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I am a single mum of 3 and when the kids are at school, I see men as a prostitute.

Answered 4 years ago

I enjoy doing it as I have a hi sex drive anyway. So I think it's a win win situation. I even orgasm occasionally. What bothers me is how much of a stigma it still has. It's perfectly legal, I get regular health checks and the men are mostly my age, local tradies and business men. Really nice guys and I love the conversations too. Why does it have to still be villainized.

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4 years ago
Nope. If you were childless, then ok. Wtf happens when they find out?

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4 years ago
So I have a bit of a different take on husbands sleeping with prostitutes...
Without going in to too many details, my husband and I separated on 2 different occasions during our relationship. The first time I was heavily pregnant with our 2nd child and he left and stayed with his friend for 2 weeks. The second time was about a year later and we sepererated for about 2 months and he actually rented a new place by himself.
Towards the end of the second separation I found out he'd been meeting up and sleeping with another woman for about 3 weeks. It fucking CRUSHED me. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I felt literally physically sick.
We started to work things out and he told me that while we were getting everything out in the open he needed to tell me something else before we could move forward, and he told me he had slept with a prostitute while we were separated when I was pregnant. I was actually relieved.
To this day I have barely any issues with him sleeping with the prostitute. I mean, of course I get a little jealous from time to time because I'm sure he would have enjoyed it, but it's been 2 years and it's still the other woman that I've had trouble getting passed. They discussed our children, they discussed our relationship, he called her of a night time if he had a bad day, she gave him design ideas for setting up OUR kids bedrooms in his new house; not to mention she turned out to be bat shit crazy and faked a pregnancy when she found out we were getting back together.
It's the emotional side of his relationship with the second woman that hurts me.
The prostitute was just sex, thats just physical and if it was just issues with our sex life then thats something we can get past.
The emotional connection to another woman (even though he says there was no connection, she was just easy) is a lot more difficult to overcome.
Let's be honest, our relationship was in a place where he was thinking of sleeping with other women; If he hadn't have slept with the prostitute he would've ended up sleeping with another woman and I would've had to have dealt with the emotional side of things all over again. Also, if he had've just slept with a prostitute the second time as well we probably wouldn't have had the ordeal of dealing with a nutter and a fake pregnancy.

Now, I do find it a bit easier being able to use the technicality that he broke up with me before he actually did anything. So maybe if that was different I'd have a different opinion. But, at the end of the day if he's seriously thinking about fucking another woman, I'd rather it be a business transaction with a prostitute.

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4 years ago
If he is seriously considering fucking another woman, wouldn't you just rather he leave you, and leave you for good?

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4 years ago
Yeah because an entire relationship should be thrown away that easily... humans sometimes wanna fuck other people, it's normal and biological some people are just better at dealing with those urges than others but that doesn't mean this poster should wish every other good thing about her relationship ended too. That's single minded and silly

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4 years ago
^ I think you're making excuses for a cheater. I would hope if my husband felt there was problems with our sex life he'd talk to me before seeking out a third party. For many people, cheating just once is a deal breaker. It's hard to get back trust when it's been broken. I don't see that as chucking away a relationship easily. If you're ok with your husband sleeping with a prostitue, or at least can forgive him then good for you. For me personally, it would be the end of us.

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4 years ago
You were separated
Was none of your business who he was fucking

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4 years ago
^ I dont entirely agree with that. If separation is with a view to divorce, then yep, who he roots is his business only. If separation is with a view to sort things out, then rooting other people is not ok. But, I think when there is a separation the boundaries, and intentions of each party need to be very clear.

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4 years ago
Just googled local prostitutes to see what the going rate is. Not going to lie, if I was single I'd totally consider doing it if my body wasn't so savaged by babies πŸ˜‚

The comment on religion in society is spot on. There's nothing wrong with it if you are staying safe and healthy!

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4 years ago
If you are happy with it, and have health checks, and are in a safe place, not your own house, go for it.
It is a service just like anything else you pay for. If there is a market for your services why not. Better than being on the dole, or doing drugs. Happy mum, happy family..and you set the hours you can work.

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4 years ago
Because if my husband slept with you, my marriage would be over. I know intellectually it would be 100%his fault, not yours. You're just providing a service,not emotionally vested etc etc. But emotionally I'd feel like you are the woman who destroyed my family.

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4 years ago
Could have been the lady next door, or the work colleague or your sister....it could be anyone......

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4 years ago
^ I know. As I said, I can intellectulize that.
Emotionally, I probably couldn't.

