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Having children seems like hard work

Answered 1 month ago

I’ve watched my friends and family have children and they are drained, poor and stressed out.

Change my mind

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1 month ago
Parenting is the best thing ever, but it’s a personal choice. Each to their own.

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1 month ago
If you prefer to do what you want , when you want and have money to spend on yourself then don’t have kids no one should have to change your mind you either want them or you don’t .

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1 month ago
Very hard work but I wouldn’t not want them .

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1 month ago
Yes but what you can’t see if the rewards till you live them.
You don’t see the neck squeeze at the end of the day that dissolves all the frustrations of the day.

It’s really hard.
There’s no need to change your mind at all.
You’re right.
(Except in my case I’m not poor and not very drained these days as my last babe is heading to school in a few months. Things are pretty cruise now, and they are not too much more “stressful” than my other relationships)

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1 month ago
I will not change your mind. You have the right idea about having children.
It won't make you not have them, though!
I know heaps of people who swore of kids for these reasons and low and behold many have young children now.

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1 month ago
Sorry, swore off not of

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1 month ago
Yes it’s hard work. But it’s also rewarding. The older they get the less tired you are. Stress levels remain though but the things you stress about change.

Not everyone wants to be a parent. Perfectly fine. Your life.