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We can't afford to pay child support.

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My husband has a child he doesn't see and has always paid child support for. We recently had a child and now struggle to make ends meet. We are looking at both working part time to increase our income by lowering the child support payments. My question is does centrelink still take child support out if on a low wage?

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ANSWER
5 years ago
My ex says he cant afford it either, he's on 110 grand a year and pays 800 a month for 3 kids, which is nothing to what he should be paying. He has a fiance and a new baby and they are always giving me sob stories about how they cant afford it.Fuck off. He's always been really bad with money, spends what he earns and then some, debts all over the place. But thats not my kids fault, I will never feel guilty for receiving 800 from him, at least I spend it in the kids. Before he was paying no maintenance and spent that a year on them.

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5 years ago
If we had that money there would be no issue with child support.

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2 years ago
And actually 800 a month is crap all to cover the expenses of 3 children plus I bet the mother is doing all the work and then some of cooking, cleaning, disciplining, washing school runs, sports runs, etc, etc. She is probably working on top of it as well to make ends meet. And he will be whinging and bitter over his piddly 800 per month.

REPLY
2 months ago
Piddly $800 mth , who the fuck are you trying to kid. That’s a lot of child support by any means!!!

REPLY
1 month ago
800 a mont that’s 200 a week
Half of 400.

It’s more than enough for 3 kids.
My 4 kids cost about $350-$400 a week

He’s not suppose to cover the cost of raising kids he’s suppose to cover HALF the cost

REPLY
10 days ago
Not a lot when you remember that the ex is supposed to cover for her caring for the children as well. Not just expenses but care of the children. Plus take into account rent/mortgage, rates, water, electricity, petrol, etc etc all of which they would be helping with if they lived there.

ANSWER
1 month ago
Curious to find the original poster of this - wonder if the bloke left her and is dodging her payments aswell

REPLY
10 days ago
Same!

ANSWER
10 days ago
Regardless of whether he is on jobseeker or not he will have to pay child support. I get $30 month. You have ro pay child support.

ANSWER
2 years ago
In exactly the same boat here.. We struggle and get $30 a month from my daughters father yet are expected to pay $250 a month for my stepchild. No access allowed and no we can't just take her to court as we tried that last year and it cost $2000 before we even got to court as she just kept stalling and stalling. We are paying out and our kids going without for a child we have no rights with, no access to and it's so wrong. These mothers can't have it both ways collecting the $ but shutting the dads out.
On Centrelink payments only you will be assessed at the minimum rate so you will still pay but it's lower. Good luck it's a never ending battle

REPLY
5 years ago
We were ok on two incomes but since having my baby its been very hard. Im going back to work four days and he is cutting back to two days. We both feel that she can't have it both ways, she has chosen to parent alone so she can do without the extra money.

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5 years ago
*you mean the child can go without extra money. Don't get it twisted. Wrong wrong wrong.

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5 years ago
Its up to the mum if the child goes without.

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5 years ago
^wrong

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5 years ago
Right or wrong my bub is not going to miss out on time with her parents so he can pay extra child support

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5 years ago
Well that's wrong. Your husbands other child should be just as important as yours. I would be seriously considering what kind of man I married if I were you

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5 years ago
If the mum has a problem with it she knows where we are.

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5 years ago
That's not how it works

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5 years ago
It is now.

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5 years ago
Haha good luck with that love

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2 years ago
We were in this situation too & still are. I applaud you for being proactive. I'm just happy she can't get her hands on my money.

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2 months ago
It doesnt go on the child. Very rarely.

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1 month ago
Not wrong mums often spend cs on themselves.

REPLY
1 month ago
If she were the sort to spend it on the child then she wouldn’t be the sort to keep dad out of a child’s life

ANSWER
1 month ago
Apply for a reassessment

ANSWER
2 years ago
How would you feel he leaves you too, and tries to dodge paying to support your child?

REPLY
2 years ago
I would be upset, but I wouldn't stop him seeing his child. I also wouldn't sit on the dole all my life expecting everyone else to support me.

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2 years ago
This is what is happening to my exes ex. She helped him get out of paying for our kids when they were together and now he's doing it to her. I think it's fucking hilarious.

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2 years ago
I'm not the op, but I would be in trouble as part of my husband's job is to help reduce tax and child support. We always paid it, but not once the child was 18, I don't think that's fair. So hopefully he would still pay it.

