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Has anyone cheated just once, regretted it, never done it again but never told their spouse?

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1 year ago
I’ve cheated on my boyfriend and i haven’t told him, I feel so stupid and I know i won’t do it again because it make me realise that i love him so much. It was a one time thing and it Will never happen again.

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1 year ago
In addition: I think it made me realise that I never want to be with someone else.. so in this case I think it’s better to keep things quiet... what do you guys think? I feel so terrible, so I really need Some support

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1 year ago
Just use the guilt to be a better girlfriend. I cheated on my husband and continued to do it to relieve the guilt. There were a lot of problems with our sex life. We now have an open marriage. My hubby doesn’t know about my first affair but he knows about my boyfriend.

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1 year ago
I really want to be a better girlfriend so I will try.. but i never really felt the guilt i’m feeling right now. I feel so bad that I even have trouble eating.. but I can’t tell him because it will destroy him. I was not sure in our relationship but after my one time cheating it only made me realise that i never been so sure about someone before.

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3 months ago
Keep telling yourself that, when times get tough in your relationship I.e. kids you will do it again! It’s in your personality, hence the saying once a cheater always a cheater!

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11 days ago
The saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is derived from puritanical nonsense that is not at all borne out in reality or evidenced in any research surrounding infidelity. As another poster so deftly pointed out: if you haven't been there, you have no idea what you're talking about (and you clearly haven't bothered reading more widely). MOST people have cheated; research is pretty clear about that. MOST people AREN'T serial cheaters; research is pretty clear about that too. If you haven't, good for you; doesn't give you the right to be a judgement jackass about it though. Go join a church instead of plaguing the rest of us with your zealous lack of empathy.

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4 months ago
I cheated on my boyfriend of 6 years at the beginning of this year and I am really struggling with continuing with my life now. I have never done this before I was really really drunk which is no excuse as I have been drunk many times before and never done this. But I did sleep with someone else it lasted about 5 mins and I felt instant disgust and hatred for myself. I just can’t work out why I did it and what came over me in that moment it makes no sense at all. Here I am 6 months later having deleted all socials and living in constant fear of my life crumbling around me. We live in the same town but it’s not someone I have ever met before. I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend I love him with all my heart and i honestly can’t live with myself for what I have done i am afraid to go out and enjoy my life. I have told no one about this but I am torturing myself daily with scenarios of being found out, I honestly can’t tell you how much I hate myself for this :(

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20 days ago
I’m in the same boat. But mine is my fiancé. I cheated on him. One night stand with someone I know and slept with 10 years ago. Drunken night which was a mistake. You need to keep it a secret. Hopefully the other guy does too, get tested as well. I sought out a therapist and go regularly now I never was possessed to cheat and after 3 years and a month after engagement I do that. I felt horrible. Sometimes I still do. But you have to learn to forgive yourself. We are human. Learn from the mistake.

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22 days ago
Just this past August 2020, I made the mistake of cheating on my fiancé. I’ve been with my fiancé for 3 years and lived together for 2. He proposed to me just a month prior... We don’t have any issues. We play, tease, communicate with each other. We are so happy. But one night while he was away for work, I was out with my friends for our bosses birthday and I got really drunk. A guy I’ve spelt with 7 years ago (married with kids now) kept buying me drinks and kept insinuating to have one last fuck before I get married and that’s it’s better to do it now than to cheat when I’m married. I was so incredibly drunk. Even the night was a blur, all I know is I caved and I ended up sleeping with him. I’ve never been possessed to cheat on my fiancé nor has the thought ever crossed my mind. It just happened. I don’t want to lose my fiancé. He is the love of my life and I realize that even more now. I was so sickened by my action I almost ended up telling him. But I know if I did he would leave me. Everything we build together and the life we created would be shattered. The first thing I really did was vow to myself to not tell anyone and then I scheduled to see a therapist. She was helpful and it’s now November and I’m still seeing her. I’m kind of thankful for the learning experience because I know I’d never do this to him when we’re married. And I know I’m going to be the most loyal wife to him. Some days are really hard for me, because I keep thinking I’m tricking him into marrying me on false pretenses. But also I’m really thankful I did do this before marriage, because I’d be devastated if I broke my vows. I just really can’t live with the fact that I possibly hurt him. It will literally break him. I would do anything for him. This is my burden to bear, not his. Telling him would only maybe relieve my guilt for a little but also ruin my relationship. People make mistakes. I chose to learn from it. God forgives.

