My wife and I have had a long struggle with my sons side of the family which included her older now 19 year old sister which she never liked either. Things were said on both ends my wife and ex wife when I didn’t attend her 15th bday which at the time we had just gotten married. She knew about her from day 1 yet she never wanted her in our life. I raised this girl since 4 years old.

Now we have a little 2 year old grip together it’s been working because I’ve kept our family completely separated as best I can from my sons side of the family. My ex has been wanting to make amends and just be in a better place for the sake of the kids. My ex wife went through my phone and blew up saying that me laughing or sending innocent memes here and there was very In appropriate with my ex wife. It truly is all about my son when we text and the memes are in context with something he did funny or what not. She insists I don’t respect her and I disagree because she has a very similar relationship with her sons dad from her previous marriage. I never get involved in what they need to do for him nor have I ever gone through her phone. This is the 4th time she does it and she always hates almost anything outside me being just a cold dead texter/communicator with my ex wife. If I answer and laugh or even chuckle at something it’s a huge fight, if I make a funny or sarcastic comment back it’s a huge fight, if I help out a woman at random with anything as being a gentleman it’s a huge fight. Almost anything with another female is a huge fight which I don’t even have any female friends which is crazy. I feel so controlled and like things have to go how she sees it and what’s important to me is not even considered. I fought so hard to keep my step daughter in my life but it was always a huge fight, it ended up just breaking. As long as nothing blends from my sons side then things are “ok” at home. It’s a lot and I don’t know what to do I’m tired and exhausted of this. Any advice please?