Fallen out of love with my hubby but fallen for another
Answered 5 years ago
I have been with my hubby for over 15 years we have 3 amazing kids 6,4 and 2 we have really grown apart
He did not support me when I had severe pnd with my son and ended up in hospital he asks me to quit my job because he is changing gears and think it will be an easier transition for the kids if I’m home
Every few months we have a massive fight because I need him to ask me to help with house stuff except cleaning the kitchen (he feels that is enough)
I have become friends with another man and he is sweet and kind and pretty incredible and I have realised I have feelings for him..I know it’s mutual and he is willing to wait for me
I don’t know what to do I know I will crush my hubby because he often begs me to stay with him telling me I Meam everything to him but I don’t feel that way
I think even before met this other personi was only staying for the kids
I feel trapped
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This guy you speak of isn’t sweet, HIS NEW and exciting and listens to you and does everything your husband did when you met him and “fell” for him. Get to couples counseling, rekindle the love, romance and friendship you once had. You’ve got kids to think of as well. Let him know how you’re feeling and if his interested in investing time and effort into the marriage. At least if you eventually walk you know you gave it your best shot. I too was unhappy and bored in my marriage, engaged in an affair with a “sweet” guy and here I am divorced and alone. As one poster said the grass isn’t always greener. Looks to me like you’re already emotionally cheating. Either fix your marriage or end it, you can’t have both options it will destroy you. Speaking from experience.
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I’ve had an affair too. This is exactly how it starts. It’s been a long time since you’ve been desires by your hubby and now your night in shinning armour is in front of you.
I was lucky as I didn’t get caught but it’s a very risky game to play expecially if you have feelings of love for this other person.