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Why are teen girls so hard?

Answered 1 month ago

My daughter is new to the teen thing, she’s just turned 13 and we are having problems with friends that is just a nightmare for her. She just sent me a message from school showing me some of the things they’ve said and then calling in tears. I was a bit naive in thinking boys would be my biggest problem with a teen girl, but it’s the girls. Now I’m feeling like a failure because I have no idea what to say or do to cheer her up or make this better. Any help from those mummas who have conquered these years in getting her through without fucking her up too badly?

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3 months ago
So I have my 15 year old niece living with me who identifies as gay and gender fluid. Imagine the shit she gets at school. Best thing I did was put a bowl for phones at the door and the only social media they are allowed is Insta and it’s closely monitored. I’ve got three teenagers here all up and it mitigated most of the bullying and what did occur at school ended when the school day did. Photos were put up of her and mean comments she high resulted in me having “words” with the mother of the other child involved whilst that child was in the car. Basically let them know this was about as polite as I got and if they weren’t removed immediately and the behaviour stopped I would be having words with the child directly. She seemed to think it was fine to send her husband around to the house to intimidate me ... enter my husband.. .. photos and comments removed by the following day.
Don’t bother going to the school. They are absolutely useless.

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1 month ago
There’s your problem. Allowing the delusion of gender fluidity to govern your neices identity. That’s sick and will cause her far more problems later on because she’s not accepting herself for who she really is! It’s delusion pure and simple, she needs counselling and guidance poor thing or her self esteem and sense of self will be completely eroded by the time she’s an adult.

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1 month ago
I really feel for you. Teenage girls are very tricky. I’d say just be there for your child and reassure her that while it may feel like the end of the world now, these things won’t matter after high school.

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1 month ago
Boys seem to be dumb and impulsive. Girls are just so much drama! I feel for you ♥

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3 months ago
My dd is going on 15 and we've been very fortunate. She's an amazing kid and never gives us any trouble. Hope it stays that way 🤞

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1 month ago
Geee thanks
My kid is perfect, sorry you are having a rough time

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3 months ago
Its a scary age they are growing in. The world is in turmoil , there's so much pressure, there's social media and they have many roles they're expected to fulfill.
Just love her op, she needs it.

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3 months ago
Hormones, peer pressure, there's so much going on.
My daughter was the worst, until we ended up doing online school. School impacted everything so much

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3 months ago
Oh god this scares me. We have 3 little kids. And all 3 are girls 😂😂😂

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3 months ago
😱 Bless you 😘

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3 months ago
Hey OP! I can’t share any personal experiences (mum of boys here) but when you manage to get a minute with her this afternoon/tonight, I would suggest constant reinforcement that kids that are nasty are usually unhappy kids; whether it’s an issue that stems from home or otherwise. Tell her to not show any weak signs ie: crying infront of them because that increases their nasty behaviour. To ignore them, to report any bullying to the teachers, to save messages for proof. Remind her that she is beautiful, kind and caring and to not stoop down to that level. If she’s having constant drama and issues with same group of girls she needs to find new friends that make her look forward to going to school. Btw you are not a failure, hang in there and tell her you’ve got her back no matter what. Good luck x

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3 months ago
Girls can be very nasty. My daughter experienced similar things when she first started high school. If it is bullying, it needs to be addressed. If just plain mean, encourage her to ignore the comments and hang out with a girl or group who support her rather than criticise her. My daughter handled it all very gracefully.

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3 months ago
Thank you. I don’t know if it’s crossed into the bullying territory yet but I feel like it’s on a very thin line. She has had the mean snide comments from girls and that hasn’t affected her like this so I’m feeling that it’s gone a lot further. When she gets home I’m going to check her phone to see if I can block them contacting her properly, she’s already attempted it but they keep managing to.