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21 days ago
What difference does it make that you wouldn’t cheat on him when married, you was in a committed relationship..one that you was proposed to and you accepted so by definition you pretty much was married at least the same vows would apply.
Your actions are disgusting, your allowing your Partner to marry you under false pretences and that is not acceptable to him at least. How would you feel if he slept with another woman a month after he proposed to you? EXACTLY!! If you an ounce of any decency left you would be honest to him and allow him to make his own choice based on your reasoning and just as you made a choice to cheat as you did with a work colleague who you will see regularly and who your partner will meet and what’s worse is he’s an ex FB too!! narcissistic, toxic people never take into consideration SO feelings or the future, the damage to the relationship or children if you have them. YOU NEED TO Do the right thing on behalf of you fiancé.

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21 days ago
OMG!!!! The first thing you did was Vow not to tell anyone you Cheated rather than honour your vows to your husband to be!!..

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20 days ago
Why are you literally on this forum commenting on everything?

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20 days ago
Judge but you will never understand. Someone asked for their situation. Not your place to batter them.

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1 year ago
I told, and would say, depending on circumstances, don't tell. Unprotected sex, etc, tell. But many times, it is the worst, most painful thing you can do. People like to be puritan about this until they have been touched by it. I have cheated once. Minor infidelity, not sex. Emotional connection that led to fooling around briefly before coming to my senses and knocking it off. At the time, I was questioning my marriage due to distance and lack if intimacy (2.5 years no sex), which my wife and I had just had an argument about the day prior, and I found myself sharing details about my marriage with a female colleague who I'd been friends with for a while at a happy hour which led to a poor choice. Yes, it was a choice, it was wrong, it was selfish, in the moment I wasn't thinking of her, just myself, and I own it, but this incident gave me a wake up call that I really wanted to be with my wife, because it just didn't feel right to connect with someone else this way, and it made me realize I still loved her. After this happened, but before I told, I began redoubling my efforts towards the relationship and so did she in response. Things were getting better. Then I told her this happened because people had it in my head that I owed it to her to tell the truth...she deserved to know, etc. Puritan B.S. Keep it real people. It was a terrible mistake to say anything. Completely destroyed our relationship, destroyed her, destroyed me, when otherwise life would be quite good right now, probably. In reality, I owed it to her to keep it a secret and learn from it. It made me a better husband after the incident but before telling her, because it opened my eyes to the reality of losing her. I owed it to the family I wanted to salvage by working harder at the relationship to just bury it and learn from it. If you screw up once or briefly get off track because you lose sight of things like I did, but then realize you really want to work on yourself and your relationship, or if it's a brief emotional fling that didn't put her/him at risk and again you realize it was a mistake and that you really want to refocus and recommit to your marriage, especially if there are kids, don't tell. SERIOUSLY. DON'T. Learn from it and do better. She wishes I never told, and I wouldn't want to know either if the show were on the other foot. I know I'm rambling, but I'm emotional right now over it because I've lived it. It's easy for people to be hard-line and righteous about this. especially if they've been betrayed in a more brutal manner, but once you make the mistake and realize it, then you have to play it where it lies. What is the greater good at that point? What is going to allow for the greater happiness quotient? Every situation is unique, and some things are best left learned from and unsaid. Sometimes we are our best selves. Sometimes we are our worst selves. And circumstances are a factor. If you are truly remorseful, have put them at no risk, and realize you love the person and all that is built into the relationship, use your guilt to fuel your efforts towards being the best partner possible moving forward and to become a better person. If you don't feel that recommitted, then leave. If you end up doing it again, leave. But still don't tell them if there is not a good reason to. All you will due is psychologically scar them in addition to the other emotional pain. Work on yourself and move on, but don't exponentially amplify the hurt out of an abstract moral ideal. The real world impact is more important once the cards are on the table.

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1 year ago
I wish my husband didn't tell me either, & just committed to be the best husband & father he could be. It destroyed me too

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11 months ago
This makes sense, I get it would destroy both people & probably also the relationship but hiding that secret, how can you live with that guilt? How do you continue looking at them every day & not telling them? How can you not feel like a horrible person & can’t forgive yourself? I cheated once on the person I’m with now. I love him more than anything & losing him or telling him would be the worst thing in the world but it’s living with myself if I don’t. I don’t know how I can do that, when he’s such a wonderful person & I feel like now I don’t deserve him at all. It is so out of character & iv always been against cheating but I wasn’t in the best place, mum was dying & I was becoming obsessed with the thought he cheated. I made a stupid mistake when my head wasn’t in the right place but that’s no excuse & it’s just made me realise how much I love this person. How do I live with that?

