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Over the SKids

Answered 3 days ago

I don’t like the step kids.
I’m trying but ...
(Yeah I can all see you rolling your eyes at the but lol)
... i have had to deal with their disrespectful, lack of manners and picky eating for years. The boy has this droning whiny voice like the BM. The girl is always having a vague attempt at manipulating - she’s 9 and she gets that from BM - can not just ask for something outright, has to talk around it and ask around it, never just saying “hey can I have an apple” always ..”I saw you bought apples today at the store *long pause inserted here where she glares at me (which I just ignore now)*” or my personal fave “those apples look really yummy *insert same stupid long gaze (I also ignore)*”. Just ask the fucking question for fucks sake!
The boy had meltdowns over the most ridiculous shit - BM didn’t pack his shorts from dad to come home - queue meltdown and crying because they are “his favourite shorts” - fuck me he has a whole drawer of shorts.
Then there is the BM bullshit like all we do is eavesdrop on their phone calls. She’s a twit with a voice like nails down a blackboard who makes drab sarcastic remarks to her own kids on the phone aimed at us, the kids don’t understand what she’s on about and come and ask us why mummy said this and that.

I am over it. All of them.

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ANSWER
3 days ago
Step kids must be hard, sometimes.Are you and their dad married?

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3 days ago
You’re terrible. the little girl clearly feels like she can’t ask you! Seems she’s trying. Just leave the kids and the husband deserve a hell of a lot more. I broke up with my husband in February 2020 and my step kids are coming to have Christmas with me and stay weekends I love them! At first it was hard but then it was fine

ANSWER
3 days ago
Do you want your marriage to last? If so, you have to try harder. They are kids. They didn’t ask for any of this. You’re the adult and you did.

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4 days ago
My partner and I just broke up recently and I’m so worried that my children will have a step mother like you or even worse.. way worse. One of my children is special needs and I just hope future step mother will love my children like her own. Please just be kind to them they are only children. I know sometimes it can be frustrating but honestly your step children don’t even sound like bad kids at all. Honestly if you can’t step up as a mother figure to those children i would reevaluate your relationship with there father. I hope in the future things get better.

REPLY
4 days ago
They have a mother! And they have a father! They shouldn’t be my responsibility!

REPLY
4 days ago
Different responder, they are only children. You don't have to be their mother. What you have described is typical behaviour for those ages. With that in mind,.you just sound stressed out and rude...perhaps we are rolling our eyes for a reason and have your own childhood issues

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4 days ago
Why is everyone bad mouthing there step kids lately? I see it so much now it’s sad