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How To Deal With Childcare Worker Envy

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How To Deal With Childcare Worker Envy

The relationship between a mother, a childcare worker, and a child is a complicated one, and not something we talk about as much as perhaps we need to.

For one, it’s a paradox. Mums want their children to feel safe and to trust the childcare workers that take care of them while mums are at work. At the same time, those mothers don’t want their children to grow too attached to the childcare workers, lest they threaten to emotionally replace them.
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The phenomenon is one we at SAHM have come to call ‘Childcare Worker Envy’. It’s increasingly common among mums who have chosen, for one reason or another, to go back to work either on a full or part time basis. So how do mums deal with that envy, so that their children aren’t caught in the middle of a nasty war for affection?

1. Know There’s Much You Don’t See

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Mums often feel jealous of childcare workers based on the evidence immediately in front of them. Their children may no longer cry when dropped off at childcare. Instead, they run into the arms of their favourite childcare worker, forgetting mum by the door. When time comes for them to go home, kids sometimes cry and whinge to be separated from their carers. But childcare workers tell a different story. They know that when kids are in care, much of what they talk about are their mums, the biggest influence in their lives. They pretend to call their mums, pretend to be their mums, and want their mums when they’re hurting. Mum is number one, even if that isn’t always clear.

2. Remember Clan Childcare

woman-with-daughter-talking-to-teacherIn the early days of human history, children were raised by the entire clan. While mum had a big part to play, so too did the other women of the group, and even the older children. Now, our families are much more nuclear in their makeup, but that doesn’t mean that ‘clan childcare’ should be forgotten. Those childcare workers that we rely on to take care of our children while we work are merely secondary carers, not intended to replace mum’s care, but merely to supplement it when she isn’t available.

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Oceana Setaysha

Senior Writer A passionate writer since her early school days, Oceana has graduated from writing nonsense stories to crafting engaging content for...Read Morean online audience. She enjoys the flexibility to write about topics from lifestyle, to travel, to family. Although not currently fulfilling the job of parent, her eight nieces and nephews keep her, and her reluctant partner, practiced and on their toes. Oceana holds a Bachelor of Arts with a major in Writing and Indonesian, and has used her interest in languages to create a career online. She's also the resident blonde at BarefootBeachBlonde.com, where she shares her, slightly dented, wisdom on photography, relationships, travel, and the quirks of a creative lifestyle. Read Less

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