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3 months ago
I found out from someone else, I gave my husband the opportunity to tell me himself and it took 4 hrs of prying him till he finally admitted it. I dont know if it was any easier hearing it from him. I often say I think I wouldve dealt with it better having him being man enough to confess. I also found out I was pregnant with our 3rd child in the same week as finding out he cheated. I stayed, we have tried to work on it, its not been easy. I told no one (trying to protect his reputation) which did me no favors as I had no support as none of my family knew what was going on. 7 years on and its still hard, sex life never been the same. I never query his moves or check his phone anymore. Maybe cause I dont care or maybe cause I actually do trust him again. Its just the intimacy we once had isnt the same. He constantly tells me he has to live every day knowing what hes done to me and thats punishment in itself 🤷‍♀️

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21 days ago
You love him more than anything and still jumped on another mans cock, you made your choice and you should let him make his.

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28 days ago
I was in a similar situation once... We were having fun making out and before we got to sleeping together my head switched and i wanted to stop everything. You see, because it's long to explain but i was in a 7 year relationship where i was out of resch with him totally. 2 last years of him being cold, unloving, working 24/7 hadent taken a day off for me in a year since he was a busy man... and still i enjoyed the 30minutes we spent watching tv together at the end of the day because i loved him so much. But when i would mention to him how much were missing out or that he doesnt kiss me enough or anything he would get annoyed or mad. Everytime i would say something he would get more and more defensive shutting me out and even ignoring me blunt in my face for hours if i wantdd to talk it out. It made me crazy. I felt unloved and unappreciated and i felt like he was so used to me that he didnt show me any feeling in the world, although its what i wanted and tried to express to him with negative responses. So one night i was drunk with a friend of mine that i knew for a while but hadent seen we only went out for supper but i felt just happy that night i had a feeling of being special and finally we kissed he did a few things ... but when it came to sleeping together i stopped right there. My mind was rushing and I realized why I was doing this that I couldnt continue because I loved my husband but I didnt identify myself to this because I did it out of sadness anger.. an excuse i caused my inner self to believe was ok for a few hours. i felt like shit. but you have to find what the problem is inside of you to redirect your energy best on things you want. I want a good life ... he used to scream at me and say things like get the fuck out or go fuck yourself and wtv looks like you because he had anger issues and reacted bad. I on the other hand found out i had self-esteem problems. So no I never told him i wanted to fix all the other issues because i loved him too much.

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28 days ago
i left out the most important part on top is im never EVER gonna do this again. Its the worst thing to do. I feel horrible theres no words for it.But it made me realize its time to fix this relationship for the best and the have the most love one another possible. If its not that to end it if thats what he wanted to , too. Thats why i decided to not tell because theres so many things people wont get in a 7 year relationship ... i will from now work on myself and us

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21 days ago
You should have come clean to your husband, being finger fucked and blowing your male best friend is still cheating and I suppose your still best friends with this guy and you tell your husband he has nothing to worry about and your just friends. That reallymakes genuine honest woman with male friends look bad.

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2 months ago
Yes I did! Im a female, I was in a relationship with my ex from 16-20 yrs old, Over the course of the relationship i would constantly catch my ex messaging other females telling them they’re hot and wanting to take them out (i always forgave him because i was young and convinced myself he just needed his ego stroked and he would never actually do anything) about a year into our relationship he started a new job working away during the week and back on weekends i reconnected with a friend and we bonded over our depression and anxiety he also was 19 so he was able to get alcohol which helped me cope at the time with my emotions also he complimented me making me feel the confident and no insecure like i normally did, during this time i found out that while my bf was away he was talking to another girl and he was a shoulder to cry on i got super drunk with him and slept with him, after that I regretted it a ton, stopped talking to him even tho he kept threatening suicide unless i came to see him. My ex never found out about it, and we were together for another 2 years after he still kept talking to other females but i never cheated again. were obviously not together anymore, im now happily married and still feel horrible, disgusted and embarrassed about doing what i did. I never once cheated after that and i will never do it again. I wish i could go back and take it back because its just a dark secret i never want to tell anyone because its not who I am.

