Some of us like it rough, we are not all vanilla

Usually rough sex between consenting adults doesn't result in anyone being "hurt". The pain one feels is part of the pleasure. I would much rather a guy who liked rough sex found a consenting partner than putting someone vulnerable through it.
My husband likes to chain me up, handcuff me and use nipple clamps. He spanks me and " strangles" me. I love it and so does he. Obviously our sex life is not for you but it's ours and it works for us so that's all that matters. And just to let you know - you would have no idea that we like it kinky and rough in the bedroom. We are a totally normal couple / family to the outside eye.

Hmmm, not liking rough sex in no way makes you vanilla. Grow up.

What you have described above actually does not sound "rough" at all, and that is not what I am talking about. And you sound like a loving couple who likes to have hot nasty sex. Go you guys! When "rough sex" becomes demeaning is something else entirely and then when the other party is calling the unwilling party names like "vanilla" or "frigid" it is disgusting. And it happens all the time.

Your talking about consent to rough sex not rough sex. Two very different things. Once 1 person says "no or the safe word" its all over.

What you like in the bed room if your not vanilla?

I thought this question was about rough sex and how you like it eg consenting ?

I have plenty of self respect, I just enjoy pain. It’s a kink just like foot fucking or titty fucking. Every man who I have let be rough with me has always asked first how far they can go and will stop the moment I say stop. kink shaming people because you can’t accept that some of us actually enjoy it isn’t right. I found it interesting how you only say that women who like to be the sub have no self respect, what about men who like to be the sub? And am I a self serving pig when I dish out the pain, or is that limited to only men?

The main point here, is CONSENT.
Rough sex isn't my thing, I like hard sex but my husband is sooooo vanilla pretty much doggy is too raunchy for him and he doesn't like it *sigh*.
But if two people love it rough and painful and both have rules in place and both consent that's the main thing.
Who are you to judge what two consenting adults do in the bedroom?
Pleasure is subjective. What gets you off might not get anyone else off.

Same

Each to their own. Good for you guys!

Sounds exciting

Full porn style

Yes, totally this!