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Can you be happily married and attracted to another man

Answered 1 month ago

I have been married for over 20 year my husband was working long hours until recently he cut his hours back to spend time with us . I find myself looking at a guy at work .

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1 month ago
Yes, our marriage is good we have good sex my husband is attractive I see women and gay guys check him out all the time. I'm not sure if I'm attractive, but I always enjoyed sleeping around. Some men are so sexy and I really want to sleep with them, I've never cheated on my husband or anyone I've been in a relationship with but I do miss sex with random hot guys. It's gotten worse as I've gotten older. I have so many celebrity crushes 😂 my hubby knows about them, but probably not the extent of my wandering eyes/ fantasies. Saw a tradie in the shops yesterday 'phew' he had me blushing, not sure if there's something wrong with me.

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1 month ago
Maybe try sex toys to fight those urges, or will that create a problem?

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1 month ago
I agree with finding men very sexy. I swear there’s something wrong with me too!

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3 months ago
Yes! Attraction is normal, but maybe your marriage isn't so happy if want to cheat? But as I once was told it doesn't matter where you get your appetite, just come home for dinner.

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3 months ago
Of course! We recently pretended we were our best friend couple when we had sex with the lights off and it was quite the turn in surprisingly!

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3 months ago
I havent been with my partner as long as you but I openly admire other guys.

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4 months ago
Yes you can but it’s really not worth cheating. Focus on fixing your relationship first if that doesn’t work separate at move on from there. Nothing good comes from cheating.

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4 months ago
I agree. This could be a symptom that something is wrong in the marriage. Try and feed that energy back into your husband.

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4 months ago
Of course you can be attracted to someone else. Acting on it, including flirting or getting too close, is a different thing entirely.

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4 months ago
I think it's ok to glance at the menu, just not eat from it.

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4 months ago
I've been with my husband nearly 20 years, I am sexually attracted to a younger guy at work, I have no idea why but I am 🤷. Just seeing him working gets me sooo hot. I won't act on it and the random thing is my husband is much better looking.