Am I being unreasonable?
Answered 5 years ago
Help!
I have been married to my husband for just about 10 year!
We have two children together! 8 and 10!
I gave up my full time job up last year to have the children so he could work on his career, and he as been very successful!
Basically cut a long story sort he’s away every week Monday- Thursday.
Sometimes travel all over the world! Can be away for 2 week at a time!
when he arrives home on Thursday all he seems to want to do is go out the his local pub which is fine I understand that he needs to let some steam off as his job is stressful,
what I don’t understand is him going out till 3am so times later, he can’t seem to understand why I have a problem with this Nor why it upsets me, sometimes next day is a complete write off he will stay in bed and work from their,
I have asked why he thinks this is ok but my only answer is
“what’s the problem” he’s not going to stop doing it!
Am I overreacting!? I just feel alone Missable! I feel like a single parent!
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The only answer I get is well what is the difference if I’m back at 11.30 or 4am you will be in bed?! ( i don’t I try and wait up for him)
He basically said he’s not going to stop and if I don’t like it leave! How can some that loves you be so disrespectful! I would leave if I had somewhere to go!
Sorry to say but you should be leaving.
And there ARE places for you to go. First stop is Centrelink to help you out. Once you get your own finances set up then you can look for somewhere to rent. Have read it many times here before that people have no where to go; and others have suggested going to Centrelink for help (delicate that you are separated and still needing to live there as you have no where to go) and they will start paying you as a single parent.
Good luck. I hope you find TRUE happiness with someone that loves you and wants to spend time with you
It is not normal committed married behaviour, basically spending no time at home with wife and children.
Do you ever have family holidays together ?
If he really spends no time with you and the children you might need to consider that he is in the process of moving on, just your home situation is a convenience to him while he has this work pattern.
But what will he do afterwards, or when the children are able to be independent ?
And do you know where all his earnings go to ? Could he be siphoning off money ?
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Don’t get me wrong me and the kids have a great life and don’t really go without anything, but what we need most of all his some of his time that means more than anything!