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I would say he has a prob addiction also. And you said his phone history is clean, but if he is addicted there are ways for him to still look. My husband would do private searches, Facebook, Instagram or delete specific things he searched. We have worked through it and things are much better now, but we almost split up over it as we would rarely have sex or if he did, it would be over very quickly, or he would only want it after viewing porn. I hope you can work through this!
This sounds similar to my marriage as others have stated it is devastating. I don’t really have a solution sorry. Also as above I know my hubby has a problem with porn addiction so I’m fairly certain that has something to do with it. Anyway just wanted to let you know your not alone!
Does he watch a lot of porn? Maybe takes away from his actual need to have sex
Maybe reluctance is his kink and he gets turned on trying to make you want it instead of having on a plate?
It's a thing 🤷♀️
You could test that theory by playing coy and pretending not to be that in to it when he touches you up.
3 times a month isn’t terrible. Maybe a little bit of sex and a lot of fantasy is enough for him. I feel it’s more about quality than quantity, so when you do it, do you enjoy it?
Maybe he needs testosterone levels checked by his GP?
Sex is a crucial element in a relationship and if you're not on the same page it can really destroy you! Is hubby open to talking about it?
Maybe there is a physical reason and he is too embarrassed. Or maybe he is afraid of pregnancy.Sounds like there is still a desire there but he just doesnt want to do the actual act for some reason. There are many possibilities. We here can only speculate. Your husband is the one you need to speak to, and it sounds like you’ve tried.