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Answered 12 days ago

Hi everyone. I filed solely for divorce and it was granted. I didn’t take anything. No savings. So super. Just legally ended our marriage. It never occurred to me to do something like that. I was a Stay at home mother and raised the children. As far as I’m concerned, it was his $. When leaving, he complained how unfair it is he’d have to start over. So I didn’t even take a fork. Just my books clothes etc.

I’m now doing well for myself after 3yrs of working and sacrificing so I could get ahead.

My question is; is it common for people to go for those sorts of things? Why??? I know I had a damaged mindset and still to this day have some mental issues of trying to prove to my ex I’m a good person. Was it a mistake to have not tried to get some assets?

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ANSWER
20 days ago
Thanks everyone. Upon reflection, I’d prefer to just keep moving forwards. Poking the beast just isn’t worth it.

REPLY
12 days ago
It’s too late now anyway if it’s been 3 years

ANSWER
17 days ago
Pretty sure you only have 12 months after divorce is settled to split assets. Get solicitor advice.

REPLY
12 days ago
I don’t think she is saying she wants anything now

ANSWER
20 days ago
When you become a stay at home mum you allow him to continue work yes to provide for you but he is still contributing to his super his future and your not I absolutely think you are entitled to it because you sacrifice your super to raise the kids and I know mothers wouldn’t have it any other way but it’s your future to. But sometimes it’s just easier to walk away and start again

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12 days ago
This is why I’ve had kids but never been a SAHM. Always had a good stable job. Regardless of my relationship, I can provide for myself financially now and in retirement.

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12 days ago
Same.

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17 days ago
My hubby’s ex wife pushed for 80% of all the assets. House, super, savings. They had two children together but settled on a 60-40 custody arrangement. Court gave her 62% of the assets. It still financially ruined my hubby who was 44 at the time. He came out with what was left of his super and about $120k.
She came out with a larger chunk but ended up being the idiot that we all knew she was and blowing it on a new car she couldn’t afford, buying new TVs and a new laptop... silly frivolous things and not stability for her kids in a house deposit.

Hubby and I had known each other forever and was my secret crush as a teenager. Combined our finances and bought a lovely home for ourselves and the kids... never looked back.

ANSWER
19 days ago
My friend did similar to you. In the beginning she struggled but after a while of hard work she is better off now and happily her ex is out of her life. Move on money will come over time your happiness is more important.

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20 days ago
As a sahm, if I split from my husband then most likely yes I'd apply for half of his super (and he'd get half of mine). Or at least half of what was earned since I became a sahm. I don't get super for raising kids and I think it's fair to share it.

ANSWER
20 days ago
You are entitled to 50%

ANSWER
20 days ago
This is why I went back to work when my baby was 6 weeks

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20 days ago
I am getting divorced after 9 years of severe DV last time I saw him he nearly killed me and then stole all contents of my storage unit and police did nothing. I then filed for divorce and asked for nothing. Walked with my clothes and sentimental personal items. I think it’s nasty when people try to apply for financial. Just move on.

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20 days ago
Yes assets should have been split
You may think of contacting mediation to help you