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Housework expectations for husband working long shifts.
Answered 5 years ago
My husband has a physically demanding job and works 10 -11 hour shifts four days a week. Obviously I don't expect him to do anything on his work days, but he expects me to still do everything on his day off. I have said he has to get the kids to and from school, tidy up, cook dinner and hang out a load of washing. I don't think that's unfair. I work full time and work later on his day off so I can be home earlier on the other days. Am I being unfair?
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5 years ago
I think that's reasonable
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5 years ago
I don't think that is an unreasonable ask at all! He has plenty of time to chill and relax. My husband works 10-12 hours a day 5 days a week (plus the occasional Saturday) and every night he does the dishes (we don't have a dishwasher) and helps to fold and put the washing way.
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5 years ago
Get a dishwasher
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5 years ago
Won’t kill him to help you 30 min on his day off
Go on strike
Go on strike
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5 years ago
I don’t think you’re being unfair.
My partner works full time, not in a physically demanding job but a mentally demanding one. Even on the days he works he finishes and plays with the kids, baths them, puts them to sleep then comes out to tidy the house. I work part time and study part time in a pretty demanding course so some days I am out of the house from 6am-6pm, so when he is home I am mostly studying or trying to relax a little bit.
You both work, you’re the mother who lets face it deals with a lot more things than he does (because us as women generally have a lot more on our plate then the males do). there needs to be a balance in all household jobs to ensure everybody is happy. And it shouldn’t all be put onto you to do.
My partner works full time, not in a physically demanding job but a mentally demanding one. Even on the days he works he finishes and plays with the kids, baths them, puts them to sleep then comes out to tidy the house. I work part time and study part time in a pretty demanding course so some days I am out of the house from 6am-6pm, so when he is home I am mostly studying or trying to relax a little bit.
You both work, you’re the mother who lets face it deals with a lot more things than he does (because us as women generally have a lot more on our plate then the males do). there needs to be a balance in all household jobs to ensure everybody is happy. And it shouldn’t all be put onto you to do.
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5 years ago
My hubby works similar days/shifts and he is a shift worker. On his days on he doesn't do anything but I don't expect him too, same as you. On his days off (sometimes 4 or 5 days depending on the swing) he does a fair bit of housework. I usually have to ask him to do specific things but he does get in and give a hand. I don't think you are being unfair, I think he is being unfair and relying on you too much. Sometimes mine gets lazy so I go on strike, he soon learnt that I'm not the maid and pulled his weight