Period sex is one of those things that people just don’t talk about.
Of course, people now talk about sex more – well, most people do, however, some aspects still remain taboo. Period Sex is something many women, and men, consider dirty, icky and best left alone. But the thing is, period sex might actually be a good thing – for both you and your partner!
Period sex, although often considered taboo or avoided due to societal stigma, is a completely natural and normal aspect of sexual activity.
And even if it’s a topic people avoid talking about, a lot of women actually have sex or have had sex during their period. In fact, this study tried to gauge women’s views on period sex and out of 500 women, 82% have sex during their period – read more about it here.
You’re probably here because you’re curious, or it’s possible that you’re considering it, but understanding the facts can help alleviate worries and make informed decisions. Here are some things you definitely want to know about period sex:
Period sex can relieve painful cramps and migraines
Got cramps? Well, period sex could sort those out for you big time! See, when you have sex, and reach the top of that wonderful mountain we call orgasm, your body pumps delightful chemicals called endorphins all over the body.
Those are the best! We love them not just because they make us feel so warm and fuzzy inside, but also because they knock cramps on the head.
Another nasty symptom that sometimes comes with it are migraines, half of the women I know experience it and it’s probably the worst time of the month. But this study found out that many of those who did have period sex partially and some, completely relieved their migraine.
I don’t know if it’s really because of having sex, or if it’s because I read these studies and convinced myself, but I’m telling you it did! And the better the orgasm, the less pain I experienced for the rest of the days I had period. Natural pain killer!
Period Sex Can Help You Relax
You know that super stress that rears its ugly head when Aunty Flo comes to stay? It’s the kind of stress that makes you want to scream murder at anyone who dares step in your way while PMS is running wild in your body?
Well, sex can help with that, too. It’s those endorphins again making us pain-free in all areas of our body, and stress-free anywhere we need it.
Period Sex can make your period shorter
What magical words.
You certainly heard it right, ladies, because it turns out that having a romp around in the bedroom can actually lessen the time you spend bleeding during your period. It has to do with endometrial shedding.
Having sex, and a really good orgasm, can increase the endometrial shedding, which means that although you might bleed a little heavier afterwards, your period may be shorter.
I’ve only told you 3 benefits of having period sex so far, but I am pretty sure you’re already convinced and thinking of doing it during that time of the month.
Just in case you feel hesitant still, here’s a tip: TOYS.
Research suggests that using sex toys during menstruation can help couples explore each other’s bodies and discover new sources of pleasure. Vibrators can stimulate erogenous zones and enhance arousal, potentially leading to more intense orgasms.
Yep, toys are great for pleasure even during your period. It’s also a great way to convince your partner to do it. If you are wondering where to buy vibrators online or other toys, here are some recommendations.
Lovehoney MON AMI Silicone G-Spot Dual Vibrating Massager
Soothing pleasure, even on your period.
Designed for comfort and curve-hugging precision, the MON AMI Dual Vibrating Massager is your go-to self-care essential—especially during your period. Its gentle, rumbly vibrations and ergonomic shape help relieve menstrual cramps, ease pelvic tension, and bring soothing pleasure when you need it most.
With 10 settings (3 speeds and 7 patterns) and two powerful motors targeting the G-spot and clitoris, it’s a luxurious tool for both intimate release and period pain relief. The soft-touch silicone feels smooth against the skin, while the flexible clitoral arm adapts to your body’s natural shape—even when you’re feeling extra sensitive.
Plus, it’s 100% waterproof—making warm, vibey baths a whole new kind of comfort ritual.
Why it’s perfect for your period:
- Helps reduce cramps and tension with low, rumbly vibrations
- Compact, non-intimidating design—great for sensitive days
- Made from body-safe silicone that’s easy to clean
- Doubles as a self-soothing massager for lower abdomen or thighs
Who says your period can’t be pleasurable?
If you’re more into rabbits, the Selopa Bunny is a great pick!
It’s an exceptional vibrator. Designed to precisely perform both clitoral and internal stimulation, it features a rotating shaft for internal pleasure, and the rabbit-shaped attachment plays with the clitoris. It’s waterproof and comfortable, just clean with soap and water once you’re done.
The only problem you’ll have with this is that it will make you come too fast – when your partner just started enjoying.
Lovehoney Clitoral Suction Stimulator
Gentle suction, big results—especially when you’re on your period.
The Lovehoney Clitoral Suction Stimulator delivers focused, fluttering pleasure through pulse-wave technology that gently stimulates the clitoris without direct contact. Think of it as your personal pleasure airbrush—soft, precise, and orgasmically effective.
Its petite size and curved ergonomic handle make it super easy to use even when you’re not feeling your most flexible (hello, period bloat days). With 10 intensity levels, you’re in control of everything from teasing pulses to toe-curling climaxes. Plus, the body-safe silicone feels dreamy on sensitive skin, and it’s totally waterproof—so a warm, vibey bath can become your new period ritual.
Perfect for: Those seeking gentle-yet-intense clitoral stimulation—especially during that time of the month when you deserve extra TLC.
Period comfort meets precision pleasure.
Lifelike Lover Luxe Thrusting and Rotating Dildo – 8 Inch
Real-feel. Deep reach. All the right moves—even on your period.
