I’m a Mumma Bear of two boys, so I totally get the ‘Not Listening’ thing….
And I’ve tried so many different ways to get them to listen. But they are kids…and boys…..Click below to join our survey panel! Earn CASH, give your opinion, and have a voice from home!
I’ve tried quite a few strategies over the years as I’m the type of person that will escalate to yelling like a banshee when they don’t do what they are told after the 15th time I have asked them. Then the husband says that I sound like a fishwife!
Jesus H Christ!!!! Sometimes I want to biff him in the face with a brick! I’m trying!
The super annoying thing is that the boys listen to their Father. That really grated me for a very long time… until I started to analyse just what it was that he was doing, that I wasn’t.
So I’m not saying that he is right – but here is what I have witnessed and something that I think parents should apply and see if it works for them as well.
Here are 8 ways to get the kids to listen to you..
Go Down To Their Level – Literally
When my husband is asking my boys to do anything, he crouches down to their level to ask them. He engages eye contact so he knows that they are 100% aware that they are being asked a question – to their face. I tend to just yell from the other side of the house…..
Speak Softly To Them
He speaks to them very quietly, which means that they need to be quiet to hear him speak…. I get louder from the other side of the house when they don’t answer me….
For some reason, kids think its more scary when someone is calm and composed vs someone who loses their shit – aka me.
Listen To Their Response
Ask them and actually listen to what they have to say. It makes them feel more involved and you get their attention that way. I, on the other hand, just talk louder over the top. And I get louder and louder and louder until I lose my shit and just move out of home.. Kidding.
Join in And Help Them in Their Task
I guess it’s hubby’s way of making friends with them while I am such a mom – I get angry and assume that they should know it by now and just do what they are asked!
Give Them Short Concise Instructions
He will tell them ‘Put on your shoes and socks and come back here.” I’m like ‘Go and put your shoes on and brush your hair and put deodorant on and put your lunch box in your school bag and put the school bag at the front door ready to go, HURRY.” SEE THE DIFFERENCE?
Reward Them for a Job Well Done
If the boys do a chore such as emptying the dishwasher, my husband will tell them what a good job they have done and gives them a High Five. I on the other hand will tell them that is part of their job living in this household….
Tell Them The Consequences of Their Actions
I’ve been asking the boys for five years now to please put their lunch boxes on the kitchen bench when they get home from school. Do they do it? Nope.
But hubby tells them that when they leave their lunchbox in their bags bacteria can grow in there and it will make them sick. They now do it.
So I’m not saying that my husband is right and I am wrong (pfft – no way – and he won’t read this) – but I’ve come to the conclusion that I may need to start doing things just a little bit differently if I want the boys to listen to me!Click below to join our survey panel! Earn CASH, give your opinion, and have a voice from home!
Can anybody else relate?