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I found my husbands secret instagram account.

Answered 28 days ago

I knew my husband had recently posted a picture of our baby daughter on his IG and while he was busy doing something in the other room, I looked at his old oppo phone. I assumed he was still logged on his IG account on this phone and when I opened IG I found his secret second account where he follows about 100 raunchy women and adult pages. I can't see that he's dm'd anyone but I've been very open about my super low body image. Knowing that he is looking at other naked women and liking or following certain women makes me really sad and just want to start harming myself. I know I'm over reacting and it's normal do r guys to watch porn and stuff. But it still makes me super depressed and now I have 0 confidence. I want to be a good role model for my daughter. Please give me some advice on how to fix this. Thank you.

P.s. my husband is actually really great and not a cheater. He has multiple phobes because he is a gamer. The only issue here is that I have the impossible expectation that he should only find me attractive and not anyone else.


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28 days ago
I know this post is nearly a month old and I although I don’t necessarily have “answers” or “solutions” for you, I just wanted to say to you that I don’t think you are over reacting at all nor should you ever feel you have to downplay how this makes you feel.
I am not going to say “this is cheating” etc etc but being in your position in my marriage, it sure does feel like it! Call me old-fashioned but I really do believe that this type of thing belongs between a man and his wife and the desire he is giving these other women, even if it is not real life and a fantasy, is something he should be giving you. You are worth it!
I just want to reach out and give you a big hug because I understand the pain you feel and this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. I hope you get through this and if you are able to find time, find videos, articles books podcasts etc that will help build yourself up and help you realise what a strong, beautiful woman you are. I hope you can find your voice and the courage to speak up. If you are not ok with this, it’s not ok!

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2 months ago
This is how it unravelled for me. Then I found the happy ending massage and the escorts. Then he told me addiction for years. There’s more to this sad to say

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2 months ago
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Hi OP - I would recommend speaking with your husband about your feelings and also seeking some professional advice from a mental health provider. We have several websites and hotlines available (if you are in Australia) to call for further advice on how to handle your situation. https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/health-hub/free-mental-health-services-available-in-australia/