If you crave lifelike sensations with next-level motion, the Lifelike Lover Luxe Thrusting and Rotating Dildo delivers in full. Literally. With its thrusting shaft, rotating head, and textured realism, this 8-inch silicone stud mimics the feeling of a passionate partner—anytime you want.
The smooth, body-safe silicone glides easily (especially with lube) and feels extra comforting during your cycle. 3 thrusting and 3 rotation settings give you control over every rhythm, while the bulbed head massages just right. Whether you want deep satisfaction or a slow, massaging build-up to relieve pelvic tension or menstrual cramps, this toy is your luxe go-to.
Why it’s great during your period:
- Thrusting motion helps ease internal cramping and release tension
- Fullness and movement without needing active effort—perfect for low-energy days
- Smooth silicone is gentle on bloated, sensitive areas
- Hands-free base lets you focus on pleasure, not positioning
Features:
- 8-inch insertable length with lifelike shape and feel
- 3 speeds of thrusting + 3 rotation settings
- Made from high-grade silicone—body-safe and easy to clean
- USB rechargeable and includes a suction-cup base
- Great for solo or strap-on play
Perfect for: Those who want a realistic, hands-free vibe with depth and motion—especially when self-care is top priority.
Maintaining good hygiene practices is important whether it’s period sex or normal sex, especially when using sex toys. It is a must to clean sex toys before and after each use to prevent the spread of bacteria and reduce the risk of infections. Using condoms on sex toys can also help maintain hygiene and make cleanup easier.
Period Sex can feel better than normal sex
You’ve probably noticed that you’re a little more…frisky during that time of the month? Who are we kidding, you’re a raging sex machine! Anyway, periods do make women hornier. The increased blood flow to the pelvic area during menstruation can enhance arousal and sensitivity, potentially leading to more pleasurable experiences.
That means when you give in to the temptation, you’re going to be enjoying one hell of a pleasurable ride.
Period sex is totally safe for the penis
There are a lot of things that might turn people off from having sex and some are concerned for their junk. For some reason, there’s a stigma going around that period blood is somehow dangerous for the d-rod and that it can ‘infect’ the penis. LOL
Period sex with a male partner is perfectly healthy, and although it might be a little messy, there’s no danger there, folks. Menstrual blood itself is sterile and does not pose any health risks when it comes in contact with the penis.
However, it’s important that doing it should be agreed upon and wanted by everyone involved. So if one of you does not feel “safe” putting the male genital into the vag yet, refer to this list of toys (click here) and use it to have fun *wink*. You’ll definitely come and everyone goes to bed happy.
Period sex CAN help strengthen relationships
Communication is key – such a cliche right? But it’s one of the hardest things to deal with. Being in a relationship requires communicating your desires and also understanding each other’s boundaries. Sex is one of the hardest things to talk about among many other topics.
Being able to talk about where one stands in uncomfortable topics such as period sex, about consent, preferences, considering each other’s pleasure and satisfaction is such a feat. It is soo not sexy!
But if you get past it, and actually enjoy doing it after being open to each other is such a wonderful experience that will ultimately help strengthen the relationship. From one uncomfortable topic, you can talk about other important topics as as well, slowly it becomes easier and more comfortable.
Ok now for the not-so-good stuff…
Oops! Period sex CAN still result in pregnancy
If you thought period sex was an easy way to make sure that you could enjoy some unprotected hanky-panky without having to worry about a visit from the stork, you’re wrong. There is always a possibility that you could get pregnant with period sex, or any sex for that matter when you aren’t protected.
Plus, those little tadpoles can live for as long as 7 days, so unless you want a bundle of joy, consider putting a raincoat on or consider having sex without penetration.
Period Sex can make it easier to get an STI
Well, that’s not great. Turns out that because the cervix is slightly more open when you’re having your period, you’re actually at a higher risk of contracting a sexual transmitted infection! That’s just another reason, among so many, why you really should be having protected sex if you decide to engage in a bit of period lovin’.
Period sex is more common than you think. We might not like to talk about period sex, but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen.
Ultimately, whether you choose to engage in period sex is a personal choice. Communicate with your partner, respect boundaries and make sure to practise good hygiene to avoid infections.
Period Sex FAQs
How do you cope with the mess during period sex?
There are several ways to make sure you lessen or experience no mess at all. First, have sex in the shower. Or if that’s not something you want, you can either place a dark coloured towel on the bed ! If you are really into period sex or messy sex in general (go you!) – invest in a rubber sheet. Think of all the fun you can have on that!!
I’m on my period but don’t want to bleed over my partner, what do I do?
Well, I’m hoping that you are close enough to your partner to be able to discuss it, but if you are really worried about it, look at something like a Diaphragm (you will need to see your GP and get measured up for one) – this puts a barrier between your cervix and the penis. The diaphragm will catch any blood – and won’t leak.
There is also a product on the market called a ‘Ziggy Cup’ which is similar to the diaphragm and sits like a disc at the top of your vagina. The Ziggy Cup is perfect for women on their period.
Do men like period sex?
Look, if you are open and confident and he is open and confident, you don’t have a problem. Sure it isn’t for everyone but talk about. Most men don’t mind, or even find it a bit naughty so will be keen!
Now that you know, has your opinion on period sex changed at all? Would you consider doing it now if you’ve never done it? Or have we turned you off entirely?
Have your say!