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Would you let your husband go to a strip club?

Answered 4 days ago

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ANSWER
4 days ago
Absolutely not. I will kick off his butt

ANSWER
5 years ago
My husband would love to go to a strip club. I told him I don't mind as long as he doesn't mind me going to see male strippers. That changed his mind on it cause he doesn't want me to see male strippers lol. I knew that would be his answer and I'm glad because personally I don't agree with strip clubs when you're in a relationship

REPLY
3 months ago
why make it a debate? why turn that conversation into an "ok, but owe me" kind of deal?

ANSWER
3 years ago
This question is structured in such a way it assumes a husband is but a mere possession. It is not up to you to grant permission, you dont own him. He is a person and should be free and able to make his own choices.

REPLY
1 year ago
Well for all that just be single!

REPLY
4 months ago
Sounds like you'll end up being single because all of your sad insecurities

ANSWER
5 years ago
When my husband went to Vegas I encouraged him to go to one for the experience. He said he was the most pathetic, boring display he had seen for ages and the beer was watered down crap and way too expensive. His whole group ended up leaving after one drink.

REPLY
2 years ago
Sure!! Lol

REPLY
1 year ago
Riiiight lol. And you believed him?

REPLY
4 months ago
Someone really hurt you didn't they?

ANSWER
4 months ago
Only if it’s on nights I am not working there

ANSWER
4 months ago
No, I like to keep my homelife and work separate.

ANSWER
4 months ago
I wonder how many husbands escaped their prisons in the 5 years that this post went up.

ANSWER
1 year ago
No, I would not be happy about it. I consider it cheating for a married man to go to a strip club. No matter what he tells you he will get a lap dance. He will go into a private room with a nude stripper. He will do everything he can with her as long as he has the money to pay for it.No he won’t think he has done anything wrong. Yes he will be back many times. No there is nothing you can do to stop him.You either accept it or you divorce him.

REPLY
4 months ago
And that is the cold hard facts of life. I was married to a man who was highly respected and everyone believed to be a good husband and father. Yet he was constantly “good friends “ with a woman he worked with. She and I have the same birthday. Yet after we were married over thirty years he forgot my birthday because he gave her a birthday at work. No man is as faithful to his wife as he expects her to be to him. So no married men don’t belong in strip clubs . They will and do take nude strippers into private rooms and do whatever they have the money to pay for. They will lie to you and never think about it. They don’t think what they do is cheating or that’s what they say. If they didn’t think it was cheating why do they lie about it???

ANSWER
5 years ago
No problem. He comes home to me

REPLY
5 years ago
Comes home to you after he's neen all worked up by strippers... No thanks, it's as good as cheating

REPLY
5 years ago
^^ so is he cheating too, when he's talking a hot chick before he gets home and gets a boner?

REPLY
2 years ago
Haha or when he was out buying milk and bread for the kids and this amazingly hot 25 year old with a gorgeous smile, amazing rack and sweet personality flirts a little at the checkout and he thinks how good she'd look on his d*ck on the car ride back to home. Is that cheating?
Everyone has a naughty thought and a bit of a perve now and then, but it's when you actively go out searching for a f*ck is when there's a problem

REPLY
1 year ago
It is cheating

REPLY
4 months ago
It's not cheating. How old are you? You sound like an infant

ANSWER
3 years ago
Let? I take him there!

REPLY
1 year ago
If you can't beat em join em, hey? Or enable them... better than having standards, right?

REPLY
4 months ago
This sounds like the same person disagreeing with everyone that says their ok with it. Religious or just plain insecure which is it?

ANSWER
3 years ago
Not a problem with it all all... not his keeper , he knows what's at home.. and trust him completely

My opinion if u have a issue with it just shows u may have trust issues..

REPLY
2 years ago
Good luck with that

REPLY
1 year ago
Or morals lol

REPLY
4 months ago
Or tonnes of insecurity

ANSWER
4 months ago
I wouldn't care as long as i can see males the same way. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. We have trust. I'm confident within myself & my marriage. If a man is swayed by one night at a strip joint then your marriage isn't worth anything anyway. When woman have an issue with this it screams insecurity within themselves to me. I'm sad for them.

