In what is one hell of a courageous act, A 26-year-old mother of two from Ireland has shared a raw and highly emotional video on social media to catch out her abusive partner and give hope to victims of domestic violence “” and it’s gone viral.
In the five-minute Facebook video, which has now been viewed more than 5 million times, Emma Murphy sits on a staircase with a black eye and scrape on her chin, talking through tears of the trauma she has experienced. Her son is playing in the background as she tells her followers, “I need to do this for my children”.
“I’m 26, I’m from Dublin, I have two children. I’ve been in a relationship for three years with a guy who I thought was the love of my life. He was the love of my life,” says the fitness blogger, as the tears start streaming down her face.
“Last year I found out he cheated on me with one of his clients. I found out in June but he denied it. She contacted me in November and told me she was pregnant. So with the stress I went into labour early, my world was turned upside down.
Emma continues on to say that when she went to confront her partner at his work, he hit her. And it’s not the first time.
“He punched me in the face, and it wasn’t the first time,” she says. “Last year he split my head open at an event and prior to that he punched me as well and I had a black eye.”
The emotional pain of these events stick in Emma’s throat as she continues to talk about the abuse.
“For the last year and a half, I’ve been told that I’m paranoid, I’m a psycho, I’m nuts, my insecurities will kill me one day,” she says. “I finally realised that no, this is not acceptable. No man has the right to put his hand on a woman. No matter how big, how small, no matter where you’re from. It is not right to raise a hand to a woman and it’s only now that I’ve realised that.
“Even once is unacceptable, but to be made to feel that it is acceptable is even worse. To be made to feel that you’re paranoid or insecure, that’s mental torture, and no man should do that to any woman.”
She talks about how her young son has been witness to the abuse, continuing to say, “children shouldn’t see any violence.” She then makes a plea to anyone else in a similar situation to seek help and support.
“If anyone out there has gone through something similar to what I’ve gone through, you need to find the courage and get away from anything that’s an unhealthy as violence…. Go to your friends and family, people who love you and care about you.”
The video went viral in the matter of hours, with news sites around the world posting her bruised face and video. It has since received more than 93,000 shares and thousands of people have sent Emma messages of support, including women’s rights groups.
According to the Irish Independent, Emma has now left her partner and said on radio that she had posted the video to stop herself from going back to him.
“It was the final nail in the coffin. By posting it, I knew I would never be able to go back. I still love him, of course I do, but I will never forgive him for what he did. I never want to go back to that.
“People might say I stayed after the first time he hit me, or after I found out about the earlier affair, but no one who is not in that situation knows what it is like.”