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Is 40 too old to start over in life?

Answered 1 year ago

I am married but I feel my marriage is hurting us more than making things good. We both feel lonely a lot and we fight soooo much I find myself crying and sad like 3 times a week over the smallest of things, dumb things. But when we fight it affects me so much I can’t bring myself to feel like I can handle life and I check out. I am not even there for my daughter because I am so blinded by the fight, I hate what it does to me and I know I can’t blame her it’s my fault for allowing myself for her to have so much power over me. I just don’t know how to not care! Only way I know is to not be with her. I love her but I hate a lot of things at the same time. My gut tells me to leave I’m hurting my daughter but I can’t bring myself to do it. She doesn’t even show affection to my daughter. I don’t know how to make it better and I’ve tried everything.


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1 year ago
I felt like you at 46! I decided to really communicate with my husband and tell him what I want in our relationship and he was scared I was going to leave so he started changing. He then communicated what he needs. I think it’s about being really honest with your situation and saying if we are not aligned or willing to align then it’s time to call it quits.

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1 year ago
You sound depressed

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1 year ago
Fear is holding you back and age is just a number. Give it a try, it might hurt now but in the future you will realise it was the best thing you could have ever done.

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1 year ago
No way. 40 gets a bad rap. I have so much more confidence then i did it my 30s. You can do anything. And your still hot so go get it while you still can.

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1 year ago
Do it before you die lonely and with regrets that you never did it earlier.
It's really not as hard as you think it'll be ♥

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1 year ago
Of course it’s not too old! But before you call it quits, what about couples counseling?

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1 year ago
My mum was in her mid 40s when she started over. Best thing she ever did.

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1 year ago
Definitely not too old. If you aren't happy, move on.