Ladies, listen up because there’s an important question we have to ask you: Do you love your vagina?
We bet there aren’t many who answer with a positive and happy YES! Even if you don’t hate your lady bits, we’re sure that there’s a certain feeling of ambivalence towards that part of your body. Why? Well it’s because for your entire adult life, even if you didn’t realise it, society has been teaching you to hate your vagina. They’ve told you that it’s not good enough as it is, and in order to be perfect you need to do things to ‘maintain’ it.
Well you know what? That’s a load of crap!
But we can’t just tell you to stand up for your vagina’s rights. We have to show you why you need to. We have to show you what you’ve been made to believe, and why it’s so very wrong. So, here are just three ways that women learn to hate their vaginas, and how you need to stop it.
1. They don’t know what it should look like.
Did you know that in Australia, you can’t show a normal-looking vagina in the media, even in porn? Australian censors have very strict rules about what ‘kind’ of vaginas can be seen in media. They believe that although the outside of the vagina is ok, any kind of protruding parts are too much for the Australian porn watchers and readers to deal with. This means that most women, even if they look at porn, never get a chance to see what a real vagina looks like. Instead, they get vaginas that, because of a single censorship decision, have been photoshopped to be a single crease.
The truth is that vaginas don’t look like that. But because there’s no way for women to know this, they often assume that their totally normal vagina is not normal at all. This has led to a massive rise in labiaplasty and cosmetic genital surgery that is often totally unnecessary. If you’re ever worried about whether your vagina looks normal, here’s what you should know: vaginas are a little like fingerprints: every one is different. The labia can be inside the crease, or outside. They can be the same size, or different sizes. It’s all normal, and it’s all worth loving.
2. They fight what’s natural.
All human beings smell. That’s just part of the course of life of a homo sapien. But, for much of human evolution, we never worried at all about how we smelt. It was just”¦normal. Now that we’re more focused on the life of the modern man, smell is a lot more important. We wear perfumes and deodorants, and worry about smelling bad for the sake of those around us. At some point in that cycle of useless worry, society told women that their vaginas shouldn’t smell at all.
The idea of vaginas smelling like fish is a pervasive concept that women have been fighting. Their fear that their vagina might smell like something other than, oh we don’t know, a vagina, is entrenched in our society, and we’re over it. Well, apart from all the things women might miss out on by having someone stay away from their vagina, this stupid idea has led to a massive growth in feminine hygiene products designed to eliminate what is actually a totally natural odour. But these vaginal cleansing and odour eliminators are really, really bad for your vagina.
So, if you’re ever worried about keeping your vagina clean and fresh, let us tell you something. Your vagina is a self-cleaning wonder. Self-sufficient and capable of ticking along all by itself, the worst thing you can do is mess with the balance. So leave it be, and love it just how it is.
3. They think it needs to be improved.
Over the years, our ideal image of a vagina has changed with the times. While in the 70s, it was cool to let everything hang loose, it’s now expected that women keep things neat and tidy downstairs. Society expects a certain level of hair, otherwise women aren’t deemed to be attractive.
What? This is our own body we’re talking about here, right?
The idea that the vagina in its natural state needs to be improved, or that women who want to enjoy the full experience of oral sex need to prepare to do so, is as wrong as it is stupid. We wouldn’t have pubic hair for no reason. The hair serves a purpose as a protective cushion against friction and skin abrasion, as well as a shield against bacteria and other pathogens. So if anyone has ever told you that your vagina is somehow inappropriate in its current form, gently remind them of all the good that hair is doing, while they get through life accomplishing nothing.
In the end, your vagina isn’t something to be worried about, or something that causes you shame. It’s a necessary part of your body, the area from which pleasure spills out and new life springs. Don’t let society tell you what your vagina should look like, smell like, or act like. That’s for you to decide.