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How to deal with sending toddler to spend time with dad for the first time?

Answered 1 year ago

Dad is pretty much a stranger to our 3 yr old son althought we both know the importance of having a relationship with both parents, dad recently asked if he could pick our son up for a couple hours. After alot of thinking & tears I agreed. My son and I have NEVER been apart since the day he was born, he is quite literally my whole entire world. Just thinking about being away from my baby & him being confused seems like one of the hardest things I'm ever going to go thru. Please give me tips & advice on how to make this transition hurt a little less!


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1 year ago
Definitely have something planned with friends or family to help keep you distracted. Personally though if your son has never spent any time with his dad then him just coming and taking him for a couple of hours would probably be really hard and upsetting for your son. I know it may not be the nest option for you as you would have to chaperone, but could you start with his dad spending time with him while you're still there (such as at a park if you don't want him in your house). So that your son gets to know this person a little bit before he takes him.

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1 year ago
Can dad come to your house and spend some time with him in his own environment?
Please don’t be a mum that denies access. If his father is wanting to be in his life please let him.
Have a discussion with him about boundaries etc and you should be able to successfully compare t together.

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1 year ago
Change is hard, being away from your child especially when they are your world is tougher. My advice from personal experience is to do a slow transition if the toddler struggles. Don't rush anything of you aren't 100% sure its safe. But if you know your child is safe plan to so some "me" time whilst your child is gone. Catch up with friends do something you cant usually do with a toddler around. Keep busy essentially. Its hard at first but gets easier especially when you see how happy your child is spending time with both parents seperately. All the best.