ANSWER
4 months ago
I don’t mind my husband going. He’s only been to one and if he wants the experience then who am I to stop him? We have 3 choices here: 1) go and tell me all about it 2) go and lie to me about going or 3) not go and blame me. I know it’s a personal decision but I prefer number 1. I don’t want him to lie to me and I don’t want to be that wife that holds him back. Also, I’d go to the strip club with him so maybe my view is different. Good luck everyone!

ANSWER
1 year ago
I can’t let my husband do or not do anything! If he is going to do something he will do it whether I like it or not! He doesn’t value my feelings about anything so it really doesn’t matter if I care if he goes,he will do it anyway. He has been going behind my back for years. So how do I feel about him going....... It shows he doesn’t love me! If he doesn’t love me then what do I care what he does.

REPLY
5 months ago
I could have wrote that word for word!!

ANSWER
7 months ago
You women that won't allow your husbands to go..it's because they'll get a look at something better than you. Clean yourselves up and lose some weight and be sexier and they won't want to go!!!

REPLY
5 years ago
Yes. This☝🏻️

REPLY
7 months ago
Of course they will go. You may not know it . They always want another/any woman no matter how you treat them or how beautiful you are. If you trust them to go to a strip club for any reason you are a fool. Given the opportunity all men will cheat.

ANSWER
9 months ago
He’s a big boy, if he wants to go that’s his choice. Doesn’t bother me. We are secure enough in our relationship to trust each other.

ANSWER
9 months ago
No I wouldnt let my husband go to a strip club. I dont fantasize about other men because why? Because I'm in a relationship and they are my one and only that I only have sex with, only kiss, only look at sexually. He is not going to a place where his penis gets hard because hes thinking about their assets. If he wants to think about other women, plus me too, he can be single. That's not monogamy. If you think it's fine to let your man go stare at other women then either your unloyal yourself, a sad woman or you need an open relationship.

ANSWER
10 months ago
This is a four year old thread, but here’s my 2cents

Every couple has boundaries within a relationship. For some couples, the husband and wife both agree the strip club is a boundary. They are not immature and get persuaded by their buddies who call them p****y-whipped for not going. They are grown men who have accepted their wife’s boundary and will honour that boundary, knowing she too will honour his boundaries.

End of!

No one here believes married men stops looking at women. Women on this thread who are uncomfortable with her man going to strippers and will confidently state that boundary are not “insecure”. They are within their power by challenging the status quo and making an informed decision based on their relationship values. Those calling said women insecure and dumb are part of the problem; why does it bother you so much that a married woman isn’t ok with her man visiting a strip club?

ANSWER
1 year ago
I let him because I’m scared, I’m scared he will leave me because I’m too “clingy” or I don’t give him any freedom. But it really brings my confidence and self esteem down knowing that there is someone prettier and thinner satisfying him more than I ever could.

ANSWER
5 years ago
I've never had an issue with it and he's never been interested anyway outside the usual bucks show. i would have an issue if the guy spent more time there then at home, that doesnt seem right.

I do have a friend who is strongly against it and threatened to call off her wedding if the groom went to a club. It was a close call when she found out the groomsmen hired a topless waitress... there were tears... lots of tears. Can't really say why she's so against it... insecurities i guess.

REPLY
5 years ago
From experience it comes down to insecurities brought on by actions of the partner. I feel uncomfortable with the whole thing purely because I my husbands past actions. Before that I was fine.

REPLY
1 year ago
People are lame

ANSWER
5 years ago
He doesn't need my permission. He's not a child and I'm not his mother. But if you're asking would I have an issue with it, no I wouldn't.

REPLY
2 years ago
You have no self respect

REPLY
2 years ago
Maybe she actually totally trusts her husband, and knows he wouldn't be unfaithful.