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1 month ago
Its not always once a cheater, always a cheater.
I learnt my lesson too.

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28 days ago
Absolutely agree! I cheated on my ex husband with a good friends husband 😞 2 marriages ended because of me! I would never do it again as long as I’m breathing! So no once a cheater always a cheater is not always the case

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26 days ago
its not just because of you, that guy made the choice too

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21 days ago
I’m not sure I agree with you, you knew exactly what you was doing and the potential consequences of your actions when you broke your friends trust not to mention your vows to your husband! You failed to mention how long ago this was and if your married again, I’m sure when your friend came to you for advise that she thought her husband was cheating on her you reassured her that he wasn’t and then you felt so significant and wanted and had good chuckle at her and your husbands expense.. that means you not only did you lie, cheat and prove your not trust worthy at all and you did this all for your own self esteem.. so under these circumstances I believe once a lier always a liar, once a cheater always a cheater!

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21 days ago
I think in your case it really was just a mistake and you shouldn’t even think about it anymore.. I’m sure this is something you would never do to jeopardise your relationship with your now husband, however I dont really agree with you for not telling your boyfriend at the time and to be honest you guys were young (not that that’s an excuse) and he was trash for making you feel insecure by messaging all these woman! I wish you a very happy marriage and in contrast to the below married woman who slept with her friends husband you can sleep well knowing your an absolute Angel!

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28 days ago
I was the other woman for a while. I got told he was no longer with his wive, not happy all the cliches everyone says they won’t fall for. I was at a low point in my life and the attention he paid me made me fall hook line & sinker. I would like to say I broke it off immediately when I found out the truth but I didn’t. It is still one of my biggest regrets in life.

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28 days ago
What

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28 days ago
Yes with my sister in law her husb my bro was in army it wast hot i came in he she lovrd it. Coiuld not go ob

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1 month ago
No. I couldn’t do it. Cheating is disrespectful and dishonest

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9 months ago
I’ve recently made this mistake and let me tell you the guilt is weighing on me. I feel so disgusted with my decision to cheat. I don’t plan on telling him unless he asks because I am afraid to lose him. I know it’s a cowardly thing to do but I can’t imagine what my life would be like without him. I realized after cheating on him that I really do love him and there is no one else in this world I’d rather be with. The remorse sucks right now and I’m having a very hard time coping with it. I plan to spend the rest of my life devoting my time and love to him. This is something that I know I won’t repeat bcus the repercussions aren’t worth it. The guilt is a disgusting feeling. Hopefully in time I’ll be able to forgive myself and move on.

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4 months ago
Mistakes happen, and you regret it which is good: Try to forgive yourself and work towards not making those same mistakes.

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2 months ago
Did you ever tell him? Or do you feel any better

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1 year ago
No, but I found out my husband did a very long time ago. It broke me. I knew that we had problems back then but I just never would have believed it. I still just can't believe it. It doesn't even seem like something he would do. He was to me the most amazing man I'd ever met. It is so out of character.
Now though I look at him and I just want to cry. I look in the mirror and I hate looking at the failure looking back at me. The thing that wasn't good enough.
I really don't know if people can change. Maybe our whole relationship was a lie. Maybe that's the real him. He reckons that he realized what he had done and vowed to never again. And believe me I have thoroughly looked into it. Our car is fitted with gps.
If I wasn't good enough then then why would I be now?
My whole world has literally fallen apart. My hair has fallen out, I've lost 30 kilos because food doesn't taste the same anymore and last week my daughter said to me that I don't smile anymore.
It's sad to realize that a moment in time that has caused so much pain was so easy for him to do. He enjoyed it. It wasn't forced. Something he had to do. It was something he chose. He chose this for me. The love of my life.
Don't cheat on your husband. And if you have just stop. You make a commitment in sickness and in health. You commit to not breaking those vows no matter what. When the love waivers you work hard to get it back. You don't throw in the towel like my husband did. Someone wanting an orgasm shouldn't cause someone else pain.
I was not prepared for this. My whole life entangled in someone who could have given me aids if they'd gotten it. They took that risk. It was worth it to them. As though I was nothing.
Nothing to my everything

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5 months ago
Well said

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3 months ago
I can relate, we r still together but its never been the same intimately

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3 months ago
Please know, it was never about you not being enough. It was always about him putting himself first in the most selfish way. When my husband first cheated, I made myself crazy thinking ‘if only I had done this more’ etc. But I finally realised it was never about me. There was nothing I could have done more of, and nothing I should have stopped doing. There was not one thing I could have done differently to lead to a different outcome. He CHOSE to cheat and that is on him. I hope you are able to allow yourself the freedom of realising you were always enough xx If there is a problem in the marriage it is up to the unhappy person to talk about the issues with their partner. Not cheat on them instead.

