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NSFW: WTF is Mutual Masturbation?

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NSFW: WTF is Mutual Masturbation?

NSFW: WTF is Mutual Masturbation? So many questions….

Usually, most of us think that masturbation is a “solo” thing. But it doesn’t always need to be. The first time you masturbate in front of your partner, it’s a pretty big step in a relationship. It’s vulnerable, intimate, and personal. It’s pretty significant, much like when you first fart in front of each other. Mutual masturbation is a lot more than two people masturbating right? (or if you are in a long-distance relationship via skype).

One thing that you can be sure of, is that when you and your partner mutually masturbate, you are both going to feel pleasure maybe awkwardness at first. Most of us know how to pleasure ourselves, but when your partner is watching, they get to be apart of that pleasure also and this dynamic change takes it to a whole different level. It’s a great way for visual learners to pick up tips and tricks for seeing what your partner likes and how they want to be touched. And it goes the other way as well, your partner gets to see what you like also. There is plenty of win-win, the biggest being it helps to strengthen intimacy in your relationship.

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3 Easy Mutual Masturbation Positions

If your in person, same room, here are some mutual masturbation position suggestions to get started. You can also stay connected with each other by laying your legs over each other or simply touching.

Side-to-Side

A great position to start with, especially for the first time. You can focus on yourself, but also when you are ready, roll over and gaze at each other as well. It gives you a feeling of their presence while still maintaining a level of the masturbation being a personal act. More Info >

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Mutual Missionary

This is a handy version of a missionary, so one of you lay on your back while one of you is on top, most likely kneeling. It’s easy to gaze at each other and gives you a pretty hot view of your partner as well. It’s a bit of level up, men especially love the visual aspect. More Info >

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Facing Each Other

This one is pretty intimate, sit up facing each other. You may like to sit crossed in front of each other or place your legs over his. While you both might not have a good view, the ability to make eye-contact and embrace each other is extremely intimate. More Info >


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Mutual Masturbation Idea’s, Tips and Tricks

Try Dirty Talk

Mutual masturbation can be quiet, but if you want to, you can add in some dirty talk to ramp it up. Even take it to the next level and tell your partner what you want them to do to themselves!

Try Lights Off

Mutual masturbation requires a lot of communication and openness with your partner, it’s normal to feel vulnerable. If it seems intimidating to try mutual masturbation with the lights on, try with lights off so you can relax, and enjoy.

Be Open and Accepting

If you feel like it isn’t working, and you can’t get in the mood. Try mentioning it, asking to switch positions or that you would like to just watch. Don’t be afraid to also say you would like to stop and try again another time. It’s super important that communication is open and accepting.

Have fun, go with the flow

Be prepared for giggles and for things to stray. It highly likely you will fight urges to stay on a “strict mutual masturbation session” but thats part of the fun. Watching your partner pleasure themselves can have you both fighting urges. It’s a very connective, vunerable, so you are about to get some moments when things do play out, and thats ok.

Long Distance?

If you and your partner are long-distance, phone sex can be a bit awkward when you first try it. Either use skype/zoom or just call each other, experiment with dirty talk, noises and even try an app-controlled sex toy! There are a few products available now that allow your partner to control your pleasure from afar, and they aren’t just for women either.

Related: Best long-distance sex toys for couples


Advanced Level: Add in some Sex Toys

If you haven’t introduced sex toys into love-making yet, mutual masturbation is a great way to bring sex toys into the bedroom so your partner can see the toys in action.

Related: NSFW: How to Introduce Sex Toys During Sex

Our Mutual Masturbation Sex Toy Recommendations:

For Men: Hot Octopuss PULSE III Duo Remote Control Vibrating Male Masturbator

Price: $169.99

HOT Selling and more interesting than a typical masturbation sleeve etc the Hot Octopuss uses a pulse plate to stimulate the head of the penis without the need for any movement or even an erection, great for men with ED or just hands free masturbation! The remote control allows for a partner to control the device and get involved. Read More >

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For Women: We-Vibe Rave App Controlled G-Spot Vibrator 

Price: $127.96

The We-Vibe Rave is a g-spot vibrator that is designed to give pleasure inside and out. It has 10 different vibration modes that can be controlled on the vibrator or also by an app. Any smartphone can become a remote control, so give your partner the control and enjoy the pleasure or keep it all control to yourself. Read More >

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More Reading about Mutual Masturbation:

Overall, mutual masturbation is a really great way to discover more about your partner, show them how you like to pleasured and be intimate with each other. Throw caution to the wind and give it a go!

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Natalie Wilton

Freelance SAHM Writer, Disability Support Worker, Mum to 4 kids, Founder of Freedom Equestrian (Disability Horse Riding), Gympie local and online shop...Read Moreping guru. Loves horses and helping people save money. Read Less

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