours on end, AFTER spending all day with them as well.

Save up and either leave or kick him out.

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1 year ago
Considering your wording saying he 'managed to weasel his way back in again' that straight away puts negative vibes on your relationship. I think you know you shouldn't be with him. What advice would you give a friend in the same situation?

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1 year ago
If you can’t beat them join them. Have a look at AM there are plenty of guys looking to cheat.

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1 year ago
Oh man. This is in no way acceptable given your history. No way at all. Can you imagaine having cheated emotionally or whatever on your partner and then secretly having hour phone conversations with another male? Just mates?! It’s irrelevant? I am all for friendships with the other sex, but not like this. You’ve got too messed up with this guy, you’re the one who is in love with him and letting him do whatever. If he loved you he would be focusing on you, not having long conversations with others. I feel like there is little way of reasoning with you, you’re just going to get hurt and that’s sad.