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OP, We are a collective of women you don't know and have never met. But I feel like we are all caring for you and thinking of you. You have a strong and difficult road ahead with a few tricky stepping stones to get there. We've got your back mate. It's your choice only and we are all thinking of you, sending our love xx
i always tell my husband that no contraception is 100% sure, so if he is having sex with me and pregnancy occurs we are having the baby and that is that.
You could make it work because you have to. What’s the alternative? The heartbreaking procedure of knowing what they do to your baby. No thanks, I wouldn’t accept that. So everyone will just have to accept that there is a new baby coming.
I think you will cope with a new baby, because you can. Save like mad for 6 months. He may well have a new job by then. It will work out. Best of luck.
You are so conflicted in your own head. Maybe have a chat to a professional before breaking the news to anyone to figure out first what it is that YOU want to do. Never mind everyone else for now. You need to have a clear head first. Good luck xxx
Ive never met anyone who didnt regret having an abortion. I had an abortion years ago and i regret it every day.
Had my first at 40
Second at 43
Now pregnant at 45 with triplets
My parents had an unexpected pregnancy when mum was 42 and Dad was 51..... Dad was devastated, i was six at the time and i can remember him not talking for a week, which he had never done prior or since....... Anyway, they had the baby, adored him and ive never heard a word of regret from either of them.
I think you need to talk to your husband too. He might surprise you and want the child. But be prepared for the worst and your decision after the worst. Eg if the worst is he says he will leave you, will you keep it and raise it by yourself or will you terminate.
I’m so sorry that you are going through this. If your heart is against a termination please don’t do it. Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel, suspend your studies and work more if you can. Good luck
Best off luck, thinking about you.
Tell him once your 20 weeks and act surprised
I'm sorry I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to say I'm really sorry you have to face such a tough decision.
Good luck OP!
Hugs. I was in this situation, where my marriage was on the rocks and it would be my third. I was feeling like you. It even got to the point where hubby said he’d take the other two overseas and leave me with baby(it wasn’t to do with baby it was to do with marriage breaking down). Our baby turns 2 this Sunday. We’ve been through hell, but we’re back. If you think he’d want it to work but just doesn’t know how, then you have a chance.
If you do decide to go ahead with the pregnancy, and money is a major issue for considering a termination in the first place, when deep down you don't want to, explore this site for all the money saving options.
They have had some good threads of Ask SAHM where people have shared brilliant ideas for saving money, and getting what they need at minimal cost.
From preparing good nutritious meals cheap, to what and where to buy second hand at a fraction of the new cost.
And lots of articles on those subjects.
This will be useful whether you stay or go.
Being pushed into doing something that is against your values does stay with you, and fester, particularly when it is another human involved.
I am so grateful that I was never faced with this decision.
When I had been deserted by 2 husbands, both times when I was about 8 months pregnant, I took the step at 26 to have my tubes tied, so I would not get pregnant again, and have to bring up another child on my own.
Best decision I ever made !