REPLY
1 year ago
Yes sounds like she has alot of self respect & confidence in herself & her relationship. People who have a problem with it are just insecure.

ANSWER
5 years ago
No its not ok. I've given him 2 beautiful children, I have treated this man like a god devoting every day to his happiness, for f#ck sake I wake at 4am to make him french toast or a strawberry shake for breakfast and lay his uniform out with a packed lunch and home made biscuits. If after all I do for him I'm still not enough he can pack his bags. He had plenty of time for strip clubs before me and entered into this contract of marriage fully agreeing to the terms. If I got caught getting a lap dance there would be hell to pay.
My best friend of 9 years works in a strip club and tells me all the stories. Hell nooooooo

REPLY
5 years ago
So do you do all that for your husband on the condition that he never looks at another woman?

REPLY
5 years ago
Maybe you should stop doing all that for your husband if you're gonna hold it against him. That way you both can get your individuality back

REPLY
5 years ago
I'd rather be waking at 4am to serve him breakfast than having him saunter in at 4am stinking of whore thanks. He doesn't cheat on me or go to places like that because he's a good man who loves me and wants me to be happy and knows that no 5 minute lapdance could even compare to the love we have and wouldn't ever do anything to hurt me.

REPLY
3 years ago
This has probably set feminism back countless years 😯

REPLY
2 years ago
lap dances are stupid. I'd punch my partner in the junk if he had one. For his stupidity. Lap dances make domestic violence against fuckhead men ok because men are stupid and deserve punches sometimes. Fact.

REPLY
1 year ago
I don’t think it is asking too much for a man to be faithful to his wife. I am sure he expects her to be faithful. Married men do not belong in a strip club,nothing good ever comes of it. Although if married men stopped going to them they would have to shut their doors for lack of business. A man who truly loves his wife would not go to one.

ANSWER
5 years ago
I don't feel comfortable with the thought of my husband being aroused by other women. No doubt he will want sex when he gets home and I know exactly what he will be about. :/

REPLY
5 years ago
You don't think he looks at everyday attractive women and imagine her naked or the like and get aroused?! Come on. Lol

REPLY
5 years ago
Yeah but most " everyday" women are not naked and jiggling their tits in you're hubby's face. Most everyday women dont lather their bodies in oil and rub their vejayjays up and down a pole in front of you're hubby do they. Most of these strippers also offer escort services too. In every strip club there will be a few escorts on the floor waiting for customers, thats just how it goes. Sex sells. If you let you're husband go to a strip club you're a fool. You're telling him its ok for him to lust over other women. No wonder men have so many affairs. You're basically telling him to. Men cant turn off that desire for sex once it switched on. Men are not like us. Can we go to a strip club and walk away... sure we can. We dont have the same sexual deive they do.
Any woman who fools themselves into believing her husband is only "looking" in a strip club is a moron.

REPLY
5 years ago
You are so incorrect but the depth of your insecurity really shows. Some cheap, back street strip clubs may offer more but the more reputable ones, and there are more of these readily available in Australia, absolutely do not offer any hanky panky on the side. A strip show alone is very expensive.

REPLY
5 years ago
And I'm sorry if your husband has to ask you to do something then you're both fools. You don't loose your independence and individuality because you married!

Also it's a proven fact that men fantasise about 'everyday' women more because it's more fun imaging what they might look like naked.

REPLY
5 years ago
Actually my family own a high end strip club, so I know what goes on behind closed doors. So I am able to offer my insight into what you may not always be told. Many many many and have I said many enough, many married men have affairs. Not all, but many who frequent the strip do :(

REPLY
5 years ago
My best friends are strippers at VERY high end clubs in Australia and I know for a fact they don't get pimped out and that they won't take a measly 50 or whatever to give a hand job.

REPLY
5 years ago
They have a escort working the floor at most joints. Thats a fact!!
And no not all the strippers offer extra services.

REPLY
5 years ago
And 50 wont get you a hand job at a high end strip club lol.

REPLY
5 years ago
Omg you clueless women. You take away your husbands' right to make his own decisions for reasons that only exist in your heads! This is why men cheat, to answer a statement above about men cheating!

