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Answered 4 years ago
I don't think my husband is in love with me anymore.
I think he stays with me so he doesn't miss out in the kids (I would never ever keep them from him, they adore him) but he wouldn't see them as much if we didn't live together.
There's more reasons but these are the top two. Don't know how to deal with this one.. Would you say something?
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4 years ago
How has this worked out op?
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5 years ago
A lot of married men at my work are exactly like this. All they see are smart successful woman around them working and parenting and they wonder why their wives can’t do this. The burden of working demanding full time jobs and then they are surrounded by capable woman at work makes them think twice. They don’t know the sacrifices we have made. They don’t realize that our households are run with military precision and we have partners who are helping. Men generally are lazy, so if you want to keep him make is life easy, exercise your ass off ( literally) starve yourself do you can be a size 6-8. Put money aside for nice sexy fitting clothes and learn how to do beauty treatments at home. Just because you are a mum your life isn’t just your kids it does include him too and he wants to come home to the sexy woman he married not another mum bod who doesn’t pay him any attention.
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5 years ago
Wow... so if she wants to keep him she has to put in all the effort while he gets to be a lazy prick? Not worth keeping if that's the case.
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5 years ago
I can't believe this response! How crazy that some women think this is how life / love is. By all means take time out for yourself but the partner in this relationship needs to step up too. Can't believe you even suggested she starve herself. Just ridiculous.
OP don't pay any attention to this reply. By all means exercise and make some time for yourself but maybe try talking to your partner and making time with him to help get the spark back in your relationship. Have a candlelit dinner and enjoy some quiet conversation or a movie once the kids are in bed. If you want to rekindle that is. If it is over for you - I would suggest a serious talk with your partner and maybe part ways.
OP don't pay any attention to this reply. By all means exercise and make some time for yourself but maybe try talking to your partner and making time with him to help get the spark back in your relationship. Have a candlelit dinner and enjoy some quiet conversation or a movie once the kids are in bed. If you want to rekindle that is. If it is over for you - I would suggest a serious talk with your partner and maybe part ways.
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5 years ago
This is the response I would’ve told myself would work when I was around 20 and married with 1 child.
I’m in my 30’s now and although I keep myself almost immaculately I would never feel inadequate enough to think I needed to do this to keep my husband.
It’s absurd to put such effort in when real love let’s you be comfortable in your own skin. I’m lucky I have a beautiful relationship with my husband - it took many years of hard work and dedication but we stuck through everything together and always treated each other with dignity and respect.
I’m in my 30’s now and although I keep myself almost immaculately I would never feel inadequate enough to think I needed to do this to keep my husband.
It’s absurd to put such effort in when real love let’s you be comfortable in your own skin. I’m lucky I have a beautiful relationship with my husband - it took many years of hard work and dedication but we stuck through everything together and always treated each other with dignity and respect.
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5 years ago
Thanks for episode 1 on "how to be a doormat"
Some of us are humans so thanks but no thanks.
Some of us are humans so thanks but no thanks.
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5 years ago
is he also exercising, restricting his calories and in shape? LOL
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5 years ago
Well, you either ask him and face the consequences of what he may say, or try to make things better. You didn't mention that you love him? If not, can you live together without the love?
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5 years ago
YOLO
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5 years ago
Are the kids in their teen years yet?
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5 years ago
No they are under ten
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5 years ago
Make him fall in love with you all over again. Look up a book called “The Love Dare”. Marriage is hard work and staying in love with someone takes commitment. It’s a choice to stay even when your feelings aren’t exactly where you want them to be. Feelings change, but they can change back again too. Too many people now think they deserve happiness, and walk away from their commitments in marriage because of their feelings. I hated my husband for about 10 years of our marriage, but now my love for him is more than I ever could have imagined. He persevered through that anger and resentment, and I never walked out on him or my family. I could have saved myself years of misery if I had decided to forgive/love/accept him earlier. Loving eachother is a choice, and he has shown that he is willing to stick around even when he’s not feeling it - so help him feel it again. Good luck 💗
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5 years ago
Yes I would!
Especially if my happiness and marriage is at stake
Especially if my happiness and marriage is at stake