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Lost my sex drive. Not interested in my husband. Should i consider sleeping with a women ?
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Married with two kids. Haven’t been interested in sex since our first baby. We used to have a fairly decent sexual relationship. I just don’t have the urge anymore. Any suggestions? Has anyone considered sleeping with another women ?
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5 years ago
I think your first step should be to find a specialist womens doctor, a female one. I have found them so much more interested, supportive, and useful. My issue was incontinence, but I got fantastic help. All my regular male GPs have ever said was "do your kegels", which is a complete waste of time when its really bad. I got a great fix, which did not require any surgery, and was free.
I got my life back basically after years of neglect and dismissal.
You don't want to waste your potential sex life.
Often hormones out of whack, and tiredness are the cause of low sex drive.
The female specialist doctors have much more exhaustive tests for female hormone levels than do regular GP's.
I got my life back basically after years of neglect and dismissal.
You don't want to waste your potential sex life.
Often hormones out of whack, and tiredness are the cause of low sex drive.
The female specialist doctors have much more exhaustive tests for female hormone levels than do regular GP's.
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5 years ago
What did she recommend for incontinence?
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5 years ago
There is a "Wave Brilliance Chair for Incontinence", that has been used in Europe for over 50 years.
Look it up on line.
You sit on it and it works your kegels in a way you could not do yourself.
They usually start you on 80% strength, because although it doesn't hurt, it sure gives you a big surprise when the contractions first happen. Some large medical practices have it available. it is heavily subsidised by medicare.
There are some tricks to getting the best effectiveness out of it. If you are interested I will give more detail. My incontinence was so bad I ended up having to leave my job because of it. I wish I had known about it years ago. it would have saved me years of misery and loss of income.
Look it up on line.
You sit on it and it works your kegels in a way you could not do yourself.
They usually start you on 80% strength, because although it doesn't hurt, it sure gives you a big surprise when the contractions first happen. Some large medical practices have it available. it is heavily subsidised by medicare.
There are some tricks to getting the best effectiveness out of it. If you are interested I will give more detail. My incontinence was so bad I ended up having to leave my job because of it. I wish I had known about it years ago. it would have saved me years of misery and loss of income.
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5 years ago
Now, nothing wrong with being gay or lesbian at all, but, I mean if the problem is your sex drive and not being attracted by your husband, what does going with women have to do with?
And if it was just about your sex drive it wouldn't be about not feeling attracted specifically to your husband and even considering women. Not accusing you, but you seem just confused to me, might need to talk with him and/or consider couple therapy. Could have always been bi, to a small extent and now fantasizing about women. It's not just men, having polygamous fantasies, try to include him, does he take care about himself?
And if it was just about your sex drive it wouldn't be about not feeling attracted specifically to your husband and even considering women. Not accusing you, but you seem just confused to me, might need to talk with him and/or consider couple therapy. Could have always been bi, to a small extent and now fantasizing about women. It's not just men, having polygamous fantasies, try to include him, does he take care about himself?
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5 years ago
If you’re thinking about cheating, perhaps it’s time to re evaluate your marriage
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5 years ago
Agreed
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5 years ago
From your question I have the impression that you have very little regard for your husband or how he feels about being rejected this way. You only seem to care about your own sex drive and ways for you to get sex. What does he say about all this? Does he know? Do you care? I suggest honesty towards him to start with. If you don't want him, set him free and grant him his happiness. Visit a swinger club if you have to, but don't shut him out of this decision. Can't imagine that he's happy about the situation, being rejected and all. How would you feel about him considering sleeping with other people? Have you thought of what kind of example you're setting for your children?
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5 years ago
Totally agree. There seems to be a deeper issue to be addressed here. Have you ever thought about therapy?
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5 years ago
It's not uncommon to feel this way, I'd say almost all of us have had some waves of not wanting to have sex or just flat our couldn't be stuffed. I don't think sleeping with anyone else male or female is a good plan to start with.
Try this - Might sound weird but buy some of that "horny goat weed" - google it. It's a herb that you can buy in pill form from Woolies or Coles or the pharmacy. It is used to revitalize sex drive among other things such as mental fatigue etc. Its all natural as its plant based, no nasty chemicals and relatively cheap. You'll find not only will your energy level pick up, your sex drive will too.
It's not some weird hippy drug that you smoke or anything, it's literally on the shelves at woolies.
Try this - Might sound weird but buy some of that "horny goat weed" - google it. It's a herb that you can buy in pill form from Woolies or Coles or the pharmacy. It is used to revitalize sex drive among other things such as mental fatigue etc. Its all natural as its plant based, no nasty chemicals and relatively cheap. You'll find not only will your energy level pick up, your sex drive will too.
It's not some weird hippy drug that you smoke or anything, it's literally on the shelves at woolies.
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5 years ago
Or go to a sex shop and see what they have available if that doesnt work.
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5 years ago
Agree with sex shop. Find something to spice stuff up try something new, explore your body alone and show or involve your partner. Never go elsewhere or cheat
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5 years ago
Um you don't have a sex drive but you're still keen to sleep with a woman? There's something wrong with this statement
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5 years ago
Bad idea. Think about the long term consequences for yourself and your kids of throwing your marriage away. Make an appointment with a sex therapist who can help you work through the causes and help you re-ignite the passion.