Getting Closure When a Relationship Ends

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Getting Closure When a Relationship Ends

Not all happily ever after’s end up that way. In fact, according to recent statistics the divorce rate for couples is around 50 percent. What this means is that one in every two marriages will end in divorce. And this number doesn’t account for non-married relationships. If your relationship with your partner has come to an end, whether it ended amicably or through a nasty divorce, this can be a hard thing to recover from, financially, physically and emotionally. It takes time and courage to walk away from a relationship and to start again on your own.

Nothing quite says it’s over like being served with divorce papers. However, there are other ways to help you move forward and rid yourself of the bad energy that can come from a break up. Below are some tips to help you put an end to this chapter of your life and open a new page in the most positive way possible:

Artwork Rework

Removing a loved one from your life is a lot harder when you have pictures of you together all over the house. So start by taking down these photos. You don’t have to burn them in a metaphorical fire but you shouldn’t have to have them on display either. You may choose to keep these pictures and other memorabilia in a scrapbook or you may wish to discard them. The relationship, even if it has ended, is still an important part of your life and you may not wish to completely forget about the good times. Buy some new art and frame new photos that you love. Focus on positive images and bright colours to lift your spirits. Choose photos of family and friends and other things that will make you smile.

Getting Closure When a Relationship EndsWrite it Out

When a relationship ends you most likely still have a lot to say. And while you may get your chance to discuss the problems with your ex in counselling or through divorce mediation, there are often so many other things you want to say that may be inappropriate or just too hurtful. So spend some time in front of the keyboard jotting down notes and feelings. Write down good and bad memories, write stories or poems or even write a letter to them (that you never post). This can help you recover emotionally and reflect on what has happened. Spending a few hours typing your heart out can be very therapeutic.

Plan Ahead

Make a list of different goals over different periods of time to work towards on your own. They can be little goals, such as buying a pair of shoes, or larger ones, such as going on a holiday alone. Having these little goals to focus on can help get you in a better frame of mind.

Learn Something New

When you become reliant on someone for so long, it can be hard to go back to being completely independent. Even little things, like fuelling the car with gas or paying the bills, can seem extra hard if this was always something that your partner took care of. So reclaim your independence and re-use these skills. Even better take a course or ask some help to learn additional skills that were typically left to your partner.

Give Yourself Time

Shutting the door on an old relationship often doesn’t completely happen until a new door has been opened. However, don’t rush into a new relationship too soon as it can leave you feeling the sting twice as hard in the long run. Instead, open the door on a new relationship with yourself. Get to know yourself again. After all, you are your own best date!

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Jody Allen

Jody is the founder and essence of Stay at Home Mum. An insatiable appetite for reading from a very young age had Jody harbouring dreams of being a pu...Read Moreblished author since primary school. That deep-seeded need to write found its way to the public eye in 2011 with the launch of SAHM. Fast forward 4 years and a few thousand articles Jody has fulfilled her dream of being published in print. With the 2014 launch of Once a Month Cooking and 2015's Live Well on Less, thanks to Penguin Random House, Jody shows no signs of slowing down. The master of true native content, Jody lives and experiences first hand every word of advertorial she pens. Mum to two magnificent boys and wife to her beloved Brendan; Jody's voice is a sure fire winner when you need to talk to Mums. Read Less

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