REPLY
2 months ago
You can’t really stop a parent seeing a child unless there are issues with child safety. If he’s too lazy to go through the process of family court then that’s on him. People with young kids find it hard to work a traditional job and if they are single they don’t have the support structure of regular AFFORDABLE/FREE care. Centrelink isn’t a lifestyle ... it’s a pittance

REPLY
1 month ago
Sadly, this was my 1st thought too. If he is willing to try so hard to avoid paying child support for her it is a red flag for you. It means he would likely do the same to avoid paying you as well if you ever split. If he hasn't made an effort to try to get to know his first child, he may not make an effort for your child too if you split.

ANSWER
2 months ago
During covid my partner and I were out of work, we were both on Centrelink for a few months. I have started back working, once he reports to Centrelink he gets about $150 fortnight and pays his ex $30 out of that.
She was such a spiteful bitch when he lost his job, he was so depressed as it was. She was expecting him to give her the whole $550 supplement as in her opinion in a normal situation he wouldn’t get that anyway.
He helps out immensely at home and I won’t be putting him under ridiculous stress to get work even though he is going to great lengths to find work locally. He could probably find work if he worked away , living on site but we want him home each night and the possible jobs pay no more then local jobs.

She can suck dick for more money or go without cigarettes and alcohol... I would have more empathy if she wasn’t such a cunt when he lost his job!

REPLY
1 month ago
Obviously she needed that money, but she has to make do like the rest of us only getting $30 a month all year have too. It is hard but such is life.

ANSWER
1 month ago
Your husband legally has to pay child support until his child is 18. Regardless of whether he is on cwntrelink, part time, casual or full time employment. They will simply recalculate the amount due based on the new income. I wonder if the the situation was reversed how you would feel about the mum working less to pay you less in child support to help raise her child in your care 24/7. Same principle. You are about to find out yourself kids are expensive. Babies are cheap so good luck when its older if you think now is a struggle.

ANSWER
2 months ago
Your life sucks

ANSWER
2 months ago
This is why I wouldn’t be with anyone who has kids aged under 18

ANSWER
2 years ago
Rehashing an old topic but I don't understand how people are missing a few fundamental points.

Centrelink force you to take child support and blackmail you to do it. They base your payments on what the child support payments should be. So if child support say he should pay $120 per fortnight then centrelink pay based on that. If he doesn't pay it then centrelink don't make up the rest of her payment. Its too bad. So stop with your bull about you won't pay it until you see the kid because you are taking money out of the childs living expenses on the idea that she wants your money. Fact is, she has NO choice but to claim it.

Also, whether you see the child or not is not child supports problem. Nor is it centrelinks. They are separete organisations. Stop child support because you cannot see your child and enjoy being sent to prison for it. Go to court and do what you need to. Keep a diary of your efforts and proof you never gave up. You will be able to show your child this later when it gets older.

So sick of people who think that single mothers decided to do it alone so the fathers shouldn't have to pay. How about using your head. I have a daughter and her father is meant to pay $120 bi weekly. He by his own choice sees her every 2nd weekend. I would LOVE nothing more than to not rely or receive the cs for her but I am forced to take it. Centrelink will dock my payments if I don't.

REPLY
2 years ago
Then why doesn't she get a job, or let the child see his dad? If mum can't survive then she needs to do something about it.

REPLY
2 months ago
Not entirely true. If your ex didn’t pay you the $120 Centrelink would pay you as if you don’t receive it. Then when ex does his tax return what ever he owes is paid to Centrelink to make up the extra they gave you and you get what ever is left over.
If possible his wages get garnished to pay you fortnightly to save the buggering around

ANSWER
2 months ago
Pay child support
Ring them if your circumstances change
It’s my understanding they adjust payments when the payer has any other children

ANSWER
2 years ago
I can understand where the op is coming from, paying child support for a child you don't see due to parental alienation is unfair, especially when it takes money from other children. My husband has a child he has never met, he has almost always paid child support. We only had a crossover of a year of us having a child and paying child support, and planned around it. We drew the line at the request to keep paying once the child was 18. I am looking forward to seeing parental alienation becoming illegal, hopefully that will stop others going through the same thing.

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2 years ago
It is a horrible thing to go through and so hard to prove. Unfortunately if the alienated parent tries too hard they can be accused of abuse and neglect and it just gets nastier. What I would love to see is for mental abuse, manipulation and alienation to be seen as child abuse. Mental abuse already is but rarely is somebody charged with it, which is sad considering its more common than physical abuse.