REPLY
1 year ago
^^Ômg to say "this is why men cheat"is so ridiculous!!! So you "let your husband" go to a strip club for fear of him cheating if he doesn't smh. No value on yourself as a wife or standards whatsoever.

ANSWER
5 years ago
I wouldn't mind on occasion only a weirdo would want to go to a strip club all the time.
If a man wants to go with his friends he will go regardless of what he is told.

REPLY
5 years ago
^^ omg. Clueless women. You people are your own worst enemies. You won't 'allow' your husbands to go to strip clubs for reasons that only occur in your heads! You basically take away your husbands right to make his own decisions for your own delusions. THIS is why men cheat, just to answer one of the statements about about why men cheat.

REPLY
1 year ago
Lol, this is not "why men cheat''. Men who cheat do so because they are entitled pricks. Dumbest. Answer. Ever.

ANSWER
1 year ago
Personally as soon as a married man enters one of these he may as well be grinding his wedding ring into the floor. Its foreplay with some one who you are not married to. I would either be saying thats ok ill go and have foreplay with whoever I want or id be getting rid!

ANSWER
2 years ago
NO, Never. Especially with his issues he's put me through

ANSWER
5 years ago
No. So he can fantasise about her while sleeping with me?

REPLY
5 years ago
Exactly!

REPLY
5 years ago
Agreed I do that all the time! I'm sure he does it too!

REPLY
5 years ago
You can't stop him looking at every woman, so what's stopping fantasising about them in bed?

REPLY
2 years ago
Apparently it's healthy once in a while to fantasize about other people during sex.

ANSWER
2 years ago
yes, I have no worries with it at all. My DH went to a strip club on a work trip, he told me, and I don't see a bit of fun, as a problem, if you are in a stable relationship. The girls were not completely naked, and I knew the other guys he was with.
Don't over think things...

ANSWER
2 years ago
Fuck yes

ANSWER
2 years ago
No permission needed, maybe a chat first but if there's only looking involved what's the harm?

ANSWER
3 years ago
Yes! I don't care one bit!! Guys go from time to time. And the ones that say they don't, still go and just lie to their wives. I know this as I'm the only wife out of all my hubbys friends who doesn't care and the rest of the wives forbid it. Guess what? All their husbands still go anyway, they just lie or don't tell their wives.

REPLY
2 years ago
So sad. I’m sorry

ANSWER
3 years ago
He's his own person and can make his own decisions but I'd be disappointed because I married a man who is respectful of women. Many (although not all) women in this industry are being taken advantage of and have low self esteem which others are exploiting for their own gain.

REPLY
3 years ago
Most exploit men for money (which is great).

ANSWER
3 years ago
no problem, my husband has gone with mates before, on work conferences, no problem with that.

ANSWER
3 years ago
If it was only looking, maybe. I'm more concerned about the lap dances and the money being spent on other women.

ANSWER
3 years ago
If it was with a group such as a bachelor night etc then absolutely. I trust him and feel confident enough in our relationship that I don't get jealous or feel like I'm not enough for him. If he really wants to be deceptive he can ogle women for free on the internet.

ANSWER
3 years ago
He comes home to me at the end of the night.
And I have seen a few male strippers in my time. Not bothered at all.

ANSWER
5 years ago
I love when he goes. He comes home and pounds the absolute shit out of me, he gets so horny and it makes me horny thinking of him there with a big hard on watching the filthy things they do. Aaaah I love it.

ANSWER
5 years ago
I do have a problem with it. If you wouldn't want your daughter to become a stripper then don't support the exploitation of women for money by going along. I get that a lot of the women 'enjoy' doing it and feel empowered because they earn enough cash to do what they want to do but ultimately they often see the worst side of male behaviour and must lose some faith in men/relationships.

REPLY
5 years ago
My thoughts are they same....Before my daughter was here i never really thought or cared but now i believe its just exploiting women.

