Most of us worry about all sorts of things on a daily basis. There’s the big stuff like our job security, the mortgage, our kids, our health, the list goes on. Then the small stuff that stops us in our tracks regularly at different times of every day – what to wear, what to cook for dinner, finding time to do the housework, not having a clean shirt to wear. If we are not careful worry can take over our lives.
Some of it we have control over, some we don’t and some of it we just need to let go!
The Dalai Lama once said “If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying”. Wise words indeed.
Life is what you choose to make it and it is about making a difference. Don’t let worry stop you from achieving your extraordinary!
Challenges in our life are there to make you grow, not to make you worry. Challenges make life interesting, overcoming them makes life meaningful. Being proactive, looking and finding a solution to a problem will give you power but wasting precious time worrying, gives away that power and along with it endless possibilities.
Self-doubt is your enemy. Doubts keep you wishing instead of doing! Wishing is a good place to start but you have to be prepared to put your dream into reality. Plan it, write it down, talk it over with partners, friends, your inner worry wart, but at some point you need to get off your butt and start doing. Only you can write your own incredible story.
Live your dreams
Live your own dreams, not someone else’s. We often spend a huge chunk of our lives being totally unselfish helping special people in our lives achieve their dreams. Perhaps we will support a partner while they are studying or working a demanding job with crazy hours while we tend house and raise children. It is never too late to go after your own. Maybe you’d like to go back to school, do a short course, start a new career. Be selfish enough to realise your own full potential.
Don’t waste your life on a love that isn’t. True love means waking up in the morning and realising that there is no one else you would rather have next to you. True love is not always sexy. It needs awareness, discipline, effort, sacrifice, love even when the other person is truly not lovable! It also means having all of this returned to you in equal amounts. A healthy relationship says “I choose to be with you”.
Love your Work
There is no easy street, no lotto millionaires (for most of us anyway!), or fall from the sky riches and this means that to survive in this big old world of ours we have to work to earn and keep ourselves and loved ones fed, clothed and with a safe place to lay our head at night. You need to LOVE your work, connect with it and be the best you can be at it. If you don’t or can’t envisage this happening where you are perhaps it’s time to look around and find out what really inspires you.
Be the bigger person!
Don’t let someone else’s bad or uncontrollable behaviour weigh you down, and don’t buy into it. Maintaining self-control, whilst the other person is having a temper tantrum is a huge victory. By walking away you refuse to allow another’s worries to be added to yours. They need to own their own, just as you will own yours.
A person very close to me once told me, “It will be alright in the end, if it’s not alright, it’s not the end”. This remark was at a turning point in my life when I certainly did more than my share of worrying. She was and still is very smart and wise beyond her years and I have never forgotten these words, often recalling them when I find myself worrying way too much!
We want to see what you worry about that you know you can’t change. Check out our goodbye worries gallery above, where the SAHM team send their worries out to the universe. Write yours on a piece of card or paper, and upload a selfie with the hashtag #SAHMGoodbyeWorries and give it back to the Universe. It’s time to find your extraordinary!!
Post a selfie with the hashtag #SAHMGoodbyeWorries and say goodbye to the worries you can’t do anything about. Stay at Home Mum may use your image in a follow up photo gallery post about this topic, if you do not give us permission to do so, please do not post an image. Thank you! Stay at Home Mum