A mother has shared an emotional post about how experiencing a miscarriage changed the way she sees life.
In a post for the Love What Matters Facebook page, Emily Christine shared her miscarriage story, her grief, and her message of support for other women who are facing similar heartache.
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Emily wrote that she was eight weeks pregnant when she and her husband went for an ultrasound and was really over the moon.
“I saw the images right in front of me,” she wrote.
“My heart was beating out of my chest. This was exciting!“
However, Emily noticed something was wrong. “These images were different than the ones I’ve seen on Facebook that all my girlfriends had posted,” she wrote.
“I saw nothing because my body was just hours away from miscarrying.”
Her husband tried to reassure her that “everything is fine”, but Emily wrote that she had seen “hundreds” of ultrasound photos and had searched Instagram for the hashtag “8 weeks” to see what her growing baby looked like, and discovered hers wasn’t like any she saw.
She was sent home to let her body “naturally run its course”.
She explained that her doctor warned her about what to expect, but she didn’t warn her about “everything that would happen after the initial heartbreak and pain.”
Emily wrote that she didn’t know that she’d be reminded for weeks to come — the time it took for her body to “clean out”.
“She didn’t tell me that my body was going to continue thinking it was pregnant for weeks to come,” Emily continued. “She didn’t tell me how hard it was going to be to tell people I was fine when I wasn’t.”
“And she didn’t tell me that it was going to be so hard losing someone I had never met.”
She said about how hard it was to watch her husband weep, and how hard it would be to tell her own mother about their loss.
She also wrote about turning into a jealous person “overnight”, making it difficult for her to answer the question, “When are you having kids?”.
However, the doctor did tell Emily it was okay to cry – and that she wasn’t alone.
“Miscarriage is SO real and so common, in fact, one out of four women experience a miscarriage,” she wrote.
“As large as this statistic is,” Emily continued, “I still felt alone and I have finally figured out why: because no one talks about miscarriage.”
But, Emily said she decided to talk to her mum, her sister, her aunt, and her friends, and it was then she realised how many women have experienced the same heartbreak and pain. She wrote:
I hope that you won’t feel alone.
I hope that you let yourself cry.
I hope that you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.
I hope that though your faith will be tested, you will be strong.
I hope you find peace.
I hope you won’t be afraid to try again.
I hope that you don’t blame yourself.
I hope that your friends hug you a little tighter.
I hope that you give someone else hope through your hardship
I hope that you are a light in the darkest of time.
“and I hope that you celebrate that baby’s life as much as you celebrate the next because no matter how short a life, all life deserves to be celebrated and all loss should be mourned.