I think her boss sounds silly and it would do my head in too. You are right that she should not worry about what her boss does but it's kind of hard not to when they broadcast such nonsense. Unfortunately with the power imbalance op can't speak up so I think it's fine for her to vent and telling her to get over herself is rude and agressive.

You sound like an amazing mum 💕

Yes, but not all single mums are “going it alone”. Some have lots of support & people to help whenever needed. The lady I’m talking about has her Mum pretty much raising her daughter while she goes out with friends and has fun. She still puts it out there that she deserves sympathy & preferential treatment. There are also scenarios of 50/50 care, or having breaks every weekend or second weekend. There a partnered parents who NEVER have a break, have no money to spend on themselves and live a thankless life(just as there are single mums in this situation). The label single mum does not automatically equal impoverished, no support, never get a break, down trodden victim. If someone is in a situation of grief, poverty, or has no help, then yes, I am sympathetic. But the mums who are quite well supported and are doing well financially don’t get any more sympathy than any other mum just because they happen to be single. Being a single mum is not always a position to be Pitied....

^^^^ exactly.

That’s harsh. But a question, if you don’t throw it in for sympathy, why do you throw it in at all? I guess that’s what she’s asking.

Well its part of life, do you ever say, ‘my husband and i....’ - if so why do you do it??

Yes id say Joe and I went to the shops. But I don’t say I’m married and I went to the shops. So wouldn’t you just say the kids and I went to the shops? Or do you say I went to the shops and it was hard because I’m a single mother.

OP here- I’m not a housewife, I work full time. I’m not judging people just for being single mums, I’m judging single mums who think that everyone should feel sorry for them, or give them preferential treatment or free stuff based on the fact they are single. There are single mums with little support, there are also those who have lots of support. This is true of married mums too. You could have a husband who is as useless. Husband does not equal privileged & well supported. I have 2 close friends, both married, expected to work & bear the Lions share of parenting load. I don’t think they are better off or happier than another friend of mine who is a single mum- she shares 50/50 custody & has lots of “me time” & a mum & other close family who help out a lot with her kids when she has them. She works part time, gets Centrelink & has a new boyfriend she has plenty of time to spend with. Having it tough depends on your personal circumstances, not on the fact that you are a single mum.

If you have such strong opinions man up and say something to her rather than throw your shade and generalise. I actually am not a single mother nor do I know any, but seriously if you find it offensive like you do, say something - or ask her!!

^^ This 👍

Why does it have to impact her life? It’s a discussion page. She’s noting something that annoys her. Do you think the same way about all the questions posted on here?

Most of us understood what you meant. SOME people get very defensive.

I could be wrong but I took the op to mean single mums who use their status to take advantage of people. For example all the ones that post I need a new fridge and washing machine. I’m a single mum. Can anyone mow my lawns, I’m a single mum.

Sure they're examples but she wrote why do single mothers always....etc

^oh yeah i hate that too

Well, don't use Facebook then.

*her
Not them
OP is talking about ONE person

I think the commenter is making the point that we are talking about a single, single mum, not all single mums.

So this one single mum is ruining the Ops life huh?

The start of her post she says single mothers, thus referring to more than one single mother. Again - don't listen to them

^I spotted that too. Mothers - plural

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The single parent card is well used for that. I do the same thing, it’s a casual way to drop it into the conversation that you’re single without straight out hitting on someone who might have a partner. It’s the only time I use it too 😂

Omg, i didnt realise this and i said it to one of the school dads the other day, cant remember the context and he did look at me weird!!! OMG OMG OMG 🤣😂

Awesome 😂😂

Op here- thanks for your reply. I’m sure many didn’t choose it, just like no-one else chose any of the shitty situations they might find themselves in. Good for her, doing the best she can. I should have said “some single Mums”, because you are right, not all single Mums expect pity or to be put before others based on being single and having kids. I’m mostly just thinking of women who are actually quite privileged & have plenty of help but still like to put it out there that they deserve sympathy. Or the types another commenter mentioned who think they should get goods & services for free or given preference just because “I am a single mum”. That statement doesn’t tell me much about your situation, except that you aren’t in a relationship. If you’ve been to hell and back, or you’ve had someone close to you die (maybe your husband) or you’re ill, or your kid has special needs- those tell me more about why someone may expect/need help & sympathy. “I’m a single Mum” makes my eyes roll!