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4 years ago
I sometimes counsel men if we talk after having sex. It's usually the case that the wife doesn't have sex that much. I encourage them to be more romantic with their spouse. But honestly it's not something you should worry about in your relationship.

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4 years ago
I would worry if he was having sex with you or anyone else. The counselling you offer afterwards would not negate the cheating he just did.

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4 years ago
I think the OP meant she consoles men afterwards. Like try's to make them feel better after they cheated on their partner

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4 years ago
Makes them feel better for cheating? πŸ˜‚

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4 years ago
Some of her clients will be married or in committed relationships & some won't be.
If someone is a committed relationship & gets emotional or sexual needs met from outside their relationship - that's their decision & suffer the consequences that apply, not her responsibility.

Personally, if my BF or husband was to stray, I'd prefer a Professional (no emotional attachment).

If she is happy proving the service & keeping healthy, good on you for providing for your family. Do not apologise for how you choose to survive.

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4 years ago
Great answer

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4 years ago
Well sleeping with men that are married or in a relationship is kind of fucked up whether or not you get paid for it.

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4 years ago
What about the men who are not in a relationship or married?

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4 years ago
I don't ask if they are married. They come to me as a client. Nothing more.

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4 years ago
Fair enough, but you have to know that probably half the guys youre with are probably married or with someone? Which means that you know- theres probably alot of sad women out there (coz women generally find out everything). Just curious; are you actually legally working or is this just cash on the side? I hope you arent working from home and letting random men into your house- coz that could be seriously dangerous for you!!! Whatever your choices are, their yours. But make sure you keep yourself safe- and i dont mean condoms

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4 years ago
I don't think there's anything wrong with it if you're happy and empowered. But be aware if you continue doing it down the track your kids may one day find out, especially once they get a bit older, and might find the idea upsetting. Also if anyone else finds out they may suffer teasing or bullying at school due to the social stigma attached to it.

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4 years ago
If your comfortable with it and in a safe environment then go for it! Good for you!

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4 years ago
A lot of people view it as selling yourself and your morals/values rather than performing a service to those who require it. I don't have a problem with safe and legal prostitution, everyone needs sex at one time or another.

Now, my main problem is, is there isn't many male prostitutes around. I would be all up on that if there was some straight male prostitutes. Maybe I have a business idea there... I'm sure I could find my market easily *starts looking into advertising on SAHM* πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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4 years ago
I've seen a few males advertising in my area on www.cracker.com.au as I'm an escort myself I'm sometimes tempted to make a booking just to see what it's like on the other side.

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4 years ago
Thanks. I will go find me a fine ass man with no strings attatched πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‚

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4 years ago
Thank you.

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4 years ago
Because like it or not we were built on a religious society. The same reason why LGBTQI are only now starting to be recognised and welcomed in society, why women are still fighting for equality and why the church still has such a big say in a secular society. Sex is still a big taboo. I watched a programme on Netflix last night about 40 year old virgins seeking help from sex surrogates. Technically they were just prostitutes but they were really helping people through big issues.

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4 years ago
Love this answer, non-judgemental,just factual and to the point! its just the way our society has been raised from the dark ages. I personally dont think this mother is doing anything wrong. Its consensual and like many things in life-sex can be bought! So she is selling it and she is doing it in a respectful and healthy manner. Whilst, I myself would not do what this mother is doing (I think id do the pay for phone sex thing if I really needed the money-hey I can stay in my pjs and suck on a lollipop-win-win). But it is true, we have a long way to come for us to accept and enjoy sex for sometimes what it is....instinctual/ animalistic, to fill a desire or need-for it to be part of work/making money. We as a society have a long way to go to accept what has been doctrined by the church for many many years!! I for one am loving the change, albeit small and it is women who dare to that are paving it forward! Sex is sex-ducking enjoy it!!

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4 years ago
Wow thanks ladies you both completely got my point! Makes me feel a bit better about what I'm doing because what I do is a service. I'm discreet and genuinely enjoy sex. I'm doing it for the extra income, not to support a drug habit or anything dodgy. Thanks ladies you've really made my day.

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4 years ago
I had to read the headline twice. I thought you were saying you view men as prostitutes...

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4 years ago
I read it the same too until I read the rest. I was about to write - I have viewed men as free prostitutes too, until they started catching feels and I had to tell them there's no love in sex. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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4 years ago
I guess because its not normally women doing it because they want to, its because they feel they have no other options.

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4 years ago
Are they old Greek men ?

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4 years ago
No they are mostly men my age mid 30's. And really nice to hang out with.