I get this. To me, this scenario is so damn relatable.
On a level of ‘stop jamming your dick in my back every morning’ to ‘put your fucking clothes in the washing basket’, I one hundred percent get how this occurs.
My friends and I have often considered leaving our partners for each other because we are literally sick of men’s shit. Men are needy little arseholes that do the bare minimum to help at home. They piss on the toilet seat and call it ‘babysitting’ when they’re looking after their own kids.
‘Our’ children are actually your responsibility too and looking after them is called being a dad.
I honestly don’t think I could actually do it though. Although I feel the emotional support and understanding you can only find in another woman would totally be worth it, I just don’t know if I could swap the D for the V. So why is it, that over the past few years, women all over the world have been leaving their long-term heterosexual relationships for other women? It’s been happening so often it’s nearly verging on being fashionable, but as always, there’s a little more to it than that.
Famous celebrities such as Cynthia Nixon who played Miranda Hobbs in ‘Sex and the City’ left a 15-year marriage after falling in love with another woman.
Danny Mozes was Cynthia’s high-school sweetheart and the couple shared two children. None of that stopped her from being openly gay following a very long heterosexual relationship and believes that although she’s now with a woman, her sexual orientation hasn’t really changed. For Cynthia, it was about falling in love and not defined by the gender of the person she fell in love with.
Being gay is certainly not as taboo as it used to be. People are becoming more accepting of same sex couples and the broad spectrum sexuality of the human race in general. It seems it’s no longer about identifying as being gay, but rather realising our sexual orientation is fluid and you really can’t help who you fall in love with.
Even if that someone is of the same sex.
Now that the world has started to awaken, it’s actually okay to open up about your sexuality. Instead of being trapped in gender typical relationships based on social expectations, woman are breaking the chains and getting real about what they want and how they feel.
In a marriage, the emotional leg work relies heavily on the woman.
As we evolve and men are continuously encouraged to open up about their feelings, it would seem we still have a long way to go. Therefore, a large majority of the emotional aspects of our relationships are left to women to maintain. It’s a mentally challenging task, thinking and feeling for everyone in the home and when you don’t have someone to lean on for support, it can be overwhelming and very exhausting.
Being with another woman, that obligation is halved. Another female would have the same deep emotional connections and both support and participate in maintaining an emotionally healthy relationship environment.
It’s the same when it comes to domestic duties. It’s gender typical and we’ve been accustomed to believing general household chores should be completed by the female counterpart in a relationship.
The world is now accepting of women working away from the home; so why is it we are still expected to do all the cleaning as well? If you’re with a woman, there’s no such thing as domestic dominance and therefore, the wall of expectation to do it alone is broken down.
Domestic duties are shared and not a one-sided shit show for an overwhelmed wife.
Sometimes, women have left their long-term heterosexual relationships because they’ve always been gay.
There’s an emphasis on the fact that you only live once and if you don’t go for what you want, you’ll end up on your death bed with regrets. This has spurred women on to start voicing how they feel and reaching out for what they want because their happiness depends on it.
Plenty of women, and I’m sure men, have stayed in heterosexual relationships simply because they felt obligated too. It was expected and the shame they would feel surrounding their sexuality once exposed, would leave them emotionally destroyed.
Global opinions are changing and the consequences, although for some are still very negative, means openly gay people have far more support than they used to. The LGBTQ community is based completely on the promotion of love.
In Australia, recently, we’ve witnessed love winning every time, even when the minority seem to stifle the general consensus. Love is love and the LGBTQ community will welcome you with open arms and support you in your decision to pursue your happiness – because it’s everyone’s right to experience it.
The media have assisted in this global movement by reporting on famous lesbian celebrities such as Ellen, Magda Szubanski, Ruby Rose, and Meredith Baxter (the loveable mother from ‘Family Ties’) who couldn’t have played a more gender typical role, believed after three broken marriages her same sex relationships lead to an awakening.
It made her realise why she’d never been happily married in all of her previous heterosexual relationships and eventually married her girlfriend ‘Nancy Locke’ in 2005. Meredith said she’d always had trouble connecting with men and upon discovering the reality of her sexuality, it put the rest of her life into perspective.
It seems that gender typical marriages are no longer the pinnacle of mainstream society’s example of contented, long lasting relationships. In our pursuit of happiness, we are together breaking down deep-rooted and stereotypically conditioned thought patterns.
For me, I totally get it.
Although men are gradually realising the unfair expectations they have of the woman in their lives, the progress is slow and painful. There are still many rivers to cross before this bullshit male ego-mania is inhibited and a woman can bloom supported and free of gender stereotypes.
But, in the meantime, if you’re a man and you’d like to decrease the potential risk of your partner leaving you for another woman, start with picking up your fucking laundry.
It’s really not that hard to put your damn clothes in the basket.