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3 months ago
I didn't cheat once and done sadly it became something hidden on the side until we mutually separated, they still don't know.

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5 years ago
I'm considering cheating. i'm not satisfied at this point of our marriage. I'm interested to hear if others have regretted it.

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4 years ago
Leave then.

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5 months ago
Do what you gotta do girlfriend

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4 months ago
I would leave. Cheating just causes guilt regardless of how bad your partner acts towards you or treats you.

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4 months ago
I’m a female who’s been messing around with a colleague for 10 months now. I don’t really feel guilty, my marriage is basically over.
My issue is i don’t think the colleague is in for more than fun. He’s a bit older & is so worried about our working life 🤷‍♀️

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4 months ago
I cheated on my boyfriend of almost 4 years, I think it was because I was unsatisfied in the relationship. We haven’t seen each other in about 6 months and have barely talked. I’m not even really sure if we are still together but I feel so guilty. He wasn’t away or anything, he was about 20 minutes away and always busy. Before we stopped seeing each other things were tense in our relationship, but I still feel like he’s the only one. I don’t think I’ll ever tell him I cheated, but our relationship probably won’t work either way due to the clear lack of communication. I will never cheat again and I need to work towards forgiving myself for my mistake and remind myself that I’m only human.

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1 year ago
No, but my s/o admitted it to me, saying I deserved to know because I was good to him. He cried and I really feel like he regrets it. I don’t think he’ll do it again but I’m still scared that he might do it again.

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4 months ago
Same here..

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4 months ago
I did after he cheated even when he said he was.
I never told but the one person I knew told. Out of spite. It was about 5 months ago. He was doing his too. He was cheating with the same girl multiple times and I only did it once

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4 months ago
He was so hurt about the one time, I did it once away from home he did it in our bed

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5 months ago
I recently got into a Huge fight with my boyfriend and he told me he didn't want to date me anymore. When I reacted as I had been dumped he was like this is what you want? Like I was the one who did the ending of the relationship. The day after we talked and argued again. I kept asking him to come over and talk to me in person as I am a physical type person and wanted to just hold his hand, see his face, and work through things. He kept avoiding seeing me. I ended up going out with a friend and drinking ALL day. I asked my boyfriend (or maybe he wasn't at the time) to meet us multiple times and to even get me if he could. He kept making excuses. Later on my friend and I went to a guy she hooks up with's house and he offered us a ride home. I was so black out I don't even remember leaving the restaurant we were at. But apparently we ended up having a threesome. My friend told me a day or so later as I had no recollection of it. The guy I was dating hasn't seen me since our fight he just keeps calling and trying to talk to me via phone but it's not getting us anywhere. I don't think what I did was right, but I'm reluctant to tell him since clearly we have bigger issues to address that led to this massive mistake. I don't want to hurt him either. I clearly regret this and NEVER would have done this if I had been sober or in a right state of mind.

I was in a previous relationship where I was cheated on and the act didn't bother me, it was that he kept the relationship going and continued to see the women he had slept with. If it was a one night stand that he didn't tell me about I would have preferred that.

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5 months ago
Don’t tell just let the relationship die off.

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5 months ago
I cheated once recently on my boyfriend of five years who I have a child with. I was nearly blackout drunk and hardly remember it. I’m really struggling with it and don’t know what I should do.

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6 months ago
I finally got even with my loser ex wife. I asked her point blank and she lied.
She cheated , waited until we had been married four years and one child, then told me.
If she had been in a relationship before me I wouldn’t have been bothered near as much.
However, this was a stranger she met thru a friend. She never took any responsibility, not my idea she said, one excuse after another.

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5 years ago
Yes. And then I did it again. And again. I'm so ashamed but it's making me realise I need to leave this marriage as I'm clearly not getting what I need and he deserves better. Very scary thought.

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12 months ago
Did the divorce happen?

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11 months ago
Same here. It’s a dangerous and addictive game.