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2 years ago
As soon as there is a nasty fight over custody the children should be taken out of both parents care until its resolved. Harsh but so is using your kids as pawns.

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2 years ago
Yes, and parents need to be charged if they withhold children.

ANSWER
2 years ago
What about the mothers who lie about how much they earn? My husbands ex is self employed & does lots of cash in hand jobs & lies to the government about how much she earns.

REPLY
2 years ago
You can report her to the ATO.

ANSWER
2 years ago
Lots of options on this subject!
My husband was seeing someone in high school on and off for a while. She got pregnant in year 12 she wanted him to stand by her, he was angry and said he would help her with the baby but not stay in a relationship with her. She got upset and wouldn't let him see the baby. He was upset but at 18 years old didn't realize what he was missing. He got a job then found out he had to pay child support and was not pleased. He went and to uni and worked overseas anything to avoid paying child support. He grew up and wanted to meet his child but the mother still refused ( was paying child support at this point). He looked into taking her to court but couldn't afford it. As the years went past he could have contacted the child but worried the child wouldn't be interested. He said he would rather not know the child than face being rejected. My husband inherited some money and put it in a fund the child could access when older and felt that he could contribute to the childs life that way. The child well man I should say contacted my husband as an adult and they have a great relationship now. He understands it was a difficult situation. Perhaps you should get your husband to talk to someone about how he feels as there will be more to this than not wanting to pay child support. I hope it works out.

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5 years ago
Your husband is a top bullshit salesman. My ex did this, he left me to raise my child alone and doesn't pay child support. He had the option to come to court and mediation all FREE for him. Not once has he bothered, chance after chance he neglected a role as a father. Court isn't that expensive, you can represent yourself and only have to pay court and mediation costs. It cost me $3000 just to be stood up in court because he doesn't want to be a father. I hate the bullshit excuses, you can go to court and get orders done if you want and at little cost.

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5 years ago
This was a few years ago now. I wasn't there and can only tell the story as it was told to me. My husband did the wrong thing and has had to live with the consequences of his choices. I was hoping the OP would read the story and get her husband to talk to someone about it so he can find a way to do the right thing by the child.

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5 years ago
If your husband can acknowledge his mistakes and hopefully change another person so they don't make the same mistake, he is a good man now.

REPLY
2 years ago
Commenter is projecting her situation onto this story. You don't KNOW anything you're making assumptions.

ANSWER
2 years ago
Great! You can't afford the children you already have so let's have another! Hope you can sleep at night knowing that child is probably missing out!

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2 years ago
Missing out? If she's a good mother she sacrifices everything for her child so she'll be the one missing out

ANSWER
5 years ago
It goes down when the wage goes down. But if he can't afford the first child and chooses to have nothing to do with them then I wouldn't have had a baby with him.

REPLY
5 years ago
its not his choice not to see the child.

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5 years ago
Everybody has a choice he either doesnt care or is to lazy to do anything about it. Whether she moves around or not there are ways for lawyers etc to contact her to go to family court.

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5 years ago
He was young and stupid when it all happened. He just accepted it.

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5 years ago
If he just accepted it then it was his choice

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5 years ago
And what happens he finds them again so the poor kid has to move again. Drag her through the courts how is that going to effect the child?

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5 years ago
He has had plenty of time to take her to court. It is his choice. He is just another deadbeat father who, soon if you get your way, can't look after his child in anyway. Take away the financial assistance the way you are trying to and that's all his child will see him as.

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5 years ago
^dont act like you give a shit about child's welfare, you are purposely cheating the poor kid out of money for his well being

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5 years ago
But I do agree he was lazy and should have taken her to court years ago.

REPLY
2 years ago
Who's paying for court in this scenario-you lady who's so quick with the judgment?

ANSWER
5 years ago
This makes me seethe. If you knew you would struggle, why would you choose to have another child to him. You both put yourselves in this situation, not his previous child/ren, they already existed. So your wants came before his previous child/ren's needs and now his new child's needs. Great story of two selfish adults here!!!

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5 years ago
People are still commenting on this??
I don't know what planet you live on but im not going to plan my life around my husbands ex. even if he did see his son im still going have a baby and possibly another.
I have said if she wants to raise the child on her own then she can financially too and I stand by that.

