They say size doesn’t matter – it’s what you do with it, right?
Let’s be honest here. It is a common belief that BIGGER IS BETTER for us gals when it comes to penis size. What if your partner is absolutely huge, to the point where you are seriously worried that you may end up with an injury engaging in any form of sex.
An average penis in its resting state is roughly 9cm and when erect between 12 to 14cm. The circumference (again for an average) is 9cm when resting and can expand to 10-10.5 cm when erect.
There are many stories of women who have felt like they were literally being torn, not being able to fit the penis in their mouth during oral sex, bleeding, or having the sensation that their cervix was being pushed up through their throat! Scary stuff indeed. Almost enough to put you off sex for good isn’t it? well …almost.
Is it even possible for the penis to be too big?
Physically speaking, all vaginas can accommodate all penises. After all, us gals are built for giving birth! However, that doesn’t mean that sex with a big schlong is comfortable or even pleasurable. In fact, I have heard of relationships ending because the man is too well endowed and the woman struggles to have regular sex when she is sore. So bigger certainly does not mean better!
In 2015, a Nigerian woman filed for divorce after one week because her new husband’s penis was too large.
She even resorted to taking medication to try and endure the pain during sex.
It all comes down to taking your time and getting a little creative. Let’s explore some options to assist you to start enjoying sex:
This may mean a taking a little longer to get you fully aroused allowing for vaginal lubrication to do its thing. Foreplay also relaxes the vagina, so it is more ‘willing’ you could say, to play the game. If you are feeling tense or even frightened, your body won’t be ready fully for intercourse – so take your time. Really, what better excuse for a little more attention on your lady bits?! Win-win. Using water-based lubrication may also assist with making sex more comfortable and less painful. Don’t forget that lubrication may need to be re-applied during intercourse to avoid chafing down there – ain’t no body got time for that!
You can pick up water-based lubricant at all shopping centres and service stations. Or you can be creatvive and think of different ways to lubricate *wink wink*
2. Position, Position, Position
If you’re planning on partaking in some horizontal tango with your partner, consider which sexual position will work best for you both. If your man is well endowed, often the positions which allow the woman to be more ‘in control’ of the action such as being on top are less painful. Sideways – think spooning with fries on the side is a great position as penetration can be controlled easily by the woman.
Missionary position although commonly knocked for being boring is a great option, as it allows slow thrusting and the woman can limit the depth of penetration simply by keeping her legs closer together – just don’t go throwing your legs over his shoulders though as there is absolutely no depth control and may lead to some pain if strong thrusting is happening. Positions such as Doggy Style are a ‘oh hell no-no’ as they provide deep penetration and that is really not advisable or pleasant if you’re dealing with a particularly large member.
Take it slowwwwww. Don’t go hell for leather from the get go. This could seriously shock and hurt, which is not going to make for a pleasureable experience for either of you. The man should enter carefully and slowly very slowly build intensity so the woman is not caught off guard.
Before, during and after sex – tell each other what is working and what isn’t. By all means, don’t stop mid-thrust to do a 15 debrief with notes – just gentle indicators to let your partner know that “– yes – that is freakin’ awesome, we can definitely go with that” or a simple ‘not so deep’ or ‘slower’. Remember the idea of sex is to both enjoy yourselves. If you’re enjoying it – you’re going to do it more often, who couldn’t be happier with that?!
If you have persistent pain during or after intercourse, it is recommended to speak to your gyno to rule out any medical conditions such as cysts or infections. So, with a little imagination, a little time, some understanding and a LOT of fun, being faced with the T-Rex of all penises doesn’t have to be that scary.