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5 years ago
I've never cheated, I would feel wayyy too guilty to put my husband through the pain he put me through when I found out he'd been cheating on me.
Honestly I would've preferred to have never discovered the shit on his phone and I'd still be living in my magical fantasy world I was in a few months ago.
I know that my husband was extremely upset, guilty and pained seeing me and still seeing me go through the motions of his actions. He now suffers from extreme depression and has told me that if it wasn't for our children and his love for me, that he would kill himself for what he's done to me.
If you truly love your husband, tell him that you're unhappy. Or if you do cheat, just be safe and don't let your husband find out.
My husband works away and I completely understand the situation and why he done it. It's a bit of a cop out excuse, but I believe that he's not going to do it again. And if he does, it's not my worst fear anymore.

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4 years ago
He'd kill himself over the pain he caused you, and allow you to go through even worse pain?

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4 years ago
Mmm saying he would kill himself sounds like more of a cop out to me

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1 year ago
Id be careful his tears might not be for you. They could be for himself. They feel sorry for themself. They already have that victims mentality in their head. They've already made what they did ok in their own head when they chose to do it.
They cry because of what they did to their life.
They cry because they know that the pedestal they were once put on is no longer and their wife, their friend sees them differently. The adoration that was once so strong is changed to disgust and shame.
They cry because we finally see the monster that they always were.
That mask slipped and we saw the real them.

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4 years ago
No. I've been cheated on and it almost destroyed me. Im still recovering mentally and emotionally after finding out almost 18 months ago. Ive had the opportunity to cheat but i didn't it's just not who i am and it would have been a one night thing that probably would have destroyed both our families. Just not worth it. If you arent happy in your relationship fix it. If you can't or have tried, leave. There is NO reason to cheat. Its gutless and selfish. If you do cheat, own up to it and deal with the consequences. It's not about releiving your guilt its about your partner having all the info about their relationship with you and not thinking you sre someine you're not. You cant have your cake and eat it too then hide behind the "i don't want to hurt them, it would only be releiving me of my own guilt" crap. You messed up, they have a right to know and decide if they want to stay or not. You took the gamble as soon as you crossed that line with someone else.

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2 years ago
Absolutely, I've only got one life I don't want to waste it living a lie because someone is 'protecting' me.

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1 year ago
Same but he cheated over 3 years ago now I’m still ruined

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1 year ago
Same here

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1 year ago
Yes I have
It might seem like a cop out but I would rather live with that guilt all of my life than have him live with the hurt

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5 years ago
I second this.

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5 years ago
I agree. I haven't done this, but have advised a few friends in this position to just shut up. The need to tell is usually more about making yourself feel better and less to do with "trust and honesty". If you GENUINELY realise your mistake, vent to a minister or counsellor (girl friends can accidentally blab if drunk or in a bad mood) , rack it up to experience and then BE QUIET ABOUT IT. Move on but don't forget the lesson.

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5 years ago
Same here :(
Cheated once before we had kids. Never again.

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1 year ago
Tips to move on? I feel so lost right now...

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1 year ago
This isn't really cheating but when we broke up over HIS serial cheating I slept with someone and when we got back together I didn't tell him. I felt wonderful about it at the time and still feel fine as it reminded me I'm still attractive and can get another man And he isn't everything it gave me back my power after being so hurt by him

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1 year ago
I revenge cheated too only thing is I couldn’t stop at once. Fairly sure my hubby is still cheating too. I should just leave but I can’t.

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4 years ago
I've cheated on mine. We even have kids together. I feel ashamed and I know how much he's hurt by it. I know I will never do it again. I just felt a little unhappy in the position I was in and a bit lonely without any friends and with him working all the time... but I also know how much I love him and the thought of him being gone from my life is too much for me. If it weren't for my kids, especially my youngest momma's boy, I would have ended myself. I want him to be able to know he can trust me again and I'm working on it. He wants to take a break for I don't know how long and now I'm going to have to get a job to be able to support myself and my baby boy. I just really hope things can go back because life before cheating was definitely better than it is now :(

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1 year ago
Get individual and couples counselling babes don't take a break x

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4 years ago
Yep, he was more interested in wanking his dick than to fuck me. 3 months i waited.
i actually dont feel guilty. Fuck him.
if you cant bring the dick then fuck off. Im not playing second to no video. Letalone being insulted when i brought it up.
lifes too short. Dump him and go live it

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1 year ago
Wow you waited a whole 3 months 😆. Your stamina is outstanding

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5 years ago
Yeah