My wife and I have been married for over 18 years. But as time has gone by, we have drifted apart to the point we've discussed several times the option of divorce. She has threatened me that if I ask for a divorce, I should be ready to leave the house and the kids. I used to be so in love with her, but she grew colder and colder. If not the only grudge she has against me, the number one is that I am obese. She has acknowledged that I am a good father and a good provider. But she can't get over the fact that I am overweight. She is, too btw. She has, in so many words, told me that I repulse her. She complains about the most trivial things. She is always angry. And at one point before our first child, she cheated on me but did not tell me until the children were 7yo. She's given me silent treatments before, and the longest was 3 or 4 days. But this last fight has put us at a week-old silent treatment. What was the fight about? During the pandemic, I stepped up at work and became almost irreplaceable She made a comment that it wasn't that my supervisors valued my work but that I was just their dumb worker that never says no. I knew that her respect for me as a husband had diminished, but now she was criticizing what had never been criticized in my life. All my employers have held me in the highest regard. To the point that I've many times been promoted and given more responsibility. But she saw that as a flaw. She saw me as a Yes Man. And when I defended my work ethic, she became defensive and said that it was the truth. She got up and stormed out. And she has been giving me the silent treatment for a week now. If I call a truce, she tells me it was good I came around and gets all high and mighty. If I don't call a truce, it just gives her more ammunition to continue the silent treatment. I feel that I am damned if I do and damned if I don't.