So my husband and I only have sex at most 3 times a month. He feels on me all the time and talks about sex 24-7 but wont let me touch him. He says he has a headache, his stomach hurts, or he has issues sustaining an erection when I ask for sex. He only sleeps with me when I dont want to have sex. But sometimes when hes sleeping he will get on top of me kiss and hump me like he wants to have sex during the middle of the night. My questions are why does he touch on me talk about sex and do nothing? And why does he hump me when he sleeps? And why does he only have sex with me when I dont want to?
I was very upset the day before. Last night I couldn't sleep and at 2 am I woke him and ask if he could just hold me for a while till I fall asleep. I took a xanax and drifted off. I woke up with my husband having sex with me and I asked him what do you think you doing. I wanted you to hold me and that was it. This morning he didnt spoke to me and I asked him do you know what you did was wrong? And he replied hy saying I thought I was awake so I ask were my eyes open and did I say anything to make you think it's ok. I told him you violated me and I'm sleeping in another room. What should I do? Is it rape? Am I overreacting?