REPLY
5 years ago
You should t have had a baby with him if you can't afford it without taking the money off his first child! Grow up!

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5 years ago
Your not budgetting around your husbands ex your budgetting around your husbands children.
Yes people are still commenting because most posters think your selfish arseholes!
You married someone with a child ffs, get over yourself

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5 years ago
The mum has chosen to go it alone. If she lets the child go with out thats up to her. I really did not care if she can't buy clothes or smokes for herself.

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5 years ago
We just can't and wont plan our lives around this. My husband has now decided to study next year and will be paying even less child support so you can yell at me about that now!

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5 years ago
That child will find you one day and will always resent you and your children. You trust a man willing to let a child go and not be responsible in anyway just show how dumb you are.

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5 years ago
Willing to let a child go? I don't know where to start correcting you.

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5 years ago
Do you think the child might resent his mother from keeping him from his dad.

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5 years ago
Here's what it is, your husband is a deadbeat dad, you believe the shit he says to justify it because you hate the fact he has obligations to a woman and child long before you came into the picture. How do you do not get that the other child and yours are equal? Not the child's fault. And honestly, the fact you are so conniving trying to avoid paying is disgusting, and everyone in your lives will think less of you.

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5 years ago
Men are not ATMs!

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5 years ago
^^Children aren't disposable. You can't wipe your hands completely clean of a child you made.

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5 years ago
^ Mums need to take responsibility for their actions. You run away you look after the child.

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5 years ago
Obviously not in every case. I only mean when its done out of spite. In situations like yours there needs to be more done to protect you and your kids.

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2 years ago
So she should never have a child because they forgot to wear a condom one night?

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2 years ago
There's so many mums on here angry they never found their pot of gold

ANSWER
2 years ago
Bump

ANSWER
5 years ago
Um sounds like your husband should be getting a second job to support all his baby mamas, not going part time!

REPLY
5 years ago
Or the boys mum could.

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5 years ago
^yeah, so? She could, he still has to pay

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5 years ago
Yep, time for him to step up. Get a second job or a better paying one....

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5 years ago
Yes she could. He still needs to pay child support.

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2 years ago
Whatever you do, don't take a second job because you get hit be even higher taxes and your child support goes up yet again. The more you earn, the more you pay.

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2 years ago
He should pay for the child regardless. He put his d##k in it, now be responsible. Fyi I earn $60,000 and my ex still pays even tho i work.

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2 years ago
He attempted to get access to the child through court, the mother took off with the child again, so there is no child support to pay now.

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2 years ago
He will be accuring a debt no doubt

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2 years ago
No there is nothing to pay. Mum took off and is hiding as she missed a court date, she hasn't been to clink appts so her child support and Newstart have been stopped.

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2 years ago
They dont stop child support for missing appointments 😂. I was on Newstart for 6 months it had nothing to do with cs.

ANSWER
5 years ago
My theory is if you do not let your childs father have acess to the child, do it without the financial help aswell, unless it is due to violence, drugs etc.

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5 years ago
agree

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5 years ago
Agree

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5 years ago
Then the child suffers even more, great theory!!

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5 years ago
How would you know. For all you know the mother is loaded or spends all the money on herself anyway

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5 years ago
If thinking that helps you sleep at night..

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5 years ago
Suffer even more?!? Non working single mothers get 500 a week on Centrelink!!!!!! Struggling my ass. We live family of 4 on 600 a week
So sick of people crying poor in this country

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5 years ago
$600 a week, and ftb on top of that? You get $500 a fortnight and the rest is ftb. Fucking stupid people!

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5 years ago
No one is crying poor but you sweet heart

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5 years ago
We don't get cent from the government... It's all you Australians who complain non stop about not getting enough free money and struggling so ridiculous single non working mothers are hardly struggling

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5 years ago
You sound so bitter. Get out and work instead of crying poor about your hisband only getting paid $600 a week

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5 years ago
I was responding to people saying a child suffers (I'm assuming from the obvious poverty if no CS is paid) ?!?
The child suffers?!? Really?!? What with their free education and medical access and free money every week?

