I just found out my husband of 10 years is having an affair with a lady he works with. He doesn’t know that I know, and she is a friend of mine. I really want to confront them but I’m not sure the best way to approach it – plus I want to keep my house. Things haven’t been good for awhile now but we had been going to counselling and I thought we were sorting things out. I feel so betrayed but want to keep a level head.
You should totally have your hands in the air, shaking what your Mumma gave you and revelling in the joy that you are in the box seat. You know what is going on and they are totally oblivious”¦”¦..good times!
Granted I cracked a smile when I saw that you called this lady your “friend” “¦.you’re kidding me right? Any woman that knowingly gets involved with the husband of a “friend” is commonly known as a SLAG-A-THOR (and that will be how I refer to her the rest of this response). Your Husband will be affectionately known as DOUCHE.
Slag-a-thor and Douche are currently living in their nice little world of sneaky and the worst part is they must be taking you for a fool to think you wouldn’t find out, are you not even slightly insulted? But as they don’t’ know that you know (who high school does that sound) you have all the power so it’s up to you how you use it.
Personally, I would be getting myself some super narley legal advice on the sly to ensure that you don’t’ lose out and see where you stand in regards to the house etc”¦.and then basically nail both their asses and possibly testicles to the wall.
Any woman that sleeps with a mates husband “¦. Well, the words I could use are endless but basically she is not and was NEVER your “Friend” and your husband deserves a slap upside the head for putting his penis before his marriage”¦hope she totally rocks in the sack cause let’s face do you not think you deserve better and she may be all he ends up with.
I admire the fact you want to keep a level head but if it was me every ounce of my being would turn into a mega evil revenge filled nightmare for the two of them and sure I would be polite and friendly while I plot their demise in the background.
The best piece of advice I can probably give you is”¦”¦go forth and protect yourself and then confront the both of them in a public venue”¦.making sure that neither know the other is attending, keeping your head held high SLAY THEM with your level head, legal advice and knowledge that you did nothing wrong and will NOT be putting up with their super dodgy slimy sex anymore!!! Why”¦..to put it simply “¦”¦. If the dirty dogs want to cheat then they chose the consequences, so teach them both a lesson to remember and when you walk away make sure it’s with a smile on your dial.
I’m a Mum of 2 (plus one extra if you count my other half) who works full time, is studying in what spare time I have who is always down for a bit of brutal honesty to help those that can’t see the wood from the trees and need a bit of a kick in the pants to see what’s what”¦…Be warned, I don’t’ beat around the bush but will happily share my unique advice skills, so strap yourself in and open yourself up to so Nikki lingo and let’s see where the journey takes us.
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