REPLY
5 years ago
I don't see it as women being exploited, I see it as clever women getting money from stupid men.

REPLY
5 years ago
How are they exploited? They choose to do it. It's not like they are forced onto a stage or a pole. You have to train to pole dance - so I guess they want to be there!

REPLY
5 years ago
I wouldn't gaf if my daughters become strippers if that's what they want.

REPLY
5 years ago
I dont want my daughter to grow up and have sex with boyfriends either but she's gonna grow up and be her own person, I'm certainly not going to abstain in some weird protest!

ANSWER
5 years ago
I don't get why you think it's OK for your man to lust over another woman? A dumb woman once told me that she doesn't care where he gets his appetite from as long as he comes home to eat.
That is just sick. You want to stare at other women's bodies and fantasise about them? You're in your own. Lucky for me my husband is my King andi am his queen so why would he want to stare at another woman

REPLY
5 years ago
I feel the same.
I can't stand the saying "doesn't matter where he gets his appetite from as long as he comes home to eat". I've heard it a few times.

REPLY
5 years ago
You ladies really think that our husbands stopped being human when they married you and stopped looking at other women? The way you make it sound is that their eyes never wander which is silly lol!

REPLY
5 years ago
You must feel very insecure to stop a man going to a strip club.

REPLY
5 years ago
Agreed very silly they are only human. I'm sure you've done the same yourself but maybe not subconsciously u c a hot guy at the beach or gym then get horny later when u c hubby?

REPLY
5 years ago
I think there is a bit of a difference between checking out of the opposite sex or fantasy. Obviously we are all human and check out a hot fella/chick passing by, the odd fantasy about the hot tradie or whatever floats your boat....watching some porn together.. LOL but intentionally going to a venue as a voyeur, alone.. to sit there and fantasise and possibly throw away money or be danced on... there is a bit difference and some woman might not like that. While it doesn't bother me so much, I don't think it makes other women 'insecure' if it bothers them. Just difference of opinion/background. I don't think women should be labelled prudes either...I observe that women often sling that comment around to other women to perhaps make them feel a bit inferior. I think it depends on context also. Going there for the odd bucks night? The odd after work boys booze session....Or is it getting a bit excessive/out of hand? Maybe that's when women get concerned/have issues with it.

ANSWER
5 years ago
I don't have to 'let' my husband do anything and vice versa. But we have a strong relationship and I know if he went, he wouldn't touch and I feel like answers to questions like these says a lot about your relationship with your other half.

REPLY
5 years ago
This

ANSWER
5 years ago
Absolutely!!! If he's got a great body, and he wants to go work in a strip club, that's a great way to earn extra money and he'll be motivated to keep in shape. You should go watch and it'll turn you on seeing other girls cheer him on.

You should never let him go watch girls at a strip club though, that's totally the opposite.

REPLY
5 years ago
Oh dear your poor husband. His only choices are to be exploited or not allowed to go as you 'shouldn't let him'.

ANSWER
5 years ago
I wouldn't want him going in his own for a perv but on a bucks night is ok

REPLY
5 years ago
Yup totally depends on the circumstances. Id lose it if he just went alone to perv. Bt if he ended up there coz the people he was out with went then ok watevs.... coz ive done that b4 lol. Cant b a hypocrite....

REPLY
5 years ago
True that would be weird and creepy.

ANSWER
5 years ago
Yes, I fully trust him & what's the harm in having a perv, we've gone together before too - great sex that night!

ANSWER
5 years ago
My partner goes when he can i also go with him some times. Been together 8 yrs now so whats abit of fun he gets extreme lap dances an i dont mind as i know he is mine all fine with me as he come home to me so why would i feel jealous or hate it. Sometimes make the sex more fun an there nothing like abit of role play in your life got to love it. Trust your man as if u have doubts he might do wrong well you will never be able to trust him an thats always bad for a relationship.

ANSWER
5 years ago
If he wanted to make the strip club a regular occurrence - that would be bad.
If he lied about going to the strip club - that would be bad.
If he ended up somehow having a lap dance and he told me about it - that would not be ideal, but I could manage.