Not bitter at all just still baffled by the people here who consider that struggling.
It's mind boggling how spoilt and entitled people can be to have the balls to not only complain about a free 500 a week... But then go onto say it's suffering.
In a way I'm happy for you that you've never seen suffering if you really think that's what suffering is ...
In other ways in sad that so many people don't appreciate how wonderfull and amazing this country is and just want to complain and cry about how hard it is to get free money every week

We will be proud citizens next year, but I will raise my children to never take for granted what a blessed life they live

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5 years ago
And I'm not bitter at all! My husband works very hard and is a very honourable man. I don't need to work because 600 is more than enough for us! It pays his education our food our roof and for our mothers back home

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2 years ago
You would be getting a massive lump sum at the end of the year from family tax then if you only live on $600 a week ! We earn way more than that and still get a decent amount per fortnight of ftb, and yeah everyone's situation is different, but if we can still get like $400+ ftb on nearly 80k a year then yeah you'd def get some!

ANSWER
5 years ago
So will is hubby going to go on the dole to skip out on child support....oh your on to a winner there!!!
Btw chikd support calculations for right now are based on 2014-15 year. However you can ask for a reassessment.
I hope you never end up in her shoes

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5 years ago
No just cutting back hours to look after bubs so I can work. I would never stop him seeing his child.

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5 years ago
Right but you said you are doing that to purposely lower CS because you can't afford?

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5 years ago
Yes thats what I said.

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5 years ago
Shady

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2 years ago
Well played

ANSWER
2 years ago
Funny to see this come up. He did get a second job and paid even more child support. We saved up and took her to court, it cost a lot but he now sees the child. It wasn't easy the mum was ordered to move back to were we are so dad could get to know the child. She had married and had another child, unfortunately her husband couldn't find work here, so he had to move back to work and support his family. Mum goes back and forth between states so her daughter sees her dad a couple of times a year, we don't allow her to take the boy interstate as we can't trust her. But don't worry he pays $70 a week in child support so all is ok in the world.

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2 years ago
It doesn't sound OK for her or her family (including step son) how mixed up is all that? Wouldn't it have been easier to have the child every school holidays? Do you have the boy very often? Why does the other child only get to see her Dad a few times a year? If you were having the child more often wouldn't they be going back more often?

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2 years ago
I was just being silly. My husband did try to see his child. She didn't turn up to mediation. He got as far as a court date set, the boys mum was told she needed to be at court and she ran again. Now if she ever turns up again she will be in trouble. We should have just left it alone.

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2 years ago
What will happen if she gets caught?

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2 years ago
I don't know. Probably nothing.

ANSWER
5 years ago
Here it is!!!

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5 years ago
You're right. Exactly the same post - word for word!!!

ANSWER
5 years ago
still not paying child support?

ANSWER
5 years ago
Call csa (child surport agency) and get reassessed with a new baby it should bring down his payments because has another family to surport my sister had to pay 300 a week for her son while she got 19 dollars a month for two daughters because he had more kids with his next partner.

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5 years ago
We have thanks. Its gone down enough to get by.

ANSWER
5 years ago
Tough. It's your husband's responsibility to support the child he had a part in creating. Seriously grow up

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5 years ago
If I was in the same situation I would do the same.

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5 years ago
^ so you're a shitty person too congrats

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5 years ago
^ So you think its ok to withhold children. You sound great.

ANSWER
5 years ago
My understanding is you cannot quit a job or purposely reduce your hours and expect cs to reduce for the first financial year. Thats what I was told anyway it may have changed. If he doesn't like the custody arrangements take it to court. Otherwise bad luck he made a child he should help financially and as my justice (family court judge) said to my ex... as long as the child isn't neglected how she spends her money is none of your business. If the child is neglected report it. Im a mother who by choice does not collect $400 a month in cs as it would seriously hurt the quality of life of his other children. That's my choice but the law is law you make a child you pay to raise it, liking or agreeing with the mother is irrelevant. Sorry but i think its shocking that he would deliberately make less just to spite his ex (yes its spite over the custody). He made a child he should take care of the child properly not deliberately stuffing with the system. To me end of story.

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5 years ago
He would love to have taken care of the child but that choice was taken from him.

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5 years ago
No it wasn't. He has made the choice for 7yrs to not go to court. So she moves big deal get the help of the court. He has made this choice to do absolutely nothing. He doesn't see the child because he can't be bothered. He made the child he should pay. Not bothering is his fault not the mothers. Im the original poster of this comment and sick of the excuse. He made this child and another he needs to take care of both. Not cut work hours because he can't be bothered to go to court and be a father.

