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Silent treatment

Answered 4 months ago

My husband gave me silent treatment for 7 days because I did not answer him when he spoke to me coz I fell asleep. He always does this but it never lasted so long. My daughter was there and even told him I was asleep. Then seven days later he decides to talk to me but still insist I was awake. I made peace for the sake of my 4 children. I am a sahm, so is financially dependent on him. Is a NZ citizen living in Australia so I can’t receive any assistance from the government.
Now he goes on like nothing happened. And I feel depressed and frustrated. What to do?

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4 months ago
He is a nutter. Leave him, come home to NZ.

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4 months ago
That is actually a form of abuse and I would point out that it is incredibly childish and rude of him to behave that way. Perhapse you need to figure out if you really want to stay in the relationship if that is how he treats you.

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4 months ago
Do you do the grocery shopping? Squirrel away money out of that if you can, just a little each week, until you can afford tickets home. Or, do you have anyone who can help you out with tickets?
Maybe you could start looking for a job once things open up again, or even working online from home. If he won't pay for childcare, butter him up a little "oh babe you work so hard, if I go back to work, I'll be able to take some of the pressure off you". Then take 10-15% of your pay packet and put it aside. Write it off as some kind of tax situation if he gets suspicious.
Regardless, I think you should reach out to a women's shelter, or even a GP, and tell them you'd like to leave him and need advice on what resources you can access. Even if he's not physically abusive, you can still ask for help.
I wish I could give you better advice, I'm sorry you have to put up with this asshole.

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4 months ago
Leave him, go back to NZ.