25 People Tell How They Caught Their Partner Cheating

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When you’re in a relationship, one of the worst things that could happen is when you caught your partner cheating – and how you’ll find out.

If your partner tells you about someone “you shouldn’t worry about”, chances are – “you should”. Well, some Reddit users have learned it the hard way as they reveal how they found out about their significant other was cheating on them.

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1. The Phone Call

I got a ridiculously irate phone call one morning from some woman asking why I kept texting her boyfriend, and that I was ruining their family. Her boyfriend was my husband.

2. The Receptionist Put Her Foot in it

I called my girlfriend at work and the receptionist asked ‘Is this her boyfriend, Dave?’

‘No, this is her fiance.’

I’d had suspicions for a few months before that but this was the clincher.

3. Awkward

My girlfriend and her boyfriend drunkenly stumbled into a bedroom and started making out on the bed.

That I was in.

4. Face Off with the Husband

Not sure who I am in this story. Worked with this girl, in different departments huge company, we got friendly and hooked up a few times. So I was out at a bar one night, I turn around and am face-to-face with her. Without missing a beat she introduces me to her husband. I don’t know how but I played it cool.

5. He Got UTI

I caught my ex when we were both standing in the examination room, getting his “Uti treatment.” The doctor came in and said ‘Gonorrhea’. He lied for a whole 2-3 months I imagine. Even lied about how he got it, tried convincing me he swiped his penis in some mystery fluids in a gas station toilet (what the fuck!).

When he realized I wasn’t fucking stupid, he tried to drink random bottles on the doctor’s shelf. He started hitting himself. He fell on his knees sobbing and tried grabbing my hands and begging for me not to leave. He threatened murder suicide that entire night, and assaulted me for close to 9 hours when I was trying to pack my bags to leave. He choked me in the driveway.

I just spoke at his sentencing this Thursday. He is a convicted felon now. I hope he’s grown from this.

6. Who’s Marissa?

I caught my boyfriend of two years cheating. He had asked me to proofread his paper on his Mac and the text messenger popped up in the right hand. He was sitting in his bed texting some girl “Goodnight, I love you” while sitting right next to me in his bed. I deleted his entire paper, wrote “Who’s Marissa?” saved it and told him it looks great and left.

She was his girlfriend of 8 years who lived next to his parents 2 hours away.

7. We Both Were On Tinder

That awkward moment when you are both dating for 7 months and then you both find each other on Tinder close to the eight-month mark. It was kind of hilarious because we both were like, “Hmm that kinda checks out… wanna see other people?” And so we both broke up but still stayed friends and kept out friend group together even till today.

8. Her Lover Wore a Pink Nightie

We were about six months into living together and already had mutual feelings like it may not last. Came home from work one day and saw her sitting on the couch with a guy who was wearing her nightie. A pink nightie.

Drinking coffee. I said “Oh. Hey. ” I walked by them, got a beer, and joined them in the living room. “So, what’s going on here?” I asked.

“This is Paul. We just met at the bike shop” she said. “And it looks like you slept together. ” I said. “Yes.” She said. And Paul then introduced himself, and somehow we got to talking. In a matter of a few minutes Paul and I ended up going to the store, got more beer and hung out at the bike shop. Became good friends. Neither of us were interested in the gal anymore. Good times!

9. Potential FBI Investigator?

My ex husband actually took out the ribbon from my old typewriter and painstakingly copied down all the letters until he had the contents of what I had last typed on it….a letter to my boyfriend in another country.

10. Surprise!

Dated for two years until one day, out of the blue, she says she’s not happy anymore and breaks up with me. It sucked, but I figured it was for the best if she wasn’t happy.

About a week after we had broken up I saw her at the bar with some guy who she sheepishly admitted she was on a date with. Later that night I end up standing next to him ordering drinks. He apologized to me for the awkwardness.

“Yeah, it’s just weird since we’ve only been broken up for a few days and she’s already dating.”

He pauses “…..a few days? She and I have been seeing each other for like three months now.”

We stared at each other for second. And then my ex comes running up to pull him away from me. He shrugged her off and told her to go fuck herself and then left the bar.

That’s how I found out my ex had been cheating on me for 3 months before apparently guilt took hold and she broke up with me.

Update: I bumped into the other guy a few months later at a bar and we actually talked about it. It was weird hearing about it from his perspective. In his mind he had thought she was just really flaky but after speaking to me it just all clicked for him. And we went through some of the times when he couldn’t reach her because she was with me and vice versa. Not sure how I didn’t pick up on it. Either way I’m happily married now and I think she had to move home and live with her mum.

