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Has porn messed anyone up here to the point actual sex is boring?

Answered 6 days ago

I love my wife and i dont have a porn addiction it doesn't consume my life but i do watch it about twice a week. Then i find myself desiring other woman even tho i would never cheat on my wife the feeling of wanting someone new is strong. Even for woman even less attractive than my wife just because its new. Anyone else have this issue and stopped watching porn, did it help? Is this a porn problem or that something may be missing with my wife sexually? I'm confused.

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6 days ago
This is very common, it's a well documented effect of watching lots of porn. The more you watch the more difficult it is to achieve orgasm from the same kinds of things. In order to get off you'll have to start searching out more and more extreme/taboo/kink until you're into the really sick stuff. Research pornography & sexual dysfunction - it's an increasing trend.

Good news is you can counteract it by watching less porn or trying to stop altogether. Too much is not good for you mentally & can cause other negative effects, depression etc.

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7 days ago
You may be on the way to getting addicted. Maybe get into Tantra, both alone and with your wife.

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7 days ago
Sounds to me like something is missing. You need to put more effort in with your wife.

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8 days ago
Get off the porn site and give your wife a big cuddle hug and kiss
You never know you might even like it too

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9 days ago
Long term relationship take work and sex is no exception. It can get boring and routine if you don’t both put in a bit of effort.

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10 days ago
Get away from home & kids, get back that boyfriend & girlfriend feeling.

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10 days ago
Something missing is my vote. I’ve been with my fella 24 years & have never wanted to be with someone else.

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10 days ago
I agree with pp. Very normal! Would your wife be willing to watch porn with you? Occasionally I watch with my husband and we have the hottest sex after.

I have found too introducing toys and some sexy outfits into the bedroom really spiced up our rather boring and predictable sex life. If that could be your thing, my go to site is Lovehoney.

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10 days ago
I think this is a common issue when you have been married for awhile - things just get stale! Maybe you could spice things up with a romantic holiday or get some new toys or roleplay perhaps?