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Do you think it's rude to announce your engagement on Facebook before telling family?

Answered 2 months ago

I mean like immediate family, mother, father, brothers and sisters that you are close to. Would you be upset if your brother did this to you?

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5 years ago
I think it's disrespectful

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2 months ago
Oh please 🙄

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2 months ago
My mother in law was upset I announced my pregnancy and the birth on Facebook

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2 months ago
No, it’s not rude. I think it’s rude to make someone else’s positive moment in life into a negative all because of egos getting a little dent.

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5 years ago
I dont have Facebook but no I wouldn't care, being his sister doesn't mean you have a right to private information! If you didnt know he had the ring and was planning to propose then maybe you aren't actually that close anyway.

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2 months ago
I agree 100 percent. People need to get off their high horse and Just be happy for the newly engaged couple; stop making everything about themselves.

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5 years ago
Yeah I think it's kinda rude, same with pregnancy announcements. If I have some important news I try and make sure I've told all the people closest to me in person before putting in on facebook.

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5 years ago
Thank you! I'm exactly the same. I always make sure the closest people in my life know the exciting and most important news (like engagements, marriage, babies etc) before I say anything on Facebook.

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5 years ago
I went the other way and didn't put anything on facebook in regards to my pregnancy and boy did that annoy some people who did not know. I figured those closest to me would already know the news (no hiding my bump haha) but the old school friends got so upset

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5 years ago
I told my dad, siblings and grandparents and hubby told his parents and grandmother then we put it on fb for my mum to see about 5 days later. She can't keep her mouth shut and blabbed to everyone that I was pregnant even though I asked her not to. (Because we had a scan and it didn't even have a heartbeat and we were told there was a high possibility of losing her. Yes my mum knew all this and still blabbed anyway.) So she finds out everything once it goes on fb and everyone else sees it too. That was how she found out our daughter had been born, how she found out we got engaged and how she'll find out about our next child. All well and good to be excited, but if your asked to keep your mouth shut, do it. It's usually for a good reason.

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5 years ago
Baggage much..

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5 years ago
Ahhh that's not baggage.... bored much?

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5 years ago
It's baggage when you rant when answering questions.. You do it all the time on here, I know the story already!

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5 years ago
Saved himself phonecalls. Maybe they were too excited. Maybe they didn't trust you all not to blab so they told you all at once? Nothing more annoying than someone else blabbing your news.

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5 years ago
Yep this happened to me when I was pregnant with my first baby! I told my SIL & she immediately posted a 'congratulations' post on fb & tagged me & hubby, without asking me first. Was so mad, made sure I didn't tell her anything the next time.

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5 years ago
One of hubby's sisters did this to the other one. She sent us all a message that said "guess what guys. I'm pregnant! Only about 5 weeks in. Keep it quiet please as we are being very cautious after our miscarriage and only telling a few people." Not 5 minutes later the other sister had it all over fb saying "congrats to my sis and BIL on the pregnancy" with them tagged in it. I would have been ropable if it was me.

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5 years ago
Yes its rude. Im a Facebook addict and I still managed to wait a week to announce our engagement. Gave us time to get back from where we were, and tell those who needed to know. Obviously the parents and grandparents siblings got a phone call straight after it happened.

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5 years ago
My family isn't all that close. We talk regularly but we live all over the world. My family announces big stuff via facebook to save a million calls to US, Thailand, Ireland... my sister just posted her first sonogram to announce I'm going to be an Auntie!

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5 years ago
That's completely different. These people live down the road

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5 years ago
Congrats that's exciting being an Aunty.

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5 years ago
Yes extremely Rude. What happened to eye contact and talking face to face? I'd be very extremely upset.... Yes we recently saw my brother in law do this very same thing!! On face book!! Not on not happy it's rude.

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5 years ago
Yes

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5 years ago
I knew my brother was going to propose (borrowed the money off my mum to pay for the ring, which has she whinged to me about endlessly since he has not bothered to pay it back) just not when, so it came as a surprise when it was posted on facebook but that didn't bother me. What annoyed me was his expectation that my daughter would be the flower girl but that neither myself nor my husband were going to be invited as they only wanted 'a small intimate ceremony with family and close friends'. Apparently being his sister (and only sibling) doesn't make me family.

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5 years ago
OMG that's horrible!

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5 years ago
Whats done is done. You can't change how you found out. If it was me i would just be happy for them.

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5 years ago
I would be upset

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5 years ago
No. We announced ours on fb. All our family is on there. And I was so excited I chucked it straight up with a ring bling pic and then started to message and call family. No one in our family was upset.

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5 years ago
And as it turns out all my family knew my now husband was proposing anyway! So essentially I was the last to know. Lucky I said yes :)

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5 years ago
I don't know. Maybe it was his fiance that announced it on hers and he just got pushed into it. I'd be more annoyed that he didn't tell us he was thinking of marrying this person, if it was my brother (plus my own brother has made it known that he doesnt believe in marriage).
But it would only be a fleeting irritation, before I'd be ecstatic for the happy couple.

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5 years ago
I would be annoyed. If it was a friend, or even cousin etc it wouldn't bother me much, but a brother, yes I would be hurt.

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5 years ago
Yes I think its very rude.

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5 years ago
Nope.

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5 years ago
Yes, but I'm a it old school. Facebook seems to be the way

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5 years ago
Bit not it*

seems to be the way people break news to everyone including close family and friends*

is what I meant to say before prematurely hitting submit

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5 years ago
I don't think it's old school. Honestly I think it's just common sense and manners. People are so rude nowadays.

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5 years ago
No, but then again I don't have Facebook so suppose I wouldn't know.

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5 years ago
Depends how close I was to them and their reasons. To some people an engagement isn't a huge deal and it's another step in their life. They might also think you might not care so that's why. Of corse it is easier too.