REPLY
5 years ago
Dammit - I wasn't finished. If he somehow ended up having a lap dance and I found out from someone else - that would be really, really bad. I don't particularly mind what he thinks about during our lovemaking. Sometimes I'm thinking about him, sometimes the car rego, the dishes or how long it's been since *insert lame chore here* and sometimes I'm thinking about Channing Tatum

ANSWER
5 years ago
Yes I let my hubby go. Now I ask to come along too. The male strippers I've seen in my experience have been stinky, sweaty, beef monsters who do nothing for me.
I admire the strength and confidence these ladies have. Climbing one of those poles takes a LOT of strength I wish I had. These women are not forced into the job, they truly enjoy how they earn their dollars.
And like an earlier post mentioned, a strip club is not a brothel. I actually would have a problem with my hubby going to one of those establishments.
Lastly, unless you've been I don't think you can judge. Get a group of girlfriends together and go. Who knows you might just enjoy yourselves.

ANSWER
5 years ago
If his friends are paying. It's whatever..heck .no with OUR money. . .just know that if your going to that ;then im going to a male version of it..and they let me touch lol...but if you wanna save some cash and get to touch then he can have me strip for him...lol. make it rain...right into my new shoe fund. Lol

ANSWER
5 years ago
I wouldn't like it 'cause if he wants a show/lap dance why not ask me to perform in the comfort and privacy of our home? But not trusting him? Why do you have anything to NOT trust about guys going to strippers? It's not a brothel, they're not going to sleep with anyone, and it's really not much different to going to the beach! Actually, strippers tend to wear more clothing than your average woman at the beach; they just take their clothes off eventually!
And all that is aside from the fact that stopping your partner from doing something is actually a form of abuse and control which you have no right to.

ANSWER
5 years ago
My husband has been to a couple for bucksnights. He came home and told me all about it, he looks but doesn't touch. I'm not the most confident person but this I wasn't too upset about. He mostly complained about the entry fee and cost of drinks etc.

ANSWER
5 years ago
I hate it when he goes and dreading his bucks night. I don't like strippers but I know he wouldn't ever do anything and he comes home to me. Just hate the concept!

ANSWER
5 years ago
Of course. I know he's coming home to me.
He wouldn't anyway, due to many years as a bouncer / security

ANSWER
5 years ago
As long as I get to go too ;P

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5 years ago
My fiancé wouldn't because he doesn't want me to go to them... even for his bucks night he doesn't want strippers neither do i.... could have something to do with now he see's it as he wouldn't want some guys acting like that to our daughters when they are older. And his cousin was a stripper which turned him off them

ANSWER
5 years ago
Yes. I know he is commited to our marriage and i trust him 100%. He would never go by himself and has been before on a bucks night. I know i have nothing to worry about.

ANSWER
5 years ago
If he wanted to I would, whats the problem?

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5 years ago
Yes if it was a bucks, no if he went by himself that would cause some trust issues. I think he has been once since we have been together didn't bother me but it was a bucks party .

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5 years ago
Same here, if it were for a bucks I wouldn't make a fuss, but otherwise I wouldn't like it.

ANSWER
5 years ago
I don't have a problem with it. I feel confident in my relationship for him to not touch anything

ANSWER
5 years ago
Hubby has been a couple of times with mates. He's not that interested. I don't particularly like them - but it's ultimately up to him. I trust him, I just don't get the need to watch women parade around in very little and gyrate on stage for money.

ANSWER
5 years ago
Yes, im going to a male strip club soon for a friends bday and I know I don't have to ask him if it's ok it's a known thing between us

ANSWER
5 years ago
Yes, we have even been together once. It's not really either of our thing but he has been on occasion with some mates.

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5 years ago
Oh and to answer why, because he is an adult who can make his own decisions. It's not up to me to "let" or not "let" him. Granted he's only ever been a few times but I have no problem with it, what is there to have a problem with?

ANSWER
5 years ago
I would go to