11. Hilariously Stupid

My super genius ex-wife bitched about the cost of our joint cell phone bill. She told me I’m using it too much. I never used it except to call her phone which was free. So I looked over the bill and found the number to the dude she was cheating with.

12. Jesus Christ Kate!

Woke up, she’d gone to work.

Opened up her laptop to use Facebook.


Dick picks from her ex and conversations with other dudes about waiting for me to fly out of town so they could fuck. Standing tall and confident at work meetings and press announcements was fucking tough after just reading that.

Few weeks later got anonymous messages apparently she been playing up for 2 out of 4 years. She never admitted to that.

Jesus Christ Kate, what a fucking waste of my time i can never get back.

13. Amway-ed

Walked in on my girlfriend while she was having sex with another guy.

“What are you doing here?!” she says.

“You gave me a key, remember? I ended up not working today and wanted to surprise you.”

15 years later she reaches out, leaves me a message that she’d like to talk. I figure she’s doing some 12-step thing or something and wants to make amends.

Nope. She wanted to try and sell me Amway.

14. Technologically Caught Red-Handed

We were going through a rough patch that lasted a couple of weeks. I was a bit suspicious and looked on the ‘Find My Friends’ app. She was located somewhere that I’d never heard her talk about. I left work early and drove there and waited. Two hours later, she and her boss walk out kissing and cuddling on the street. One phone call later to his wife, my ex gets sacked, the boss is divorced, and the company breaks up (it was husband/wife owned and operated).

15. His Mistress Told Me

His mistress told me at the wedding of a mutual friend so that was nice. I held my cool until we left, I wasn’t giving either of them the satisfaction of seeing me look like a crazy person or ruining someone’s big day.

16. She Had a Baby 12 Months After We Saw Each Other Last

I know this is a cliché, but I was coming home from a 12 MONTH deployment to a BLACK baby when we’re both white were strike one and two. Strike three was telling me she had black relatives (whom I’ve never met) so that could be what happened, sure.

Doesn’t matter what excuse you, have there isn’t a magical 12-month gestation period. Makes me very fucking angry.

17. I Took a Photo of Them Together and Sent it to Her Mother

That day was a disaster! The weather was rainy, and my girlfriend stayed at home because she didn’t feel well. I ran to work, but once I stepped into the office, I understood I forgot my phone charger at her place.

I tried to catch a taxi, but due to the weather conditions, there were no free cars. After twenty minutes of waiting, I managed to find a car and reach my girlfriend’s place. I ran into the apartment shouting ‘Honey, how are you? I forgot my charger”¦’ but the house was in silence.

So, I went to her bedroom to see whether she was okay and saw her with another man. What did I do next? I took a photo of them naked in the bed and sent it to her mother. I also plan to share it on social media, so our friends know what a whore she is!

18. Yes, Fortunately

Got a Facebook message from some lady telling me that my fiancée was a homewrecker. Apparently, my ex was sleeping with this woman’s husband, and she was divorcing her husband because of it. Fortunately, this happened the weekend before our wedding, so I dodged a bullet.

19. Just Exactly What I Said Earlier

Someone sent me a ‘video footage’ of my ex with someone ‘I did not need to worry about’. Shit leaves you devastated.

20. I was on Her Computer Buying Stuff Off Amazon

iMessage linked to her computer. I was on her computer buying stuff off Amazon and she was sitting on the couch, feet from me, texting her ex. He was trying to get her to send him nudes and they were reminiscing about previous encounters. He was bragging about how he made her “leg shake” all the while I was watching the conversation in real time, right next to her. My adrenaline kicked in and I simply closed the computer and left the house without saying a word. This was over a year ago and I’m still fighting her for custody of our children.

21. The Voicemail

My wife tried calling and didn’t hang up once it went to voicemail. She accidentally left a 2:45 VM. The VM consisted of her and her BF talking shit about me and how much happier she was with him.

At the time I was home with our kids and I thought she was 1,800 miles away to be with her dying father. Two years later we are divorced and her father is still alive.

22. That’s Just How I am

Saw her being all flirty and mushy with a new guy at work. Whenever I would confront her about it, she would usually give me the “That’s just how I am”. Eventually got a sneak peek into her texts and saw her sending him sexts. This was about 4 months ago but still hurts as hell.

23. He’s Got the Nerve to be Rude… But Thanks

Her boyfriend got tired of being the other guy and he (rudely) told me everything I needed to know

24. Oooops!

She sent me a picture of herself in the Bath, Then sent me a message afterwards saying “Oops, wrong person”.

25. Frankly Speaking

I took her phone from her and asked my wife who she was texting at 3am, her response was”my boyfriend “

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