A mother, who donates her surplus breast milk was shocked after a fetishist tried to buy her milk, but was only interested in drinking it ‘directly from the source.’
Jen Bradshaw, 23, from Wigan in the UK, signed up to a network – Human Milk 4 Human Babies UK – to donate ounces of breast milk that she didn’t need for her 20-month-old son, Lucas.
She decided to donate her surplus breast milk after she met a mum who was a nurse and unable to express enough milk for her own baby, so she donated to her for around two months.
When the mum no longer needed the milk, Ms Bradshaw was left with a stash — around 160oz of expressed milk in her freezer, and that was when the man contacted her with his strange request, initially claiming he wanted breast milk for protein shakes.
She chatted with the man to find out more, however, the conversation quickly took a ‘weird turn’ after he admitted he wanted the milk for ‘recreational purposes’. “He told me he’d nursed from a woman near her home in the past for £300 an hour and said he wanted the same from me for ‘experimental reasons’,” she said.
“The man said he’d need it for body building and ‘recreational purposes’, but soon it changed to him needing freshly expressed stuff which he’d drive from Leeds each Sunday to pick up. He said he’d pay £4 per ounce.”
However, the man then tried to arrange to ‘direct feed’ from Ms Bradshaw once a week, when her fiancé, Matt Taylor was out, which she declined.
Ms Bradshaw was left horrified but decided to confront the man who turned out to be married, then he begged for her not to tell his wife.
Now, Ms Bradshaw has shared her experience in a bid to warn other mums to check who they donate their breast milk to for fear that the man will be targeting others – and there may be other fetishists abusing generous mums.
“It seems a bit defective for a man to want to breastfeed from a stranger. It was obvious he had some kind of fetish. I didn’t feel comfortable with it. It was strange. Using breast milk for sexual enjoyment is weird really,” she said.
Despite this, she urges other women to consider donating excess milk to those in need. “A lot of the time you get women whose babies are in neo-natal units and aren’t eligible for NHS donor milk. You can even donate to hospitals if your baby is under six-months-old and it’s all done professional. Sometimes they’ll come and pick up the milk for you. The World Health Organisation actually recommends donated milk from a milk bank is tried before formula,” she said.