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5 years ago
My brother, single dad is currently 50 grand in debt for chasing his kids. Plus the ongoing child support.
He just doesn't have the money to fight this anymore
I get what your saying but it's a shitload of money chasing a women who's withholding children. And what happens when your out of recourses to come up with the money to chase them? Still a dead beat dad?
How long do dads have to chase their kids till the mother gets blamed??

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5 years ago
^Absolutely not a dead beat dad. Your brother and the children are being victimized by a vindicated person who should not have children in her care by the sounds of it. I really feel for them. She should be held accountable. I wish I had some advice for him :(
But when a dad doed not bother for 7yrs he can't just blame the mum that he does not see the child. He needs to take responsibility for his lack of action and it definitely does not mean he shouldn't have to pay cs.
I completely understand what you are saying and apologise for any offense as i did not mean it towards people like your poor brother. I wish you all, all the best that it works out :)

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5 years ago
I appreciate your reply ...but my point not well made at all was if they are struggling to pay child support where are they suppose to come up with the ridiculous amount of money it costs to "chase" her. My brother lent of banks and family and some friends and still got no where

It's all well and good to say if they didn't chase they don't wanna be a dad. But the court proves of "retrieval is long, drawn out, expensive and is unfairly advantaged to the mother running with the kids

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5 years ago
Yes you can't just go to court it costs thousands.

ANSWER
5 years ago
Here's hoping he doesn't leave you, then find a cunt wife who tries to stop him paying for your kid too.

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5 years ago
👏👏👏👏

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5 years ago
Well that is how karma works...

ANSWER
5 years ago
After all this I asked him about going to court last night. He said he spoke to someone who had to go to court to see his child and was told you will spend thousands go through hell for years to end up getting no where. He just won't do that to them or us. I suggested writing to the child's mum and asking if can see the child perhaps at a park with her or a friend there too. At least try something. I hope he will.

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5 years ago
Writing to her is a nice idea. I wouldn't cut the child support until after then and only if she still refuses visits.

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5 years ago
Simetimes yes but other times its not like that, sometimes uou end up with 50/50 custody or at leased some parental rights and of you cant afford a lawer you can apply and have legal aid and not pay anything or very minimal

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5 years ago
Legal aid or hie is able to go into court with out a lawyer. It costs only court costs then.

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5 years ago
Maybe he shouldn't have had another child if he can't afford the first one?

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5 years ago
This ^

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5 years ago
Mums can stop using kids as weapons against their dads.

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5 years ago
^doesnt change the fact he can't afford it!!

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5 years ago
Maybe men should do the right thing and step up. If he can't afford a child he can't afford to lay down to possibly make one. This is a gripe against the mum nothing else imo. I agree ^

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5 years ago
Its been seven years I can assure you if he did this to piss her off he would have done it years ago.

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5 years ago
Maybe if the mother would allow access and stop being childish this dad would never have said anything. I would do the exact same thing in this persons shoes. It's not his fault the mother is being childish. Maybe this is the thing that will make her reassess her position. Sick of women who think they control the world. They cannot have everything! Give the dad access or give up some money

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5 years ago
^a child is not a possession! You can't expect a relationship due to an exchange of money, that's ridiculous and petty. Dad helped make the child, dad pays, if dad really wants to see the child he fights tooth and nail in court. This is just a story of a lazy deadbeat dad

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5 years ago
I wish I could like comments ^^^^^👏👏👍👍👍

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5 years ago
^^^ haha exactly the child is not a possession. The mother does not own child. The father helped make the child. The father is the father. The child will want a father and will blame the mother for not having one. Jesus christ birthing a child doesn't mean you own it!!

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5 years ago
Cos daddy cares so much!! Pffffft

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5 years ago
Right. Father is the father! So he pays!! Jesus Christ you people are unreal. Stop procreating if you can't afford your kids!!!

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5 years ago
Maybe paying wouldn't be so much of an issue if they actually got to see child in return, you know, mummy actually making an effort to foster a healthy relationship with the child's father for the benefit of her child.

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5 years ago
Same goes for the father who hasnt tryed to get access to his child either.

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5 years ago
This comment is awesome. Don't have children if you can't afford to keep them!

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5 years ago
If that is the case then its the same for the mum. She had the child she chose to run she can pay for the kid.

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5 years ago
I agree with this comment. Too many idiots popping out babies and living off the government. I think they should get the payments for six months then be expected to work.

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5 years ago
What about going to court to gain access to the child? Why would he just sit by and allow this woman to exclude him from his child's life